July 11, 2025

From Gold Cards to Red Flags: Wealth, Privilege & Dating Gone Wrong

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From Gold Cards to Red Flags: Wealth, Privilege & Dating Gone Wrong

Dive into this episode of "Unsolicited Perspectives" with Bruce Anthony and Jay Aundrea as they serve up spicy takes on modern dating, the wild world of "golden visas," and the real difference between being rich and being wealthy. From hilarious dream-fueled show ideas to jaw-dropping dating stories (including a guy who sent an Excel invoice for dates!), this episode is packed with relatable moments, sharp social commentary, and laugh-out-loud banter.

We break down why Americans are chasing golden visas, what it really means to have privilege, and how the 1% buy their freedom. Plus, we get real about relationship expectations, money talk, and the pitfalls of moving too fast in love. Whether you're here for the tea, the laughs, or the life lessons, this episode has something for everyone who loves unfiltered conversations about the world we live in. #moderndating #goldenvisa #WealthVsRich #Privilege #unsolicitedperspectives

About The Guest(s):
Bruce Anthony is the host of "Unsolicited Perspectives," a podcast that dives into current events, social issues, and candid conversations with humor and insight. He is joined by his sister, Jay Aundrea, who brings her own sharp wit and perspective to the show. Together, they discuss everything from personal stories and pop culture to deeper societal trends, often highlighting the realities of modern life and relationships.


Key Takeaways:

  • The show is now monetized on YouTube, and listeners can join different membership tiers for exclusive content and community access.
  • Americans are increasingly seeking "Golden Visas"—residency or citizenship in other countries through investment—as a way to secure global mobility and stability.
  • The difference between being "rich" and "wealthy" is discussed, emphasizing generational wealth and financial security.
  • Modern dating challenges are explored, including the pitfalls of transactional relationships and the importance of clear communication about expectations.
  • Privilege comes in many forms, from access to Amazon Prime to the ability to buy citizenship, and the hosts reflect on the responsibilities that come with it.
  • The importance of moderation and pacing in relationships is highlighted, as well as the need to recognize red flags early.

Quotes:

  • "I know my sister's hilarious. Why you think I asked her to be on the show with me?" — Bruce Anthony
  • "You paid $190 to get this person outta your life. That's what I think. Do not continue to see this person. It's not going to get better." — Jay Aundrea
  • "There's a difference between being rich and wealthy. The difference is having a lot of money versus having your money work for you." — Bruce Anthony
  • "Everything in moderation. We all know everything in moderation." — Jay Aundrea
  • "If you have enough [money], you can do whatever you want. And, uh, that's, we see evidence of that every day." — Jay Aundrea
  • "You gonna go broke dealing with him, and obviously, you know what, I applaud her for being a young cat because she's 23. I can call her, I can call her a kid almost. 'Cause you know, I'm twice her age." — Bruce Anthony
  • "Release him back into the wild. You're gonna find somebody better." — Jay Aundrea

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00:00 Welcome to Unsolicited Perspectives πŸŽ™οΈπŸ”₯πŸ’₯

00:47 Sibling Happy Hour: Spicy Takes & Drinks 🍹🌢️

01:44 Late Night Show Prep Dreams Gone Wild! πŸ’­πŸŒ™πŸ˜…

02:40 HUGE NEWS: We're Going Premium! Join The Family! πŸš€πŸ’«πŸ’°

10:33 Modern Day Scammers: The Wild Dream Idea! πŸŽ­πŸ’ΈπŸ˜±

12:32 What If: Modern Civil War State Picks! πŸ—ΊοΈβš”οΈπŸ€”

21:22 Golden Visas: The Great American Escape Plan! πŸŒŽβœˆοΈπŸ’³

30:30 Wealth vs. Riches : Why Generational Money Hits Different! πŸ’ΈπŸ¦πŸ”₯

32:48 Amazon Prime: The Dopamine Hit You Can't Resist! πŸ“¦πŸ›’βœ¨

33:53 Golden Visas & VIP Privilege: How the 1% Buy Their Freedom! πŸŒπŸ’³πŸšͺ

41:21 SHOCKING Dating Story: He Did What With Excel?! πŸ“ŠπŸ˜±πŸš©

52:10 Dating in 2025: Expectations vs Reality Check! πŸ’‘πŸ’”πŸ’―

55:38 Too Fast Too Furious: The Dating Speed Trap! βš‘οΈπŸ’¨βš οΈ

01:01:11 That's A Wrap: Join Our Exclusive Community! πŸŽ¬βœ¨πŸ‘‹

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Welcome to Unsolicited Perspectives πŸŽ™οΈπŸ”₯πŸ’₯

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Bruce Anthony: Gold Visas. Buying your way in the countries and also paying for dates and asking for money back. We gonna get into it. Let's get it. Welcome, first of all, welcome. This is Unsolicited Perspectives. I'm your host, Bruce Anthony. Here to lead the conversation and important events and topics that are shaping today's society. Join the conversation or follow us wherever you get your audio podcast. Subscribe to our YouTube channel for our video podcast and YouTube exclusive content rate review.

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Sibling Happy Hour: Spicy Takes & Drinks 🍹🌢️

Bruce Anthony: On today's episode, it's the sibling happy hour. I'm here with my sis Jay, Andrea. We're gonna be dillying a little bit, and then we're gonna be talking about gold visas, not Trumps. And then we're gonna do a, am I [00:01:00] overreacting?

And this story is crazy, but that's enough of the intro. Let's get to the show.

 

Bruce Anthony: What else, SIS?

Jay Aundrea: What up, Breta?

Bruce Anthony: I can't call it. I can't call it. I got a bunch of stuff to get into during this dilly daling because I had some crazy dreams and thought that they would be good content. The dreams were, I was dreaming. I was preparing for the show coming up with ideas. That's right. Ladies and gentlemen. It has now gotten to the point where I am now dreaming about preparation for the show.

So I came

Jay Aundrea: pretty bad.

Late Night Show Prep Dreams Gone Wild! πŸ’­πŸŒ™πŸ˜…

Bruce Anthony: it is. So I came up with some ideas and topics to talk about on the show and I, and I woke up in the middle of the night and I was like, I gotta remember these. I gotta remember 'em. And so that next morning I did Remi, remember 'em, I wrote them down and then a couple hours later I was like, these some [00:02:00] dumb ass topics.

Jay Aundrea: yeah. I don't know why. I don't know anybody who ever had an actual good idea come from a dream. It's like you wake up and you're so frantic, like, no, this is absolutely amazing. I don't know why I didn't think of this before. And then you look at it later and you're like, now what? In the hell?

Bruce Anthony: Yeah.

Jay Aundrea: What the hell?

Yte?

Bruce Anthony: But I do have an announcement and I wrote a press release. We ain't got no press, but I wrote a press release. So ladies and gentlemen, I'm gonna read this announcement to you guys 'cause this is a big deal. Jay, you haven't even heard about this, so this is a big deal. Okay?

HUGE NEWS: We're Going Premium! Join The Family! πŸš€πŸ’«πŸ’°

Bruce Anthony: Hey fam Bruce here. You know Bruce Anson, a host of unsolicited perspectives. First I wanna say thank you because of you. Unsolicited per perspective is officially monetized on YouTube. That's right. We are running ads. I can't stress enough. Watch those ads please. But [00:03:00] if you ever wanted to support the podcast and get even more juicy content, tea spills and laughs, you can now become a made member and join the unsolicited family for 2 99 a month.

