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Welcome to Unsolicited Perspectives 🎙️🔥💥

Bruce Anthony: When keeping it real goes bad, sometimes you need to mind your own business and sometimes you don't need to make things about yourself. We gonna get into it. Let's get it.

Bruce Anthony: Welcome, first of all, welcome. This is Unsolicited Perspectives. I'm your host, Bruce Anthony. Here to lead the conversation in important events and topics that are shaping today's society. Join the conversation to follow us wherever you get your audio podcast. Subscribe to our YouTube channel for our video podcast and YouTube exclusive content rate review.

Like, comment, share, share with your friends, share with your family. Hell even share with your enemies. On today's episode, I'm gonna be dilly down a little bit and then I'm gonna be talking about this military parade, and then I'm going to do a, am I overreacting when somebody is dating somebody super religious, but that's enough of the [00:01:00] intro.

Let's get to the show.

Embracing My Flaws: The Real Talk on Stutters & Self-Love 🗣️💯✨

Bruce Anthony: I was hanging out with a good friend of mine yesterday and, um, she, she listens to the show. And as we were hanging out yesterday, I was having trouble saying a word I, for the life of me, cannot remember what the word I was having trouble saying, but I routinely have trouble saying words that have multiple syllables except for super casual.

Yep. I can't even say that word right now. It's getting my speech impediment is getting worse as I get older. And she was like, yeah, I've been noticing that you stumbled over your words, uh, you know, during the podcast. And I was like, well first of all, thank you for listening to the podcast. I really appreciate that you, you a real one and two.

Yes. That's authentically me. Like I always talk about being, being authentically yourself and. Authentically me is my speech impediment? I have a stutter. The [00:02:00] stutter is not what you guys think it is. I had to explain it to my friend yesterday. It's not like, well, sometimes I can't get words out, but it's, it's a repeating of things.

Like you'll, you'll say, I'll say, yeah, I'm going to go eat some cake, eat some cake. Like that's, that's a form of stuttering. And then I also also have a lisp. I got a big, thick ass tongue. Okay. And, and I have a lists that, uh, I hide really well, except for when I've been drinking. And then it comes out and, and, and this is who I am.

I'm never going to lie about who I am. I started this podcast for one, to introduce people to me. Not that I have that type of ego, but just me and, and, and try and introduce things that people that might not know about or don't know how to learn about stuff. Uh, just introduce that to an audience that might be receptive to it.

And you [00:03:00] guys have been receptive to it, and I'm eternally grateful for that. But. The lesson that I always say, and then the people that I have come on the show when I do interviews and me, me and my sister talk is like being authentically yourself and authentically I be messing up on words. Okay? Like I, I speak well as far as, you know.

Having the ability to stand up and give speeches, like, yes, I'm talking into a camera right now, talking into a microphone. There's nobody else in here but me, but I'm talking to thousands of people out there. I can do it when those thousands of eyeballs are on me. I've never really had stage fright.

However, I'm gonna mess up on words and it wouldn't be authentic if I edited out all the mistakes because that's not. Who I am. I'm not this perfect person. I'm perfectly imperfect, and I just want you guys to, I [00:04:00] don't know, be be perfectly imperfect in yourselves and not be embarrassed of your imperfections.

So that's the reason why I leave all my flub up on on the episodes. This is the reason why I lean into it. My sister starts joking on me. I am not somebody who takes themself that seriously. I love being joked on, so especially if it's funny, if it's not funny, like step your game up. But especially if it's funny, come on with it.

Like I'm not going to shy away from that and I wish people would stop taking themselves so seriously and lighten up as well. So yes, I'm gonna leave the ahs and ahs and I don't do a lot of ums and ahs, but. You know, I'm gonna leave them in for the most part, and whenever I flub up, yeah, I'm gonna leave it in because that's who I am.

And I will never lie to you guys. I'm gonna always be authentically me, mess ups and all I. That's not [00:05:00] really what I wanted to talk about today. Um, there's a lot of things that I'm gonna get to today, and this is gonna be a shorter episode because me and my sister filmed an extremely long episode, last episode.

So when I say short, like 45 minutes, 50 minutes without the intros and everything, but something came across my timeline and y'all know how much I love talking about stuff that come across my timeline.

Wild Kids in Public: A Parent's Responsibility 👶😤

Bruce Anthony: And there was this woman. That was in a CVS or Rite Aid, one of those type of drugstore and their child, I don't know, four, five, maybe six years old is just going nuts.

Now, I'm not talking about a temper tantrum, like those things happen when little kids have temper tantrums in the store. I don't look at the parents and be like, yo, you need to get your kid. Kids are going to have temper tantrums because they have all these emotions that they can't. They don't know how to explain, you know, it's just like that movie inside Out.

Like they, they have a multitude of emotions that they, they don't know how to express, so it [00:06:00] comes out and crying. I would be extremely agitated if I was trying to express myself. I couldn't get it out. I might throw a temper tantrum as well. I don't ever get upset at parents when kids do that. That's not what I'm talking about.

