Bruce Anthony: [00:00:00] Random questions. The DC takeover and cringe dating. We gonna get into it? Let's get it.

Welcome to Unsolicited Perspectives! 🎙️🔥

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Like, comment, share, share with your friends, share with your family. Hell even share with your enemies. On today's episode, I'll be doing random questions and thoughts. We're gonna be talking the DC takeover, and we're gonna talk about, is it cringe dating or just modern dating? But that's enough of the intro.

Let's [00:01:00] get to the show.

Bruce Anthony: I would say, Hey, I'm going to introduce a new segment, but we all know if you're an avid listener, avid watcher, or if this is your first time coming to this podcast and you don't know this, I routinely introduce new ideas for segments and then completely forget about 'em. I look, I don't even remember the names of the segments that I created that was specifically pointing towards an idea.

I just kinda wing this thing, not actually wing it, but these segments, look, I come up with them, I forget about 'em, and some way, or somehow they come back, but they come back with a new name.

Random Thoughts & Questions: Who Can Show Up Unannounced? 🤔🚪

Bruce Anthony: This segment is random thoughts and questions, and I don't know if this segment is gonna ever come back again, but.

For today's episode. For this episode, it's definitely a segment and it's a bunch of [00:02:00] stuff that's coming across my algorithm and my various social media platforms that I'm just like, Hmm, that's interesting or, Hmm, I think I have some thoughts about that and I'm going to give it to you guys. Why? Because y'all actually solicited my perspective even though the show is called Unsolicited Perspectives 'cause you here.

So I'm gonna give you my perspective. So the first one, it's a question and I think it's a very valid question in today's day and age, who is allowed to show up at your house unannounced. And my first thought is not a damn person, place or thing. I don't know how a place would show up at my house, but man, you know, I've been watching a lot of DC who might be in the Vol Multiverse.

Nothing can come up to my house unannounced. Maybe a little kitten, maybe a lost puppy, but no human being except, and I'm dating myself right [00:03:00] now, except for the people from the Publisher's Clearinghouse with a check now for all my Gen Z and Gen Alpha people who don't know what Publisher's Clearinghouse is.

'cause I haven't seen a pub, a commercial for Publishers Clearinghouse in a very, very long time. For those people who don't know, I actually don't truly know what Publisher's Clearinghouse is. I guess it was a place where you would sign up for magazines or whatever and and, and it would enter you in, it's kind of like a lottery or a raffle, and you could become a millionaire.

They would just pop up at your house with a check. Now, this was a major thing in the eighties and nineties, and maybe even the early two thousands. I don't know if it's still going on. I would gladly appreciates a publisher's clearinghouse. Person with a check not to sell me nothing, with a check that just said, Hey, you entered in this raffle in 1993 and we finally come around to you, [00:04:00] here's a couple of million dollars.

Now, would I blow that million dollars rather rapidly? I would, I would. 'cause I'm bad with money. But those are the only people that could pop up at my house unannounced. My own mama can't pop up at my house unannounced. My own daddy can't pop up at my house unannounced. My brother and sister, and you know how much I love my family.

They can't pop up at my house unannounced. Nobody can pop up at my house unannounced. As a matter of fact, it gives me great anxiety, great anxiety when I get a random knock. Or worse yet, somebody rings my doorbell. Yes, I live in an apartment, but I got a doorbell. Hey, I live in the luxury of high rise.

Don't hate the game. Don't hate the play. I hate the game. Anyway, um, I, I get really nervous. I tiptoe to the door. Look through the peep hole to see who the hell it is. Lemme give you an example of the anxiety that came across me just a couple of weeks ago. So I have a balcony and I, I, [00:05:00] you know, I'm gonna let y'all in on a little something that's, that's very, very personal The last two years and we're coming up on the two year anniversary of crypto passing.

Opening Up About Loss: A Personal Story 💔🐕

Bruce Anthony: Uh, I haven't really gone out on a balcony. He actually, he didn't pass on the balcony, but he passed on the balcony when we were hanging out. That was our little spot. And I love my balcony. It overlooks the courtyard. It is, it, I, I don't want to leave this place because I love my balcony in the courtyard view.

I got a nice set out out there, nice couches, table lights. It is a vibe. Totally a vibe. And he passed, basically, he, he, he passed away out there. I lost him out there. I lost him at the vet, but I lost him out there. And I haven't gone out there for two years. I haven't done it. I'm about to bring it up to a happier moment 'cause I brought you guys down for a second.