You can join the Prospective Posse membership. You get loyalty badges, custom emojis members only community posts, access to our discord and behind the scenes goodies from the main show. I bet you're asking what is Discord? Discord is a communication platform to let us and you interact through text, voice, and video chat.

Thank you for having, think of it as having our phone number and being able to hit us up. Send us means send us show ideas or just spill the T you know, we messy. So, you know, we want all that. It's for you to be able to have access to us. Kind of like you have access to us.

Jay Aundrea: does. Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: what's up App?

You know, you can, you can text us. You can send us memes.

Jay Aundrea: What's up?

Bruce Anthony: What's What's up? App? [00:04:00] What's WhatsApp? WhatsApp. WhatsApp. You know what? Let me finish with this. Press release.

Jay Aundrea: Okay, go ahead. I'll, that was adorable.

Bruce Anthony: All right, so that's the, that's the unsolicited posse for just 2 99. If you want early access to episodes and our raw uncensored takes then level up to our inner circle at 4 99 a month, where you could get everything from Perce, from Perspective Posse, plus you get after Hours uncensored. That was typically on our Patreon.

We're still gonna have it on Patreon, but we're going to add it to YouTube and extra behind the scenes from our after hours. Now, if you think the behind the scenes from our main show is funky, after hours is even funky er, okay? Now, if you really about the tea gossip and even a Sunday fun day life, then there's the VIP that's for you.

It's 9 99 a month. You get everything from the other memberships plus [00:05:00] live streams with me. Maybe my sister sometime down the road when she's done with school, but mainly just me. Yeah. Yeah. Mainly just me. You get q and A sessions, exclusive polls, and a weekly 10 to 15 minute clip of unsolicited perspectives.

Messy. That's where I spill the tea with no filter, all the stuff that y'all really want, like my sister knows how messy I am. I got stories for days of stuff going on. You get that in the VIP membership. So if you're ready to laugh louder, sip deeper, and be a part of the dopest community on the internet.

Hit that join button on the YouTube page and become part of the family. Your support keeps this podcast going and growing, and I appreciate every one of y'all for helping us grow this. So we're doing the membership program. You get more access. There's more work for me, but it's more work for me that I actually enjoy because I actually get

Jay Aundrea: yeah,

Bruce Anthony: Like, interact [00:06:00] with y'all, you know, way deeper than y'all DMing me, and maybe I get to it, maybe I don't.

Jay Aundrea: Right. That's act, that's really exciting because uh, you know, you could come in, Hey, you wanna come in? Just perspective posse. We should probably workshop that. Difficult to say.

Bruce Anthony: Did, did you see how many times I stumbled over that? Now my friend who says, I always stumble over words, she's like, you should edit that out. I'm like, no, no, no. That's really me.

Jay Aundrea: that's, yeah.

Bruce Anthony: Prospective

Jay Aundrea: are very

Bruce Anthony: Really tough.

Jay Aundrea: about your speech impediment is there, but you know what? Ain't no shame in

Bruce Anthony: ain't no shame in my game.

Jay Aundrea: Ain't no. But perspective posse is even difficult for me to say, so I

Bruce Anthony: The PP

Jay Aundrea: have to workshop the, the no, that's even worse. And I think you know that, but yeah, you could come, you could come in at at, at that tier, see what it's all about.

You're gonna love it. And then you're gonna wanna upgrade and get more and [00:07:00] more content. And it's dope because you get to see us, you know, this is actually us filtered, y'all.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, yeah,

Jay Aundrea: This is a, we curse way more

Bruce Anthony: Well, so

Jay Aundrea: we are way messier than,

Bruce Anthony: people have seen the after hours. They've watched the after hours, so they know, but there's some stuff that we say on the after hours, it's like, I can't put that out. I, I can't put that out. But since y'all gonna be extra paying for it, we gonna go ahead and, and, and, and leave that in. And I, for a couple of the episodes, I was doing a behind the scenes. I did it for probably about five weeks to give people a ta a taste test. But, um, I, we've actually been recording now and running for a good five minutes before we actually start. Show

Jay Aundrea: Yes. Yeah,

Bruce Anthony: been in preparation for these behind the scenes.

So y'all are going to get everything that we go [00:08:00] through producing everything that I go through, producing this show and how my sister just come on in and

Jay Aundrea: when I, when I tell you bare minimum guys.

Bruce Anthony: the crazy thing. She comes in bare minimum and I purposely, I know it's gonna be bare minimum, so I make things really easy for her. I, I produce the hell outta her because she is the star of the show.

Almost cuts. She the star of the show. She's the main reason why y'all are really, really coming in here because every clip on social media, people are like, that was funny. I know my sister's hilarious. Why you think I asked her to be on the show with me?

Jay Aundrea: Yeah, so, so if y'all wanna see even more of that

Bruce Anthony: More of that.

Jay Aundrea: and you know, you do, come on, subscribe, become, you know, become a prospective posse. Get in that inner circle, be a VIP and get more of us. Like,

Bruce Anthony: And don't worry ladies and gentlemen, when you go on a YouTube [00:09:00] page, a at when this airs on Friday, it'll be all set up When you go on a YouTube page, it'll have everything down there and explain it for you. So it'll be very simple. You don't have to remember exactly what I said. I was surprised my sister remembered the three tiers.

I I'm really surprised that she did. She's a really good at listening. Yeah, she's really good at listening. But that's what's going on.

Jay Aundrea: I was paying attention to you talking

Bruce Anthony: But the live,

Jay Aundrea: front of me.

Bruce Anthony: yeah, but the live streams, I think, you know, you do the VIP, the live stream is going to be to start off 30 minutes.

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: Of my Sunday fun day, and not just me sitting on the couch, like me prepping my, my brunch, you know, me doing my singing and dancing.

It's a whole vibe and y'all can chat with me while I'm doing it. That's the thing. It's a live stream that y'all can interact with me. If y'all say, Bruce, what you cooking? I'm like, okay, I might turn it into a cooking show. I mean, I cook the same thing every Sunday, but if people start requesting, Hey, [00:10:00] why don't you make this, I might do it.

You know, I ain't know

Jay Aundrea: You never know. your shot.

Bruce Anthony: Right. Shoot your shot. So that's what's going on. But that's enough of that. can, can I tell you about the ideas that I had for the

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. 'cause I wanted, yeah. 'cause I, I don't know why you thought dream ideas would actually be good.

Bruce Anthony: Okay. So I, I'm sure you guys can hear the thundering from my sister. Uh, I, I've got thunder over here. Hopefully it didn't come out too badly in the recording, so, okay.

Modern Day Scammers: The Wild Dream Idea! πŸŽ­πŸ’ΈπŸ˜±

Bruce Anthony: The first part. It just had scammers that I, that was the idea. Scammers,

Jay Aundrea: mean? What does that

Bruce Anthony: I think.

Jay Aundrea: Do you wanna be one? Do you want to interview one? What are we talking

Bruce Anthony: think it was scammers. And how often are you trying to be scammed, like scammers or trying to scam you either through calls or were you out on the street, you know, somebody like, Hey, can you get, I, I [00:11:00] really need to eat like just scammers in general.