In this case, in this scenario, this little badass kid, and I'm gonna say that the kid was bad because it was this little badass kid was taking stuff outta the shelves, throwing it all around the store, being loud, being disruptive, and the mama wasn't doing too much. And oh, before you ask me. Yes, the mama was black.

I know a lot of people wanna say, well, who, what was the mama implying that black kids won't act up. Black kids act up as well. Every kid will act up and every parent I understand and nowadays has difficult time disciplining kids because there's a lot of things you can and cannot do that in my generation, the millennial, older millennial or younger [00:07:00] Gen X, whatever the hell I am, uh, generation had we got our asses whooped.

Often, thoroughly, often, and thoroughly. So we didn't really show out in public like that, but for these new parents, and the parent looked like it was, she was around my age, maybe even older, may might have been a grandma, but she said it was her child. What? What can the mother really do? And so the mother was banned.

The, the store manager came up to her and was like, Hey, look, you can't get in this stuff. You gotta leave. You gotta leave 'cause your child is unruly and you're not doing anything to stop it and you've already been banned before. I don't know why you up in here, like, you need to leave. This is disruptive.

And she's like, I can't get my stuff. He's like, no, you gotta go. You can't control him. And, and the woman was like, what am I supposed to do if I lay her hand on him, I'm going to jail. And. This little kid said something to the effect, to the store manager, Hey, [00:08:00] shut the F up and I'm not. He said the F word and it was clear like this child had said it before.

Frequently with no speech impediment. It was clear and the store manager kind of looked at Mom because this is little kid completely disrespected and an adult, and that's something that, that we were always taught to not do. Yes, sir. No, sir. Uh, yes ma'am. No ma'am. Thank you. Please like common courtesy.

Common courtesy, respect, give respect for people, and not this old idea where you gotta respect your elders. I believe that you do until they become disrespectful. But just respect people in general, no matter what age you are. This little kid was bad. And you know, people were in the comments saying, you know, I don't know if she should have been kicked outta the store.

You know, blase, blase. And I'm like, no. [00:09:00] You gotta go. Look, I don't have any kids, but I'm, I've been somebody's child. You know, me and my sister always say that I don't have any kids, but I've been somebody's child and I am a godfather. So I know that's not quite the same thing. But, you know, and I think parents, this is gonna come, this is gonna be controversial.

This is gonna be controversial, but this is something I've been thinking a lot about. It's something that I've been sitting in thought thinking a lot about. And it's not only just from this instance, it's from the instance of, uh, I saw a a, a Vice article. This guy got pulled over by the cops because he had.

I-E-A-S-S on his, uh, on his car windshield or his car back windshield. And the cop pulled him over and the cop said, you know, if my 6-year-old kid saw that and asked me questions, I'd be furious. And I had to answer the question and the guy sued the police department for getting arrested the first Amendment.

And, uh, I think it's [00:10:00] still pending, but I think he's gonna win that case. And my, my answer to all of that, to every time parents said, you know, you know, I don't feel like my kids should be forced to see that. You hear that with transgender, with the attacks on transgender and drag queens, I don't feel like my kid should be forced to to see that.

And my response to all of that is, I didn't tell you to have a kid. That's your responsibility. I didn't have any say in it. I didn't have any say, whether you decided to have a kid or not. You decided. You wanted to have a kid, and God bless you. I love kids. Bringing them into this world is a beautiful thing.

I love children. I don't want this to come off as some situation where I'm bashing children because I'm not. I love children. But you decided. To have those kids, it is your responsibility to raise 'em. You're not going to infringe on me and my space [00:11:00] because you decided to do something just as I wouldn't expect you to be, uh, you know, forced to do situations because of decisions that I made.

You made a decision to have children, it is your responsibility to, to raise children. Shielding them from the real world does absolutely nothing. Of course, there are times with conversations that you don't want to have with kids at a certain age, but we as adults need to stop discrediting children like they can't understand things.

The more and more I step on the outside and I watch all my friends' kids and I, and I watch my little nieces and nephews growing up. Kids are so observant. They pick up, they watch their learning. There's a reason why it's easier to teach a child a foreign language than it is an adult, right? Like they are absorb, they absorb things at such a fast rate.

[00:12:00] They can understand a lot better than what we give them credit for. You don't have to talk. Hey little, you don't have to do that little kid talk with kids. You could actually have a conversation with a kid. It's not an intellectual conversation that you would have with a scholar. It might be a conversation that's on the intellectual level as an adult.

'cause there's a lot of adults out here. That's stupid. The point I'm trying to make is stop. Acting like your kids can't understand complex situ situations. Kids have way more empathy and emotional intelligence of and acceptance than adults have because their thought processes haven't been jaded.

Explain it to your kid when it's out outside in the world, if they can understand it. If they can't, maybe you say, we will table this conversation later when it's you're a little bit older to understand. But I am not going to sacrifice my life because you decided to do something and that something was to have a kid.