Obviously this was a dumb ass

Jay Aundrea: needing to eat.

Bruce Anthony: Well, hey look, I told you about that scam, about that woman that said, Hey, can you help me feed my child? And then I took her to a hamburger place. I took her to a pizza place and then we ended up at legal Seafood and she got the, uh, lobster roll that was off market. It was market price.

I ended up spending $50 for her and her little nappy headed kit. No, that's not right. Lemme take that

Jay Aundrea: why, but, but why did you go to three different places?

Bruce Anthony: She was like, oh man, I told this story before, but she was like, oh, he had hamburgers yesterday. I was like, oh,

Jay Aundrea: Okay.

Did y'all not?

Bruce Anthony: he, he's lactose and tolerant. I was like, well, so am I, but I still love pizza. And I said it too. I was like, it was a hamburger place. No, that won't work. I was like, well, everybody loves Pizza's Pizza place right here.

No, that won't work either. She kept giving me some excuses and then I was like, okay, so [00:12:00] where, where would he like to eat? How about legal seafood? And I was like,

all right, it's kids.

Jay Aundrea: like a scam.

Bruce Anthony: It was a scam because it was supposed to be just buying her son food. And then when I get there, she is like, can I get something?

And I was like,

Jay Aundrea: Absolutely not. It, it sound like a thriller night over

Bruce Anthony: it does. It does. All right. So that was the first topic. Scammers stupid. This one I think was interesting. I just don't know how we could stretch it out to a segment. Okay.

What If: Modern Civil War State Picks! πŸ—ΊοΈβš”οΈπŸ€”

Bruce Anthony: You know how the Civil War was between the North and the south?

Jay Aundrea: Yes.

Bruce Anthony: Okay. So I was thinking if there was a civil war, now it wouldn't be north and south because there are some southern states that are blue and there are some northern states that are red.

So it wouldn't just be north and south. So you would have to pick your state, right? Like what state do you wanna roll with based on the people that live there that you think would be able to hand [00:13:00] themselves in a fight?

Jay Aundrea: I mean, New York.

Bruce Anthony: I mean, obviously New York, but really only New York City. I know people from upstate New York gonna get mad at me. Don't care what you say. New York cities. Okay. DC and Philly. But you know what? I kind of want Atlanta too. So that means I gotta take Georgia. And,

Jay Aundrea: I, I Georgia's red, like, like, don't let nobody, don't let nobody fool you. Atlanta is blue, Georgia is red. Like,

Bruce Anthony: But I want Montgomery, Alabama. So solely because of the brawl,

Jay Aundrea: Just that, just those couple dudes in Montgomery,

Bruce Anthony: they might be able to fight the whole state? Well, no, because,

Jay Aundrea: You give him a good folding chair.

Bruce Anthony: no, that folding chair didn't work on that dude. Remember he hit that dude with the folding chair 50 11

Jay Aundrea: didn't give up.

Bruce Anthony: did.

Jay Aundrea: He

didn't give

Bruce Anthony: but he did. The dude didn't go down either. The dude did not go down.

Jay Aundrea: It [00:14:00] was one of them WWE chairs that don't really dispose to break. He had to, he had to really hit him with it, but he didn't give up. And that's really the resilience of black people,

Bruce Anthony: But you know, you got different, you got cities in different states that you know, okay, you got Chicago. We gotta have, we gotta take Illinois. 'cause that's all Chicago. You get Chicago. So that's what I'm saying. Like I was thinking

Jay Aundrea: I don't think you can, I don't think you could do. I think you gotta go, you gotta take the state as a whole, and I don't think there's enough blue to carry a state like Georgia. I just don't, I mean, remember Marjorie Taylor Green is coming outta here.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, you're

Jay Aundrea: She coming outta, yeah. So,

I don't know.

Bruce Anthony: they did. So it just flipped back in 2024. So it is, it is purple, Arizona. They be capping, so that goes purple, New Mexico. I mean, I'm,

Jay Aundrea: It's too hot. Once you get to like the [00:15:00] Southwest, we don't really, you know, that's, that's too much like enslavement. We don't really do much in the heat that don't do nothing but piss us

Bruce Anthony: do you want, do we want to adopt, you know, Montana because they got them gun slingers out there. They got them cowboys. I kind of want

them on our side.

Jay Aundrea: That's

Bruce Anthony: is what I'm talking about. Where you going choose

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: to be on your side for your civil war. You

Jay Aundrea: really, really think about who we know is not on our side.

Bruce Anthony: well, Montana would be one.

Jay Aundrea: No, Florida, that's the first state that comes to mind. And I know you gonna say Miami.

Bruce Anthony: No, Miami is red. Miami, Miami was red. Miami, Miami Dade County is red now. Yeah.

Jay Aundrea: Yes. There are a lot of conservative people and Florida is the

Bruce Anthony: maybe not no

Jay Aundrea: definitely.

Bruce Anthony: Maybe not. No more with alligator Alcatraz. Some of the people, there's a lot of people down there, the Venezuelans and the CU Cubans that voted for Trump. [00:16:00] It is just like we, you know, this is not what we expected. We don't know how we told you, but

Jay Aundrea: yeah. We tried to tell you. Why did you think they would only come? For some of you that don't make no damn sense, how do they know the difference? And guess what? They also don't care.

Bruce Anthony: They don't,

Jay Aundrea: They don't care. They don't know the difference. They don't care. So it's, I I don't know what you were thinking, that they would just be able to tell who, who's documented, who's not documented.

They don't care.

Bruce Anthony: care.

Jay Aundrea: They're sending people with protected status. They're deporting people who have protected status. They don't care.

Please. They're trying to take away, um, um, birthright citizenship. Yeah,

Bruce Anthony: they, they going to take away

Jay Aundrea: they, yeah. Like what y'all thought y'all were, what did

Bruce Anthony: Yeah. Well,

Jay Aundrea: we tried to tell you?

Bruce Anthony: but back on the states. Okay, so that was, it was a dilly dally. It was a dilly dally. 'cause you gotta really think about it. It's like, hmm.[00:17:00]

Jay Aundrea: you do. You do. But usually ideas from dreams be like T-shirt for the bottom. Your legs go in the sleeves, and you just be like, that's just pants. You know?

Bruce Anthony: Or shorts. That, that would be

Jay Aundrea: or shorts. Yeah. You know, like it's not, that's not a good idea. But in at the time, you were like, I have to jot this down.

Bruce Anthony: I, I didn't even jot it down. I just said make a mental note. Remember, which is stupid. My phone was right there. I could've just woke up. But you, I didn't, it was the middle of the night and I didn't want the light or the phone to wake me up where I wouldn't gonna be able to go back to sleep. 'cause it was nice and toasty in bed.

I was playing with my feet, not playing with my feet, but you know, rubbing my feet together,

Jay Aundrea: yeah. You rub your feet together and be happy.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah. So that's where I was.

Jay Aundrea: symbol of happiness.

Yes, Yes, yes.

Bruce Anthony: I was. Uh, but ladies and gentlemen, that is there for dili. Ding. It was crazy. And my dreams. And I realized when I got in the shower

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: [00:18:00] uh, ideas for the show were stupid.

And that's

Jay Aundrea: I dunno. I dunno. But the civil war thing

is very interesting because it's like, can you go state by state? Or do you have to go county by county tear? Like city by city? Like how do you even, is it just a free for all in the streets? Like how, like how

Bruce Anthony: Well, let's be

Jay Aundrea: do you even make that work? I don't know. I don't, I don't know.

I think it's the government against the people, honestly.

Bruce Anthony: Well, that's what I, don't get me started on what ICE is becoming, but I, let's be honest there. The, the

Jay Aundrea: than a lot of countries. Militaries.

Bruce Anthony: um, there's no way for us to have a civil war like we did before, where it was in north versus

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: What would happen is if something like a civil war was to happen, and I truly don't believe something like that would happen again, but if it was happen, each state would have their own civil war because there is no state that's completely all [00:19:00] one thing.

There isn't.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. The, this will sound weird to say, but it's true. There's not enough togetherness to have the civil War that we did have. So you think like, how is, how is there togetherness with that? But no, like states came together and said, we all going to do this thing, you know, so that we don't have

Bruce Anthony: the money behind each

Jay Aundrea: Well, it's always the

Bruce Anthony: It was a lot less people in,

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: in the 18 hundreds than it is right now.

Jay Aundrea: yeah, it is always the money. But like having that, being able to have that kind of coalition or coalescence around an ideal, like, I don't think states or, you know, local governments, things like that, could do that now. I just think there's too much infighting and things like that for them to actually come together and say, no, we're going to seed from the, like, I just don't see that happening.

'cause there's not enough togetherness,

Bruce Anthony: Well, I

Jay Aundrea: there's not enough [00:20:00] common ground to be civilly disruptive.

Bruce Anthony: I tell you where there could be,

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: and it's because. There's an exodus of some Americans out of this country, and I'm not talking about deported ones, and we going talk about that next.

 

Bruce Anthony: Jay?

Jay Aundrea: Yes.

Bruce Anthony: Americans are leaving and it's not just me just saying this.

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: There was a Newsweek article, Newsweek article. The title of the Newsweek article was Map shows Country's Offering Americans Golden Visas. A Story by Julia Carbon, Oreo

Jay Aundrea: Carbon arrow,

Bruce Anthony: Carbon. At least I got

Jay Aundrea: arrow.

Bruce Anthony: That's what I said.

Jay Aundrea: an eye in there? [00:21:00] It's probably, it's probably Julio Carbon, but that's okay.

Bruce Anthony: No. Well, okay. Alright. Any, any who? So the article discusses the growing trend of Americans seeking Golden Visas residency or citizenship by investing programs offered by various countries.

Golden Visas: The Great American Escape Plan! πŸŒŽβœˆοΈπŸ’³

Bruce Anthony: These programs allow individuals to obtain legal residency and sometimes citizenship in exchange for significant financial investment, typically in real estate, government, bonds, or business ventures.

The article highlights the country's most popular among Americans for these programs and explains the motivation and benefits behind the global mobility trend. Now, we talked a couple of weeks ago about Trump's golden card where people

Jay Aundrea: little Trump card.

Bruce Anthony: where people could buy the citizenship. This is actually not a new thing.

So Trump's idea is not a new thing. It's not even a [00:22:00] new thing in this country. The way he's going about it is a little bit different, but we don't know where that money is going, but other

Jay Aundrea: That's the main thing.

Bruce Anthony: oth, but other countries have this. So what are the Golden Visas? Residency or citizenship is granted in exchange for investment.

Investment options often include the real estate, government, bonds, or business ventures. Programs are designed to attract foreign capital and stimulate local economies. So why are Americans interested in this? Well, it's pretty easy. Uh, the desire for global mobility and visa free travel, especially within the eu, access to high quality healthcare education and stable environment, economic diversification and investment opportunities abroad.

Option for plan B in times of political or economic uncertainty. So basically a lot of people, a lot of people saw Trump get elected and said they're getting the hell outta town. [00:23:00] We know people personally that are actively planning to get the hell out of the country.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Like literally has have several avenues that they can take. I was honestly just trying to find the, the one they want the most. Like I, yeah, I, uh, if I had the, the scratch, if I had the coins, okay, uh, I would give me a golden ticket

Bruce Anthony: It's a golden visa. Ain't no golden ticket. This ain't Willy Wonka and the chocolate factor.

Jay Aundrea: I give me a golden ticket to escape this hellscape, you are right.

If I had, listen, let, don't let me be somebody with some money.

Bruce Anthony: Alright.

Jay Aundrea: where are people going? Where are they going?

Bruce Anthony: Alright. So some of these popular countries offering these golden visa to America's, Portugal, real estate investments, starting at [00:24:00] 250,000 euros is a pathway to citizenship. And after five years. Greece real estate investment also of 250,000 euros. Residency with a visa free travel, Spain real estate investment of 500,000 Euros residency.

And is this swan access?

Jay Aundrea: Listen, what?

Bruce Anthony: I don't know, Italy, an

investment of

Jay Aundrea: know what that is.

Bruce Anthony: Okay. Italy And, uh, an investment of 250,000 for residency, Malta investment and donation options, path to citizenship, Cyprus real estate or business investment of 300,000 euros. The UAB and this is surprising a lot of, a lot of folks, the UAB real estate or business investments or for long-term residency and Caribbean nations like Antica, Barbuda, [00:25:00]

Jay Aundrea: You that what the first of all,

Bruce Anthony: Look, this has been a really long day 'cause I'm taking tomorrow off to go see Superman. I'm really tired. Okay. Okay. I am

Jay Aundrea: okay, so it is, it is the Sheen era area, sorry. Sheen area. And it's a group of 29 European countries that have eliminated border controls at their mutual borders. So they allow free movement of people, goods and services.

Bruce Anthony: Okay, that's cool. Would the Caribbean nations offer a lower investment thresholds and quicker pathways to citizenship and Visa? Uh, free travel, so. That's good. So there's a lot of key benefits, residency rights for, you know, people that wanna put that money in. Visa free travel. I've explained that before.

This is a key thing. Access to healthcare, education, and business opportunities. Which is crazy because we're supposed to be the land of you could come here broke and [00:26:00] work your way hard and become rich. I'm gonna just say that's been a lie. 'cause I know a lot of people that come from generations of working real hard

to three jobs,

Jay Aundrea: Yeah,

Bruce Anthony: don't become rich, don't ever get outta poverty, and they work hard.

So that's, it's luck in this country. It's really luck. But the access to healthcare and education, we're, we're the richest, well supposed to be, the richest country in the world. And you know. We don't have that. there's tax advantages and asset protection. I mean, if you got that bread, then you wanna protect that bread.

so yeah. You know, so that's, that's what it is. And it's, it is a growing thing because people, you know, don't know what the hell this world is going to be in the next three years.

Jay Aundrea: We ain't got no idea, but just so y'all know, don't get too excited, okay? Because the euro is worth 17 cents more than our dollar. So [00:27:00] when it says two, you like, oh,

Bruce Anthony: reason why I said Euro.

Jay Aundrea: that ain't that bad. No, it's that bad because it's about $293,000. So it's you paying more USD?