I know it's a whole [00:13:00] community to raise a kid and I'm all for that, but you're not going to infringe on me because of something that you did. And so this young, this woman that was in here with this badass kid in the store. Should have been kicked out. I'm sorry. Like I'm trying to get some, some, some products.

You know what I'm saying? I'm just running into the drugstore real fast. I gotta get something real fast and I don't need to be coming in here if you can't control your kid. That also goes for planes. A lot of these parents out here is like, just let the kid express themself. I have all for letting kids express themselves, but not at the inconvenience to everybody else.

Like you wouldn't do that as an adult. You wouldn't give, you wouldn't do something and be inconvenient to everybody else. So why would you allow a kid to do it in inappropriate situations like a plane where you're trapped and you can't go anywhere? Or a restaurant where I'm trying to enjoy myself and your little kid is throwing fri [00:14:00] fries all over the place, making noises.

I'm not talking about little kid stuff. I'm talking about when they're being disruptive, like extremely disruptive. Little kids. Being little kids, I'm all for that. I'm talking about when they're being disruptive. Mine pay attention to what I'm saying here. So yes, this woman should be barred, should be banned, and I don't know what the answer is, is disciplining kids.

First of all, you let it get to this point where this little kid. Will say, shut the F up to an adult in such clarity. Like this kid says it once or twice a day, you, there's a problem with your parenting. There are multiple ways disciplining to discipline kids without beating them. You ain't gotta beat kids.

And what I mean by beating kids, I don't mean, you know, really beating kids. I mean like giving 'em a whooping and stuff, which is not beating them. Beating them is something completely different. You know, penny from Good Times would beat. That was beaten. [00:15:00] The Jacksons were beaten. Arnold got a spanking one time.

I'm talking about Arnold from different strokes. And if I'm aging myself, okay, I'm old Learn pop culture references. But yes, you know these parents out here, you gotta understand that's not our responsibility to raise our, raise your kids, it's yours. It's your responsibility. You chose it. I didn't have a choice.

And your decision. You chose it. It's not my responsibility to handle your business. I try the best I can to make sure that I don't force kids to have to grow up early by my existence, uh, but I'm not gonna minimize my existence to help you raise your kid your responsibility. But I'm not gonna end off that because I love the kids.

Y'all know I do love the kids.

From Broken Bike to Beautiful Gesture: Faith in Humanity Restored ❤️🚲

Bruce Anthony: And I saw this heartwarming star story that that's, this is how I'm going to end the segment because I thought this story was really, really beautiful. And it deals with kids. [00:16:00] So there was a kid that had an old bicycle. Uh, the bicycle had no brakes. Which is dangerous in and of itself, but we all been there and done been kids that, you know, did stuff that was wild, mad, crazy.

So the bike had no brakes and he hit a car and dented the car. The owner saw the dent, I mean, justifiably so the owner was upset but not so upset that he didn't do this. A few days later, he presented that very kid with a new bike. Now that owner could have done so many different things, but that owner said, this kid is out here.

And yeah, he dented my car. And yeah, I'm not happy about that, but it could have been so much worse. This kid could have been riding his bicycle in the street, unable to stop, ran into something, ran off the road, got hit by a car. Instead of being so [00:17:00] upset that his car was dead, he looked at the bigger picture and said, let me get this kid a new bike.

These gestures give me so much hope for humanity because lemme tell you something, what people really love to do is complain more than they love to praise. So it sounds, and it feels so loud. It feels like everybody is just a straight jerk, but there are people out there that do have big hearts and kind souls and will do these type of sweet things for people.

And you know what? That kid wouldn't be an unruly, that kid wouldn't be a disruptive. The kid was just riding a bike. Maybe his parents didn't have the means to get him a bike with breaks. Maybe the parents didn't even realize the kid had a bike with no breaks. 'cause that's a separate issue that Parenting.

Okay. Parenting. But yeah, man, look, not all the time do you have to [00:18:00] come down on kids and not all the time do you have to respond to things negatively. This was a good gesture and it warmed my heart to see it, and I love to see humanity still exists. Kind heart still exists. But one more story before I, before I get out of this first segment, I said I wasn't gonna do a, a full, full show, but I had to address this.

Live Streaming Gone Wrong: Mind Your Business! 📱💢

Bruce Anthony: So there are protests that are going in LA I cannot stress enough protests. There are always some people. That are gonna wild out during the protest and cause a ruckus and see opportunities to loot. Rob steal always going to be the case in any type of situation when you're celebrating championship victories, people are out there celebrating the championship victory, and then things get destroyed and then things get stolen.

Well, in LA there was a [00:19:00] streamer that was recording a bunch of people looting a jewelry store. So he's live streaming these people looting a jewelry store in la. They turned around and said, Hey man, what you doing? And jumped him. They jumped him. They beat him down. Now, why is that funny to me? Mind your own business.