Bruce Anthony: Alright. But time out, if you got that 250,000 just to spend that extra 43,000 ain't gonna hurt you.

Jay Aundrea: No. No.

Bruce Anthony: You know what I'm saying?

Jay Aundrea: Unless you've been scratching and surviving to get that

Bruce Anthony: If, if you were scratching and, and surviving the get and you sitting on two 50,

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: play the stock market. Invest something. You better put that parlay you better, better parlay or something.

You need to work that investment.

Jay Aundrea: And you need to get you a brick.

Bruce Anthony: no,

Jay Aundrea: flip that,

Bruce Anthony: no. With 250,000 you can get, you can get you a lot of bricks.

Jay Aundrea: take a piece, you get, you flip that, get you two more. Then what?

You

Bruce Anthony: right. Stop talking. Stop. Because we, YouTube gonna kick us off

Jay Aundrea: oh, I [00:28:00] forgot. I forgot. Monetization.

Bruce Anthony: we YouTube gonna kick us off the air. We can't talk about that. This is

Jay Aundrea: Jokes. Just jokes.

Bruce Anthony: think about, you know, people getting up the hell up outta here and these golden visas because we harped on.

Trump with his gold card and it's a little bit different, but really the same thing. This, this benefits the wealthy. It benefits the people that got bread. It don't benefit Joe

Schmo and James Schmo,

Jay Aundrea: yeah, I mean our EB five visa program, which is essentially our same version of that. Even though it's a lot more expensive and you have to do a lot more, like you have to create jobs and things like that. But, ooh, I lost my train of thought.

Bruce Anthony: A-D-H-D-I. It benefits

Jay Aundrea: I said. Yes. So, [00:29:00] so that same EB five program trump's gold card, gold visas, blah, blah, blah. This is all just EAs making it easier for rich people to move around. Like that's all that that is. Uh, you know the rest of us, Hey, we got, uh, lemme see you got a cartia.

Okay. That's nice. That's real nice down there. You got Tulum, Mexico. There's places we can go when you ain't got the bread to, you know, get into these, these, uh, exclusive visa programs. But this is just this, the Trump gold car, all these things. It's just a way rich people getting together and decide how can we best move around without having to answer any questions.

Bruce Anthony: what it's, that's

Jay Aundrea: And so that's right. So this is, this is all that is. Um, so I mean,

Bruce Anthony: to hide their assets. What's another way that I can hide my assets so I don't have to pay taxes? Look, there's a reason why rich people are rich. They know how to [00:30:00] keep their money.

Jay Aundrea: yeah,

Bruce Anthony: I tell people all the time, there's a difference between being rich and wealthy. There's a complete difference.

There's a lot of people out there that's rich. There's not a lot of people that's out there that's wealthy and people are like, what's the difference? The difference is having a lot of money versus having your money work for you.

Jay Aundrea: I, I always think, yeah, there's just a difference. I always think of it as you're rich. You could lose that

Bruce Anthony: Mm-hmm. Well, you still can lose your wealth. It

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Jay Aundrea: You could lose, you could lose sums of money that people have never seen in their lives

and still be like, yeah, and still be out here. Like he is still, still be the richest man in the world.

So it's not, it, it does he, his stock goes down, comes up, goes down. He don't care. He's the richest man in the way. He doesn't care. So wealth, you're not losing that. [00:31:00] Rich, rich. You could be up and then next thing you know, you down and that's it. You out. Wealth is generational.

Bruce Anthony: Yes.

Jay Aundrea: Wealth is, is enduring. I. Rich.

Rich is, you know, maybe you are, maybe you aren't.

Bruce Anthony: Rich is, rich is baseball. N-F-L-N-B-A players. They're rich. The

Jay Aundrea: Yes.

Bruce Anthony: wealthy. There's a big difference. I don't care if they sign a 400 million, they got baseball players that signed for five, $600 million over 10 years. Yeah. That, you know, that's good. That's, it's real good. I would love to have something like that.

The person paying that

Jay Aundrea: yeah.

The person

Bruce Anthony: people. Yeah. They're paying several people. Like, yeah, that's all good. You know that, look, lemme tell

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: If $2 and 50 is missing from my account,

Jay Aundrea: look,

I'm looking high and low when I tell you I'm looking high and low for that stupid, I'd be [00:32:00] like, nah, I know I had 47, 85 in here, so why the hell. Do it say $2 and 50. 'cause you know, I don't know the math. $2 50 cent less than that. Oh, you know what? I did go to the vendor machine. Okay. Okay. I can account for it.

I can account for it, but no, I'm, look, I'm, I am looking.

Bruce Anthony: my paycheck dropped on Friday. Yeah, it dropped on Friday. And I was like, okay, good. 'cause I know what my paycheck is. So I was like, okay, good. I'm good. And then I go to my account, why is it less in the account than in my paycheck? Why? And so I'm going through the charges and I was like, oh yeah, I did that because I knew my paycheck was coming.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

So you spent it, you spent it early?

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Bruce Anthony: They had the pre, 'cause you know, last week was my birthday, so I, you know, I did some things and then they had a pre Amazon Day deals and now these Amazon Day deals you about to see some per you are, you should already [00:33:00] see some stuff in the cart. 'cause I'm like, look, lemme, go ahead, hop on this.

Jay Aundrea: Y'all, I'm about to gimme a big old case of, uh, associates.

Bruce Anthony: That's my golden ticket. Amazon Prime

Jay Aundrea: Yes, prime day deals. And I know y'all well. We not Jeff Bezos to listen. I hear you and I am your sister in the struggle, but I don't wanna go out to buy things. I want them delivered to my home that I don't leave. So until y'all can come up with a way for me to have that in the same, at the same level at which I'm getting it right now,

Bruce Anthony: Mm-hmm.

Jay Aundrea: then I really don't know what to tell you.

Bruce Anthony: But you know what?

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Bruce Anthony: Speaking of these, uh, golden visas

Jay Aundrea: Uh.

Bruce Anthony: people having [00:34:00] privilege, we also have a privilege that not everybody gets to share, right? Then there's a couple of different ones. When we have an Amazon account,

okay? One, we one, we are able to order stuff off of Amazon and we don't have to go to brick and mortar two.

We actually live in an area where we can get things the same day that we order 'em off of Amazon. Like that is an option. You could wake up in the

morning, order something and it's there by 10:00 PM that very same day, right?

Jay Aundrea: Sometimes it depended on what time you get it before five.

Bruce Anthony: or the very next day at the latest two days, unless it's something real funky and then you gotta wait a couple of more days.

But that's because it's probably coming from overseas.

Jay Aundrea: And listen, when I can't get that same day shipping, your girl got a attitude. I gotta wait till tomorrow to have this thing I want right now for some reason.

Bruce Anthony: But you can live in certain rural areas and you might as well forget it and it [00:35:00] today don't even count for you. 'cause they don't have the distribution centers that's even close enough to get it to you two days. So there is a privilege and we have to acknowledge the fact that we have a privilege. And yes, for those people that have a privilege, they are supposed to stand up for the rights for the people that don't have the privilege.

And I hear you. I'm normally for any struggle except for Amazon and Popeye's Chicken. Like I'm not going to turn my back on neither one of them. Okay. I'll turn my back on a lot of things.

But not Amazon and Popeye's chicken. 'cause I

Jay Aundrea: I wish,

Bruce Anthony: what

Jay Aundrea: I wish that wasn't,

Bruce Anthony: a thing.

Jay Aundrea: I wish that wasn't one of your choices. Like, I wish that wasn't one of the, the things that you could not

give up. Like I wish Popeye's wasn't. Yeah, of course. I've had Popeye's chicken, I'm an American. But I,

but [00:36:00] I, I just don't want that to be the hill you die on. I I, I don't want Popeye's chicken to be the thing that you're like, I will turn my back on the struggle

Bruce Anthony: uh, rai,

Jay Aundrea: for this, for this juicy fried chicken.

Like, I really don't want that for

you.

Bruce Anthony: I, Hey, look, the optics are not good.

Jay Aundrea: It's not great.

It's real, real bad.

Bruce Anthony: is really bad and I get it.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: I don't care. I love

Jay Aundrea: you?

Bruce Anthony: Chicken. I love that is my guilty pleasure.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. And then, and then, and then some stuff I already wasn't doing, like I already wasn't going to target. 'cause every time I go to Target, I spend $150. So I just. Didn't go. And so when the boycott came, I was like, yeah, yeah, we not going. And I wasn't, I ain't gone in like two years before that boycott [00:37:00] even happened.

So I was like, I'll just keep doing what I've been

doing.

Bruce Anthony: you weren't going because of Amazon, but you know where you can also spend $150 real quick? Amazon.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah, very quickly. Um, but for some reason, I don't know, I feel better about it 'cause it's just like, it's just like, you know, it's just one click boop and I got the thing, and then, and then the box comes and it's like a

present and it's a, you know, it's a nice.

yeah. You get, I think you get like a, a dopamine rush

unboxing and stuff.

Yeah. So, uh, no, I, I still feel, even though I love running errands and coming home with my bags and like going through, I'm like, what'd I get from the grocery store? And oh, I got me some news. You know, I got a couple boxes of tissues and so I don't know anything, but I just, I like. I like that because I do get dopamine rush from that.

Bruce Anthony: So I hear everything that you're saying about the packages being arriving because whew, when I get that notification, there's a [00:38:00] package. Can't wait to go downstairs and go

get my package. However, leaving target with all the bags,

that's regret and guilt because I'm like, I went in here for one thing and I came outta here broke, and I

had $2,700 in my account,

and now I got 25 cents. Why they had a TV on sale. They had a,

Jay Aundrea: But look at all my goodies. Like I don't think you get like, but I also get things and that's cool.

Bruce Anthony: but it's not the unboxing. Amazon Put it in a box. You gotta open up the box. It's almost like

Christmas every time. And maybe, And

maybe, when these people get these golden visas, it's like the same thing. See how

I tied it

Jay Aundrea: Um, literally no. Literally they're just paying so that they don't get held up at custom somewhere. Or they, they just came up with this [00:39:00] idea, how can we make it so other people can't do it? Only we can do it. How can we make it easier for us to move around? No questions asked. That's all this is. Guys like this.

Really, all this is that the entire world operates on just money. And if you have enough of it, you can do whatever you want. And, uh, that's, we see evidence of that every day.

Bruce Anthony: Well, you know, who also isn't paying women on these damn dates? And we gonna get into it. Am I overreacting next, uh,

Jay Aundrea: Segue

Bruce Anthony: before before we get into it. 'cause I know people are listening that about to say, Bruce, what the hell you talking about? Look, it was a segue. I didn't really mean it the way it came off. Just listen to the next segment and you'll get it.

Okay? That's all.

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Bruce Anthony: Jay went on my favorite social media site and I found an am I overreacting? Y y'all know how much I love. Am I overreacting and am I a jerk? I'm messy. People telling me their stories, I'm stuck. I'm, I'm addicted to it. This one, this one though. And we've had some crazy ones, like dudes giving, their, their partners STDs and not, and not saying nothing.

You know, we've had some crazy ones. Fathers cussing daughters out. This isn't

Jay Aundrea: Yes.

Bruce Anthony: that bad as far as being harsh towards another person. It's just crazy in my

mind. Okay,

Jay Aundrea: All right. I haven't heard it. I'm, I'm ready. I, let's see, let's see what happened.

Bruce Anthony: So am I overreacting. Hi everyone. I'm a female that's 23 years old. I've been dating this guy 32 years old for a little over a month now. He was very persistent in pursuing me, consistently texting [00:41:00] me, making plans, asking me to go on runs and bike rides and beach days. We live in Florida and invited me to dinners and bars and even paying for Ubers to and from his place.

We were hanging out at least four times a week. Everything felt like it was going somewhere. He'd been slowly building things up and even waited weeks to finally kiss me.

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Bruce Anthony: Then outta nowhere, he sends me a little Excel spreadsheet with a breakdown of dates and how much he spent and a column with my name asking me to reimburse him. I'm attaching it because I truly can't believe it. It felt transactional and weirdly formal, especially since he was the one inviting, nearly initiating nearly all the plans. What's even more confusing after sending this, he still insists on seeing me and continuing to date like you want to invoice me and kiss me.

And for context, I've picked up the tab quite a few times, [00:42:00] dinners, drinks, et cetera. What, without making anything of it, I never asked him to pay me back or keep score. I thought we were just getting to know each other and splitting things organically, like adults, especially since he's about 10 years older than I am.

So am I overreacting or underreacting? I can't tell if this is just him being organized or if it's a huge red flag.

Jay Aundrea: Um, then you are definitely underreacting. It's a giant riff flag. Um, girlfriend, um, go ahead and cash app him and then block him.

Bruce Anthony: Well, there's more. There's more. There's more. So she did include the screenshot of the Excel spreadsheet. It is very detailed as most Excel spreadsheets are. he,

Jay Aundrea: to see this. Oh my, oh my.

Bruce Anthony: and then he sent a text message along with the spreadsheet. Here it goes. Hate to ask, but can you Venmo or Zelle me some money for the last few weeks?

I know you got me some [00:43:00] stuff, which I'm appreciative of and definitely happy to cover most things like our date night and drinks and stuff. But you never paid me for the first round of stuff from a few weeks ago and money's a little tight for me and a source of stress right now with, with working two jobs, et cetera.

She goes back, sure. He texts back. Okay. I think $100 is fair unless you have objections. I. She says, are you charging me for in-between days? I'm charging you a hundred dollars for the $500 of stuff I've covered since we started hanging. You never paid me the last time I asked for some money. Alright, maybe we shouldn't go out so much.

LOLI can't tell if your butt hurt. I'm asking for a hundred dollars. yeah, so it goes on. I'm not gonna read all the text messages. It goes on she, she sends him the money. Then he also says, oh yeah, don't forget you owe my boy [00:44:00] some money too. You wanna send that over as well. 'cause I guess he bought some drinks or something when they was out.

So my man straight up said, you owe me some bread for my time. And now the reason why I think this is crazy is because the concept of it is very new to me. I'm 45 years old. I'm old school. I believe the man pays for the first couple of dates. Then after that, it's whoever invite the other person out, pays, right?