There's nothing wrong with live streaming, live recording, but don't be no snitch. They out here looting. I'm not condoning that at all. Okay? First of all. Not condoning that at all. But what I'm not going to do is live record people committing criminal acts because I don't want no smoke. It is clear these people are out here, don't care about life.

Now I, that's an exaggeration, but they are, it is clear that they are out here reeling to risk it to loot this jewelry store. You think they not going to whoop your ass because you wanna live stream it Dummy. When keeping it real goes wrong, you need to mind your [00:20:00] own business and let them people do what they going to do and just keep on walking.

You can live stream something else. You can just be like, Hey man, it's wild out here. You don't have to show the particulars. That beat down that was on you.

Bruce Anthony: Have you ever had a situation where there was an ally that you had to whatever cause or belief that you believed in, but you didn't want this person to be your ally because they naturally were the antithesis of everything that you stand for? Basically you had an ally that you didn't want. And it is like, nah, I don't feel good if that's what that person, if that person is agreeing with me, I, I'm sure there are a lot of people out there, whether it's a coworker, family member or whatnot, that somebody is agreeing with you on a certain situation and you just like, no, I don't want you agreeing with me.

[00:21:00] That's the case right now with, uh, president Donald Trump.

Military Parade Drama: Patriotism vs Politics 🎖️⚔️

Bruce Anthony: What do I mean by that? So today I'm filming. As we speak, I am right outside of Washington dc This will be airing after, uh, the parade has already happened, but the, I'm filming it before the parade has started. And so I don't know what's going to happen out there.

I know they have walled up DC I know a lot of people that live here either got the hell outta town or are staying inside. Today, I was out on the streets earlier. There are people out, I don't know what the turnout is gonna be. There's supposed to be a thunderstorm and flash, uh, flood, uh, warnings that's going on for tonight, and I hope it does rain, but I have to say.

I support the military. I support, I, I have always supported the military, al. I'm from the streets. I believe in tooling up. I believe in [00:22:00] having a strong force is always good to protect yourself. I have never. Ever been against the military and more importantly, I support veterans. I support the troops. Now, when you get into people saying, I support the military, what they more than likely mean is they support the troops and stuff as long as it doesn't affect them.

'cause they're not really out here fighting for VA benefits like that. They will actively try to cut VA benefits, but say they still support the military. You know how I feel about hypocrisy. I'm not gonna get into that. But I support the military, always have, always have support. The military, so the army is turning 250 years old.

There should absolutely be a parade for the army. There should absolutely be a celebration for the army. I am all for constant celebration for our armed forces. They do the things that I'm unwilling to do. I will never talk [00:23:00] badly, even when these soldiers and veterans. Don't align with me politically. I am.

Look, they fought for the freedom to believe and say to a certain extent whatever they want, and they're more, they are. I, look, I wouldn't be a soldier personally. Will I fight if I have to? Yeah, but I'm not just going to volunteer. That, that's, that's not me. So I have so much respect for everybody that has interested in military.

A lot of my family members have been in the military, Navy, army, all of that. Okay. But Donald Trump, ugh. Right? Like, that's just how I feel. Like, ugh. Like he wants to throw a parade. He's saying it is to celebrate the army turning 250. It just so happens that he's also turning 79 on [00:24:00] that day. So is the parade really for the army or is it really for him and he's using under the guise of who?

No, we're celebrating the troops and we're celebrating the army. 'cause this is a man that's, you know, talked really poorly about soldiers and veterans. He has. So I don't know how much respect he really has for the military. He has respect for force and power. He has respect for those things or as a respect or admiration or, uh, it could be all of those things.

It could be all of those things. All of those things can be true. But, but we all know this is not a celebration of the army turning 250. It's a celebration of Donald Trump turning 79, and I've seen clips of them practicing for the parade. Or I guess it would be a military parade [00:25:00] and it looks very North Korean communist.

Type of Nazi type of parades, the way they are marching and things of that nature and the, and the, the whole premise. It doesn't seem like a parade. It seems like a, well, a military parade and, and yes, the army is the military, but it doesn't look like it's a celebration. It looks like it's a show of force.

And this is what I mean, like, obviously it is something that we should be celebrating. The Army's turning 250 years old and it's also flag day, you know, I mean, but, uh, to me the, the more, the special thing, it's the Army's turning 250 years old. I would love to celebrate that. I, there are so many soldiers out there that when I was out early in the street and, you know, I wanted to say thank you.

I do want to thank him, but also I'm just like, ah, [00:26:00] are you here? 'cause you want to be here. Are you here? 'cause you have to be here. Like, you know what I mean? Like you want to celebrate them, but the celebration is tainted by having it on his birthday and it just so coincides, you know? But he didn't do this any other time when he was president.

Right. And granted, you only turn 250 once. Okay, I get it. This is a huge celebration. It is just, uh, I just, it makes me sick, sick to my stomach that it falls on his birthday and he's doing this big show of force all the while he's sending Marines to the LA and you've got the Governor of Missouri that's, uh, uh, initiated the National Guard because they say that they're gonna have protests in Missouri.

Right. And, and, and Missouri is a, the governor is a [00:27:00] Republican governor, right? And, uh, there's a report that the Marines arrested somebody in LA and I'm just like, uh, this is a slippery slope using the military for domestic issues. That's not really what you, that's not what the military is supposed to be used for.

And typically throughout history. When the military is used for domestic issues, it's an authoritative government. Now people are gonna say, there's so many, there's so many dictators that were communists and socialists. Yeah. I can show you a lot of dictators too that were fascists. While there was Joseph Stalin who was originally aligned with Adolf Hitler, Stalin being a communist.

They were also aligned with Mussolini in Italy who was a fascist. [00:28:00] Please, please, ladies and gentlemen, open up a book and realize that fascism and socialism and communism are opposites. I used to love it when they used to say, we're, uncle Obama is a fascist socialist. Communist can't be that. You can't be that.

This isn't a situation where both things can be true. Those can't, those can't be. So we're obviously not, we would like to be a socialist country and in a lot of ways we are. We have programs that are socialists, but this show of military force is turning us into a fascist country, and that's not who we are.

And I see too many people giving into it. Elon just talked tough a couple weeks ago. I talked about the breakup. He was talking tough a couple weeks ago and backed down. You know, people backed down to perceived power. [00:29:00] If it wasn't for the Jedi, the emperor Emperor would've maintained, the death Star would've been built, and they would've been unchecked.

Power Palpatine would've had unlimited power. You had to have rebels to check power. So the pro, there's going to be some protests out there today for this parade, and they're not protesting and they might be, but I, I believe that the protesters are not protesting the military. They're protesting Donald Trump and his show of force for the military and his misuse.

Of the military and how much this costs.

Parade or Power Play? My Torn Heart on DC's Big Show 🥁🤔

Bruce Anthony: There are people here in DC who have been losing their jobs because of Doge and the cuts that this administration is doing. Meanwhile, they're spending tens of hundreds, tens, or hundreds of millions of dollars on this parade, which once again, I'm conflicted in because [00:30:00] I believe the Army should be celebrated.

But because it's him, I naturally have to be against it. But then that puts me in a position to be against supporting the army, celebrating 250 years. You see what I said at the top? When you have an ally that you don't want, that's backing up something that you believe in, but you don't want it because you know, ah, it's coming with some strings attached.

I don't want that. And that's how I feel about this whole thing. They've, they've locked down dc I've got to go from my house in Northern Virginia. I'm three miles away from the Pentagon. I've gotta go to my house to Maryland tomorrow. There is no way that I can drive. Roads are closed and cut off, even though the parade will be over.

Tonight, the city won't go back to normal for a few days, so roads are cut off. So I'm like, how am I supposed to get to [00:31:00] Maryland? I've gotta take the Metro, but there's gonna be delays, and I know there's gonna be a bunch of the MAGA folks that's gonna be out here, and I'm not trying to have it Now. I've been getting some reports from people that live close to the hotels that normally would be housing, people that would be coming out to celebrate MAGA and Trump.

They're saying that they're not really seeing it, that the airports haven't been like extremely busy.

Saluting Soldiers, Side-Eyeing Leaders: The Ultimate Patriot's Dilemma 🎖️🦅⚡

Bruce Anthony: So I don't know what the turnout is gonna be, but also I kind of want the turnout to be good. 'cause once again, we're celebrating the army. That's what this is supposed to be about. So I don't want the army to feel disrespected, those soldiers that are being forced to march or maybe not forced, maybe they volunteer because once again, it's a celebration of an organization that they are part that's a good organization.

It's a defender for our freedoms, so we should be supporting it. It's just [00:32:00] being run by the evil empire. So that's, that's the conflict that I have. And to, and to not participate in this because I'm not, I'm staying inside the crib. I'm filming this show and then I'm going to have my Saturday fun day.

'cause Sunday fun day, I'm spending with my father 'cause of Father's Day. I'm staying in the house. Me and me and my good friend that went out yesterday, she was like, you wanna go out Friday or Saturday? I was like, man, let's go out Friday so we can stay inside the house on Saturday. Because I'm not trying to be out in these streets.

'cause I'm not trying to have no conflict.

Who Am I? Navigating Identity in a Divided America 🧠🇺🇸🧩

Bruce Anthony: I already live in DC Anytime I see the red hats and you know, you see from a lot of people that come outta town. Right. And, and I live in. Area that's kind of touristy. So we always having those bust full of kids that wear MAGA hats and I'm just like, you don't even, I know I said earlier that kids can understand complex situations, but [00:33:00] these kids don't even understand what they're doing when they're wearing that hat.

They are listening to their parents that I know because I did. Right. I am I a democrat because my parents were a democrat. Probably. But also as I got older and began to think for myself, I was like, yeah, this is just a party that I align with. 'cause they're the party of doing right by people and trying to help people.