If I'm

constantly asking you out,

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: if I'm constantly asking you out, then I'm asking for you to go out with me. If you're asking me out, that means you're asking me to go out with you. Either we going to split or you going to pay, but you asked me, don't be asking me out all the time and expecting me to pay.

So if that was a thing, I could kind of [00:45:00] get what he was saying, but that's not what it was happening. She said he was chasing her. Nevermind the fact that he's 32 and she's 23. Obviously he should be way better off than she is.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Um, so there's a couple things wrong here, right? Like, beyond him asking to be reimbursed, it's the fact that this wasn't communicated beforehand. Like there's, there doesn't seem to be any indication that he communicated to her beforehand, Hey, I'll pay, you know, just so we don't have to do split checks or something like that.

I'll pay, but like, can you. You know, split it. You can just Venmo me or Zel me or whatever later on. Like it would be one thing if as they're making plans he says, Hey, I really wanna do this. You think we can go, you know, Dutch or whatever. But that's not what's happening. What he realized is when he went to go pay his bills and he looked at the whole rundown of where his money [00:46:00] went, he highlighted them rows that were dates with her and said, I'm gonna see if I can gimme some money. That's a red flag. Girl, you are under reacting. First of all, you just paid, uh, look like $190. 'cause he asked for the money for his quote unquote friend. you just paid $190 to dodge a bullet because the thing of it is y'all were going back and forth. You know what I'm saying? He would pay for stuff. You would pay for stuff.

It wasn't like, it was not equitable. Like y'all were going back and forth, going on runs and bike rides and beach days. That's free. So like, don't like, and if you're paying for dinner, you said quite a few times, dinner, drinks and things like that and never asked him for anything back, I think you should go and figure out how much is actually owed into whom.[00:47:00]

That's what I think. And if you find out he did spend more than you, okay, then don't bring it up. But you might wanna invoice him. I mean, honestly, that's the kind of petty I, but honestly, you paid $190 to get this person outta your life. That's what I think. do not continue to see this person. It's not going to get better if, if y'all have only been dating for a little over a month and he's invoicing you because he's broke.

Girl, it is not gonna get better. It's not, I, I, I, I don't know what to tell you. but it's gonna be some more, this is really giving me, who the f did I marry vibes. Like it's really, this person is not good with money. He likes to spend in the moment and the realizes he can't cover it later in the nest.

He's coming back to you for stuff. This is, this is a pattern that's not gonna get any better and it's gonna come to a head when he decides to make some big [00:48:00] purchase and realizes he can't cover it. And then he's coming to you and coming up with all kinds of excuses so that he doesn't feel guilty asking you for money.

Because he spent money he didn't have there. No, absolutely not. And this is a grown ass man. Like there's no reason. And y'all ain't even really been kicking it for that long. Cut your losses and move on. Like, I know y'all probably like Johnny, you always be like, just walk away, but listen, 'cause I be right.

Some of y'all don't walk away when it's time to cut and run. Okay. This No, no, absolutely not. And I'm looking at this Excel sheet, absolutely not. Like are, you've got to be kidding me with this. And I mean, it is broken down. I mean dates where y'all went, the Uber, uh, the exact [00:49:00] costs, the, like he Wow

Bruce Anthony: be an accountant. He has to be an accountant.

Jay Aundrea: But it definitely is given like, hey, I do my budget, you know, every time I'm, it is time for me to pay my bills and I'm looking and I'm seeing all this money going out, but that's yo.

Fault my guy because you're the one that invited her out. And it and, and the fact that you acknowledge, you acknowledge, I know. First of all, he kept saying, ya, ya, instead of you. And that really would've ticked me off. That would've pissed me off. 'cause we're having a serious conversation. Don't you dare saying, can you Venmo me?

No, no. That would've, I don't piss me off today. But like he says, I know you got me some stuff, which I'm appreciative of. So you already know she's already been kicking out money the same way you've been kicking [00:50:00] out money. So why does she owe you and you not have to pay her back for the stuff that she's paid for?

You see the lo you see how it don't, it's not the logic, ain't logic in.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, I see multiple things wrong with this outside of him, which is ridiculous. He is the main thing that's wrong, but I see multiple things wrong with this, and it all stems from modern dating. And I was talking to somebody recently about the amount of times you see a new person in a week, and the person I was talking to was like, I want to see this person more.

I was like, you've seen him once a week. But I wanna see 'em more. I was like, you've only been dating for six weeks. When you see people too often too fast, you burn out. You burn out without even really getting to know them, they're going, they're hanging out four times a week. That is way too much. Way too much.

That's [00:51:00] first and foremost. Okay.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: Another thing that bothers me in modern dating is people not understanding what they, people not explaining what they expect in a relationship. And we've talked about this before. I have a friend of mine, a dear friend of mine, who is like, men are out here, are not being providers.

And I was like. But like, you have a job too, so why do they need to provide for you? And then she told me, she was like, well, you just believe in that 50 50 stuff. And I was like, well, no, actually I don't believe in 50 50 because relationships are never 50, 50, 50, 50, 50. Sometimes people give more than the other just because of the capacity of whatever's going on in life.

So I was like, no, but I do believe in a partnership, if I make money, more money than my significant other, and the, and half of the rent would stretch her, then she wouldn't pay half the rent. Maybe she pays 35, maybe she pays 30 or 35 or [00:52:00] 40%, and I cover the

rest,

Jay Aundrea: it so that it makes

Bruce Anthony: So

right, like so yes, I want a partner, but 50 50 is ridiculous.

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Bruce Anthony: I'm not keeping an accountant like that. I dated a woman who made twice as much as me. It

was her birthday. Of course she threw a party for herself on her birthday. But the next day, you know, I stayed over the next day. We spent the day together because it was a big birthday for her and she had all her friends.

So we didn't get a lot of alone time. So the next day it was me and her time, and that entire day I paid for everything. I didn't even think about it. It was just like, it's your birthday. So, yeah, she brought it up at the end of the night. She was like, you treated me so well. You paid for everything. I was like, it's your birthday.

What's, what's a big deal? Most men don't do that. I was like, it's your birthday. Like, that's the kind of the way that I was raised. What, I'm gonna take you out for your birthday and ask you to pay half the bill. I wouldn't expect, I would hope that you would do the same for me. You don't [00:53:00] have to. I don't expect anything outta people, but a partnership.

So it's clear he didn't say in the beginning. And you know, just so you know, when we go on these dates, I'm gonna keep a invoice, uh uh, everything. And then at the end of the month we going. Pull everything together and see who, who, what, like that should be something that should be established. Especially

Jay Aundrea: should definitely have been a conversation well before the actual date. 'cause then I could have told you, we ain't got to go nowhere.

Bruce Anthony: Well, you would've, but it seems like that conversation or something like it would've come up in the amount, in the 16 times they seen each

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: If a, if a month only got 30 or 31 days and you seeing somebody 16 or 17 of them days, y'all

Jay Aundrea: That's crazy. Yeah. That's crazy.

Bruce Anthony: in the first month, in the first month.

That's

crazy. Uh, and, and, and people I [00:54:00] implore you like, so there's so much dating anxiety and people are so used to having everything right now. Everything that we have right now, we wanna watch a TV show. It's here. We don't have to wait a

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: It's here if we want something we just talked about on Amazon.