And that's all I ever tried to do in my entire life, is do right by people, respect people and help them when I can. So yeah, I'm conflicted. I would love to go out there and see the parade of soldiers and veterans. Celebrating 250 years in the Army, but I can't because the person running the celebration is the head of the evil empire.

And this [00:34:00] is the, the, the conflict of this crisis of conflict that a lot of people find themselves in. I'm sure there's a lot of soldiers in the army that, that of course, wanna be celebrated, but are happy that he's directing the celebration. I, I'm, I'm almost positive that that's the case. It's like your worst enemy throwing you a birthday party.

Yeah, you wanna celebrate your birthday, but you don't want them to throw the party for you. I'm gonna throw you a surprise party, man. I hate you. I don't want you at my party. Stay away from my party, or I don't get to have a party. I might not, I might not want that party then. Then let me just not have a party if you gonna be the one throwing that party.

And that's a sad, that's a sad commentary, that you wouldn't want a celebration of yourself because of the person throwing it. You don't want nothing to do [00:35:00] with them. That's how I feel about this situation. I would love to go out there and celebrate, but what does it say if I'm going out there to celebrate this today?

Is he gonna think I'm a backer of him, that I'm celebrating him this? Sure hell not. There's nothing about him that I would ever celebrate, so I can't support it. I can't be out there. But then that means that I can't support. The army, the soldiers or those veterans. Here's the thing, there's a constant conversation that's had with certain communities dealing with the black community, saying that they're not patriotic.

And I would say it's really hard to. [00:36:00] Love something that has been so abusive to you, but yet we still do. We do love this country for the good. We do. There are so many of us that are service members, that are veterans that have fought, died, lost limbs for this country. We want. To drape ourselves in the flag.

We just don't like a lot of times who's representing that flag. That's the real, and I know I don't speak for all the black community, but I can guarantee you the majority of of the black community feels this very same way.

It's like rooting for your rapists. You may not like that analogy, but that's what it is. That. Was that a tough [00:37:00] pill to swallow? Was that tough for you to hear? Yeah. That's our reality and that's what I'm faced with today. The fact that I want, I want to celebrate the army. Like I said, I have family members that have been in the army.

I have decorated family members from the Navy. I got a lot of family members that's been in the armed forces. I wanna celebrate the Army turn at 250 years old. That's dope. I would love to go out there and drape myself in the flag because I have family members who have bled sweat for this country and outta respect to them and respect for everybody else that has done that.

I wanna go show them that I appreciate them, but I can't do that. I can't do that because the Evil [00:38:00] Empire has decided to do the celebration and it coinciding with the Evil Empire's birthday. So it comes off as a huge birthday celebration, and especially the way that is being directed, it's being directed like a dictator would direct a military parade.

Can't support that. Support the. Support. The hell outta the troops. Support the hell out of the veterans. I can't support what's being done right now.

Bruce Anthony: All right guys. For the last segment I went to, my favorite social media site. That's like, that's right. Reddit. And y'all know I love Reddit. Reddit. Reddit. Because people put their business out there on the street. And because I'm so messy, there is always a Reddit story that I can [00:39:00] find to talk about.

'cause I'm like, how the hell are you in this situation? And I love going to it because people tell their business. And like I said. I'm messy and, and I need to clarify something because somebody commented when I said I was messy, that that implied that I'm messy. Personally, I'm not. I'm not toxic or messy anymore.

I haven't been that for 10 to 15 years, okay? I'm not toxic or messy. Personally. I'm messy, and when people give me gossip, I love to hear it. Y'all are too. That's the reason why reality television blew up. Y'all are messy too. Y'all love gossip. This is the reason why Gossip Columns always popular. Gossip magazine.

Gossip TV shows. People love gossip. People love learning about other people's lives. Here's the thing, when I learn about other people's lives, I don't really judge 'em, not really not judge [00:40:00] 'em, as I would look bad upon them. I might judge 'em and be like, man, that was stupid. But I'm not holding that against them because we all do stupid stuff.

I, myself included, I have put myself in a lot of dumb situations that I knew were going to be dumb, and I did it anyway. So what we, that's human nature, right? So I'm not judging from that standpoint, and I'm not personally messy. Like y'all don't really, I have stories of things that happened to my life. I love to tell the stories, but by and large, I don't be having drama in my personal life.

I just don't, 'cause I don't really do anybody wrong and I won't tolerate anybody doing me wrong. So my personal life isn't messy. However, I am messy. 'cause I love hearing gossip. And when I came across this Reddit story, I was just like, Ooh, this is another good one. And I wanted to share it on the show. So I'm gonna read it to you.

And then I'm gonna talk about it. Let's go.

Dating Disasters: When Religion & Red Flags Collide on Reddit 💔🙏🚩

Bruce Anthony: [00:41:00] I'm a 30-year-old female. I started talking to this guy, a 33-year-old male from a dating site. We started talking yesterday, June 12th. We talked on the site for a little bit and then started texting. I thought he was pretty cool in our conversations. Were natural and comfortable.