If we want something, we want it now in, in an hour. We can't wait seven days anymore. We want things now and people are trying to microwave these relationships. You can't, you don't fall in love without knowing the person and you don't know a person until a good nine months into dating them. Because we all have these facades that we put together.

We always put our best put forward. You need to see people at their worst and see if at their worst you can deal with them. So many people, it happened during the pandemic so much that these people were getting together and in three months they were engaged, they got married, they come outta the pandemic outside, open up again.

They're like, what the hell did I just do? Because you didn't take the

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: know [00:55:00] the person

Jay Aundrea: Right. You just were stuck together and you're like, that's good enough. No, no,

Bruce Anthony: you know, I'm not blaming her. I don't want put any blame on her 'cause

Jay Aundrea: no, no. 'cause this is, she's underreacting

Bruce Anthony: underreacting. But

Jay Aundrea: be.

Bruce Anthony: I do want to put, blame isn't the right word. I say she has to take some accountability. A small women out there don't drag me. A small, small bit of accountability for giving him access to her that much, that fast.

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Jay Aundrea: Well, I mean, I don't know, because if they like each other enjoy each other's company, it seem like they enjoy each other's company, then I can't really say what's too much, what's not enough?

Bruce Anthony: can, I can tell you

Jay Aundrea: right. I think it's I think it's person to person. The problem is he sees his money [00:56:00] as more important than hers because he sees him being reimbursed, but never mentions reimbursing

her

Bruce Anthony: Yeah. I said the initial problem is him. I'm talking

Jay Aundrea: yeah.

Bruce Anthony: level here

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: and this is what I, what I say with modern dating and you say, well, no, people should spend as much time. What happens when you have a plant and you don't give it enough water?

Jay Aundrea: Oh, cactus. It dies.

Bruce Anthony: It dies. What happens when

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: too much water?

Jay Aundrea: It could also die.

Bruce Anthony: What happens when you don't give it enough sunlight?

Jay Aundrea: at that.

Bruce Anthony: What happens if you give it too much sunlight?

Jay Aundrea: I get where you're

Bruce Anthony: Okay, so not enough or too much

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Of everything. Everything in moderation. We all know everything in moderation. Maybe moderation for them was instead of every day, we see each other four days a week. Maybe that's

moderation

Bruce Anthony: that's not good. [00:57:00] Moderation and it's damn sure not good moderation for my man. 'cause he is going broke and he got two jobs. He got two

Jay Aundrea: but he. But he ain't have to go broke because it seemed like she's fine with the run dates, the bike dates, the beach day dates. These are all low cost date. You ain't have to get her Ubers back and forth, back and forth.

Bruce Anthony: Well, you know

why, you know why he did that? You know why he did that? Because it wasn't just a bike ride. It wasn't just a run, it was a bike ride, a run to go out for drinks or lunch afterwards. So he, I often do that when I'm dating women. I'm like, we're gonna go out for drinks. You're not driving. I don't have a car.

I'm just gonna get your Uber to come to me. I don't want you to have to pay for the Uber to come to me. Uh, and there will leave from my house. Or I'll get the Uber to come. If you are comfortable with me coming to your house, I'll get the Uber to your house. But if they're coming to my house, I, I'll just get you the Uber.

Like, I don't, I don't want you to come outta the pocket. I haven't invited you out. So I get that because maybe he's being a gentleman, but a true gentleman would've just been [00:58:00] like, I don't want you to drink and drive. I'm gonna pay for your Uber. I got your Uber not a month later. You know what? I'm gonna need the reimbursement for that

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Remember that Uber I bought you? Yeah. Okay. If we're this meticulous that you send me a whole Excel sheet, then send me also the Excel sheet, the balance, the balance it out, show the stuff that I've paid, and then you give me the actual total

of what's owed. Don't just make up, don't just make up.

Oh, it was for $500. So, uh, just gimme a hundred. Do no, this sounds, it don't sound right and you're not factoring in what I've put in. So if what I put in don't matter

Bruce Anthony: Mm-hmm. You

Jay Aundrea: only what you put in matters. Matters. You're telling me you think you better than me.

Bruce Anthony: I don't, I don't, I don't, I

Jay Aundrea: Okay. But I mean, it, it is, it is a little bit of like, also my money [00:59:00] is not valuable. Enough to be reimbursed also, or to even be factored into the equation. You are only thinking about what you spent, you are not even considered. And thes, and the fact that you acknowledged, Hey, I appreciate all the stuff you've bought for me, but here's the invoice for all the stuff I bought for you.

That don't make no sense.

Bruce Anthony: He should have hollered at his boy instead of saying, Hey, why don't you pay the boy back? You should have hollered at your boy and be like, Hey man, I'm a little short on these bills. Can you spot me and I'll get you back next month instead of hitting her up. And then has the audacity to still be like, so, um, we still gonna get together this week?

No,

Jay Aundrea: No,

Bruce Anthony: together no more. No, you gonna, you gonna go broke. Dealing with him and, and obviously, you know what, I applaud her for being a young cat because she's 23. I can call her, I can call her a kid almost. 'cause you know, I'm twice her age

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: mature. The fact where I paid for something like he was doing this and that.

Of course I'm going [01:00:00] to return the favor. I look whoever you are out there, you good? You good? Okay.

Um,

Jay Aundrea: At his big age, he should know better. And there's a reason why when you met him, he was single girl. Like, that's, go let him go.

Bruce Anthony: of people could be singles for, I mean, we're, we're both singles, so I mean that could, if we're single for a reason, uh, but that don't

Jay Aundrea: I don't, yeah. No, no. Go release him back into the wild.

Bruce Anthony: well, okay. Alright. I, I do agree with that. Release him back into the wild. You gonna find a better, a better

Jay Aundrea: You're gonna find somebody better.

Bruce Anthony: Playboy, if you dating a woman nine years younger than you and, and you asking her for money, you need to reevaluate your life. You need to figure out, you gotta make some moves or something.

Like my sister said, you get a get you a quarter.

Jay Aundrea: We monetized. We monetized. We can't, we can't. But I was literally [01:01:00] about to say the exact same

thing. Yeah,

Like,

I, I don't, yeah. I don't know what to tell you, but, uh, go and run away, girl. Go on. Go on. Just go take the l on that one.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah.

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Bruce Anthony: Okay, on that note, Jay, where uh, what do you wanna lead the people out? We are here with,

Jay Aundrea: Become members of the, uh, prospective posse. gonna work on that?

Bruce Anthony: well, prospective posse or the inner circle or the VIP. The VIP

Jay Aundrea: or,

Bruce Anthony: it's at.

Jay Aundrea: but if you are on the fence, test us

out.

Bruce Anthony: true.

You right.

Jay Aundrea: posse.

Bruce Anthony: Prospective po pp

Jay Aundrea: No, I, ya. We're gonna workshop that, so don't

Bruce Anthony: We might, we gonna have to workshop it quick 'cause I'm about to implement that. It's about to go live and, and by the time this airs. So

Jay Aundrea: stay, stay tuned y'all.

Bruce Anthony: on that note, ladies and gentlemen, I want to thank you for listening. I want to thank you for watching, and until next time, as always, [01:02:00] I'll holler.

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