He then started being a little pushy about wanting to hurry up and get into a relationship. Talked about kissing and sex. Obviously red flags, but I told him we have to get to know each other first and that topic is off limits until we get to that point. He backed off and things went back to normal-ish, I guess, since it was literally been less than a day.

Anyway, today we were just talking about random stuff, asking each other questions as one does. He then asked me if I'm religious, totally an okay question, and I told him I wasn't. The text is how this, the text that I'm gonna read in a, in a little bit is how it went. So many people in my family and my friends say not to let that [00:42:00] kind of stuff ruin relationships.

After the last text, I told him to watch a religious deconstruction video so he could learn why I'm not religious. Now he's saying, well, maybe I'm not religious either, and let me make it up to you. Am I overreacting or should I just block this guy? So that's her initial intro of what's going on. And so now I'm going to read the text that they were, that they were going back and forth with.

Uh, so this is the guy, I'm starting off with the guy and then I'm gonna follow up with what the girl said. So woman said, excuse me, do you go to church? I'll definitely, oh, do you go to church? I'll definitely think about it and know not religious. Well, could you go with me? That's something I'd really have to think about.

What can I ask if you believe I'm not religious, what can you think about becoming religious? I've been through religious stuff my entire life and no, I [00:43:00] can't why I like you and that's important to me. Sorry. I'm not okay with becoming religious for someone. Well, can you just think about it? No, and I don't appreciate you trying to force me.

Why are you being so difficult? I'm not LOL. I'm allowed to not be religious, just like you are allowed to be religious. I'll work on you. Okay. I guess I'd be happy if we could just go to church together on occasion. I am uncomfortable with you trying to make me religious and saying you still are going to try.

I'm not sure if I can keep talking to you. If that's how you're going to be. Well, I don't wanna see you go to hell. Can you just hear me out? Whoa, dude, that's crazy to say to someone that's not okay at all. I will absolutely not hear you out. You can either keep your beliefs to yourself or not talk to me.

I'm very serious. She wants to know. She is [00:44:00] overreacting in those texts. Once again, she says that her family says, you know, you can't ruin relationships over stuff like this. Once again, uh, this has all been in one day. This is the first day, so in the first day he's brought up sex, kissing and sex, and in the same day he's bringing up.

Will you go to church with me? Well, I don't want you to go to hell, and she's asking us if she's overreacting, if she should block the guy. Ma'am, I cannot stress this enough.

Match Your Energy: The Secret to Relationship Success ⚡️💑

Bruce Anthony: I feel like this is a common thing that I talk about when it comes to dating and relationships. Energies need to match. I went out on a date with a woman.

Uh, probably about a year ago and [00:45:00] chemistry was there dope person to talk to. Um, attractive physical chemistry was there as well. I mean, we didn't, you know, we didn't, you know, that, but we, you know, we kissed and it was magnetic. There was a pull to each other, both intellectually and physically. There was a pull, I had to take a step back and say, okay, let me look at the situation, do our energies match?

And in a lot of ways, they did match, like I said, intellectually and physically, energies absolutely matched. But when I stopped looking at it from a micro and started looking at it from a macro level, looking at it at a bigger picture, I realized that I. That our vibes, our energy weren't aligned. And which vibes of energy was I talking, [00:46:00] am I talking about?

So I absolutely believe that we could have gone on more dates, ended up dating, ended up in a relationship. And how long could that relationship gone? Could have gone for a long time. Could have gone for a long time. I could have actually, actually been in a long-term relationship with this woman. However, our views of what we see for the future don't align.

This particular person very much looked at money as the be all, end all goal, and I'm not knocking anybody who want to get their paper up, who don't wanna get their paper up. Everybody should want to get their paper up. Having your paper up is fun. Having your paper up alleviate some stresses in your life, right?

That's what money does. When people say money can't buy you happiness. It can't buy you [00:47:00] happiness, it can buy you. A relief on certain stressors. That's not happiness. No. That's just relieving certain stressors. So the actual money doesn't give you happiness. It gives you relief, but relief is not happiness.

Okay. I learned this a very, very long time ago. I used to, and I've just recently stopped and when I say just recently stopped, like within the last three years, I just recently stopped doing impulse buys. Because I would say I would get fixated on certain things. Prime example, uh, uh, recently, the beginning of this year, I was like, I got, I want a new couch.

My couch is perfectly fine right now, but I was fixated on, I wanted a new couch, one to one. I wanted a new couch. I wanted a new couch. I had to stop myself and say, why would I spend the money on a new couch when I have a perfectly good couch? There's no just five a reason for wanting to get a new couch.

The reason why I want to get a new couch is because I think it would look nicer and it would make me happier. And it would look nice. It wouldn't make me happier for a short period of time because then there would [00:48:00] be something else that I needed to do to make myself happy. We talked about the happiness level.

Everybody has a default happiness level. No matter what happens to your life, good or bad, you will revert back to that default happiness level. So no matter what you give yourself or get yourself, you're going to go back to that default. I realized, I said, you know, I'm not gonna get that couch. I would rather use that money to my trip for New Orleans, or going out to see my cousin in Vegas that I've been talking about, going to see, or going out to la uh, to LA to visit some friends, right?

There's other ways that I could use that money that would be more meaningful, that would genuinely give me happiness and long-term memories. I'm finally just at almost 45. Finally, getting to that point, money isn't a big deal to me. Not because I have a lot of it, but because I know it will relieve stress, right?

[00:49:00] Because, you know, I'm not worried about bills. So money is definitely dope and I do try to get my money up. That's not my focus though. My focus on is creating memories that I know those memories. Will make me happy temporarily and then when I look back on them can bring me continuous happiness, right?

That's what I'm focused on. I'm focused on those moments. Money is not my driving force. Money was her driving force. My driving force is happiness, memories, moments. Hers was money. Not saying that she doesn't like having moments and memories. But they were just different. And at a certain point, those two diverging arrows were gonna cross and it was going to be a conflict.

And I'm not compromising on what [00:50:00] my goal is as far as achieving happiness and moments. My goals will never be to focus on getting that money. So I knew in the long run that was gonna be a point of contention. Okay. I said all of that to say this. If something as simple as that energy is not matching, what the hell do you think is going to be the case when one person is super religious and the other person isn't religious?

Which by the way, this young man, I could call him that 'cause he's 33 years old. Is not religious because if he was religious and he was so fixated on not going to hell and he was a man of God, he wouldn't be talking about kissing and sex on the first day of meeting this person on a dating site. He's one of those hypocritical Christians or hypocritical religious people.

I don't know if he's a Christian or not. Just say religious. [00:51:00] He's one of those hypocritical religious people. So there's conflict in that in and of itself. But when one person is religious and the other person is not, and one is trying to push their ideals onto the other, it's gonna be conflict. You know, the one thing that has always had wars and battles and fights since the beginning of time, religion.

Religion, people in the same religion. What I mean in Christianity has so many different umbrellas. Look down upon each other. I had somebody the other day tell me a story. They are a Southern Baptist and they were looking down upon Catholics. 'cause they said, Catholics don't read the Bible. I said, where are you getting that from?

I was like, where are you getting that from? Well, just back in the day, a lot of people couldn't read. I said, how does that apply to now? Where they're just told what to believe? I was like. You are told what to believe. Well, I read the Bible. Who says that you understand what you're reading. [00:52:00] What sense does that make?

Thi this is a Christian talking about another Christian and it's in every faith and every faith. There are different denominations and, and they don't always get along. There is conflict just in, even if you believe in the same God, there's conflict. If you. Are religious and the other person is not religious and one is trying to force the other to believe what they believe.

Yeah. Now you need to move on and on top of that, this is still just the first day. I can't stress that or not enough. They just matched June 12th right now. Right now it is June 14th. Okay. They just matched June 12th and you are already putting something in the Am I overreacting? Reddit. Yes. No, you're not overreacting.

You should block this person. And I don't even know why you needed to get to this point. That's how desperate people are for dating nowadays. Uh, you don't wanna be alone. Yeah, [00:53:00] be alone until you find the right person to match with you. And for you, hypocrites out there, stop being a hypocrite. Can you stop please?

Because this person is definitely a hypocrite. God, I just don't, I saw a meme and it said. I did not realize that the older I get, the more I was going to realize people are dumb. And yeah, it has really been an eye-opening experience. The older I get to realize people are just dumb. They just dumb. Wow. No.

So my advice to you, young lady, if you happen to be watching the show is that you, you know, I blocked a person. I don't believe in blocking unless somebody is harassing you. But you could just say, this isn't gonna work out for me. I wish you the best of luck considering the fact that you were talking about sex, kissing, relationships, and religion all in the [00:54:00] first day of y'all matching.

That's just crazy. Yo, people have some crazy situations out there. I don't do it. And I said, I'm not messy. I don't deal with stuff like that. I bounce. That's crazy. Ah, woo. These stories, but I love it. Keep 'em coming. Don't, I hope that subreddit never goes down. Brings me so much joy to be that messy.

Real Talk: Stay True to Your Beliefs 💫💯

Bruce Anthony: But on that note, ladies and gentlemen, what am I gonna leave you with?

If you have a crisis of conscious because you believe in something, but you don't like your allies.

Don't change what you believe in. Believe in what you believe in. You just don't have to celebrate it with the people that are your allies that you don't want 'em to be. But don't change your beliefs. Be who you are, even when what [00:55:00] you agree with and what you believe is aligned with the person that you hate.

But on that note, I want to thank everybody for listening. I wanna thank you for watching, and until next time, as always, I'll holler.

Woo. That was a hell of a show.

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