But I'm, I'm feeling better, right? I'm feeling better. [00:06:00] And I was talking to my bestie. I was like, I haven't been out there. As she asked me why, and I hadn't realized, it hadn't dawned on me. The reason why I hadn't gone out to the balcony is because I'm still processing, uh, losing my dog. So I said this, I'm going to clean out July.

I stated, I'm going to clean out my balcony because I'm gonna go out there for my birthday. I'm gonna celebrate it. I'm gonna get back to life out on the balcony. So it is crazy, crazy pollen and dirt on my balcony. What I decided to do was late at night. Like 10 30, 11 was clean off my balcony and I took a big bucket of soapy water and I just dumped it on the balcony and I'm scrubbing and I'm wiping.

And on my balcony I have these little things where, you know, I guess therefore, you know, flood prevention where if it rains, the water will seat down in these little slits that's on the sides of the balcony. The only [00:07:00] problem is, is that there are multiple balconies below me so when the water slips down, it's actually hitting their balconies.

So it was 10 30 at night. I'm doing this 'cause I'm assuming nobody is out on the balcony. Balconies I checked and nobody's really going to be affected by it because by the next morning it'll be dry. Well, I was wrong. I should have did it much later than 10 30 because people were up. And how do I know that they were up?

As I'm doing this, my doorbell rings. Now, once again, I told you overwhelming anxiety when somebody comes to my door. So I go to the door, tiptoeing, tiptoeing, and I see two women standing outside of my door. I'm not answering the door because odds are, they're the people below me. They're about to be like, what the hell is going on?

So I'm not answering the door. But not only do they ring the doorbell, they knock. So I'm like, I gotta answer this door. So I answer the door [00:08:00] and they're like, Hey, uh, do you know there's water coming off your balcony? And at first I tried to act like I didn't know what the hell they was talking about. And then I was like, yeah, I'm cleaning off the balcony.

They were like, oh, okay. We just wanted to check and make sure because we were worried like somebody's apartment was flooding or somebody was hurt or something like that. And I was like, oh, that's actually really sweet. Thank you. No, I'm okay. I'm just causing a major disruption. Disruption to you guys, but it'll, I'm be done in a couple of minutes and.

It'll be cleaned up by tomorrow. I apologize for the inconvenience. It's like, no, no, that's okay. We just wanted to make sure everybody was okay. That's a good reason to come to my door. I still didn't want it. I still didn't want it. And trust me, I was sweating and almost pooped in my pants when my doorbell rang and then it was a knock.

'cause I don't know who it is. And I'm definitely afraid of the Popo coming to my door. I won't answer the door. I had, I was dating a woman one time and she was like, why are you so afraid of the Popo coming to your door? You don't do anything. I was like, I don't do anything, but I'm still scared of them coming to the door.[00:09:00]

And she was like, you don't have to answer it. I was like, well, I mean, if they got a warrant, she was like, yeah, but they also don't need to know that you're here. I was like, yeah, I mean, I guess you right. So I guess I don't have to open the door. She was like, yeah, so just relax. And I was like, Nope. Can't do it.

Would You Compliment Your Ex for a Divorce? 💍💔

Bruce Anthony: Overwhelming anxiety. So that long story short is to tell you, nobody could come to my door unannounced besides Publisher's Clearing House. That's it. Alright. Here's another interesting question that came across my timeline and as somebody that's divorced and I know there are people out there that are also divorced, getting divorced, separated, thinking about divorce, thinking about divorce before they even get married.

Uh, it happens, believe it or not. This question is for me and you and leave a comment down in the comment section 'cause I'm curious to see how people would handle this. What if a judge required you to give an [00:10:00] honest compliment to your spouse before issuing issuing? Hmm, before issuing a divorce, what would you say?

My initial response is I have been divorced for longer than I was actually with the person. I think I was with the person a total of six or seven years. Not married. That wasn't the whole time we were married. It was a short period of time we was actually married. But I think I was with the person for six or seven years.

I've been divorced over 12. I, I believe it's like 13, 13 years. Um, officially divorced shorter than that, but we separated 12 or 13 years ago. So it's double the time that we're actually together. I've been over it so much so that we've not had in-person conversations, but we've con we've communicated through email recently to discuss some things that are personal to us, but, you know, to discuss some things not about our marriage, but about people that we care about.

So I don't have no beef with, [00:11:00] with her and I'm, I'm pretty sure at this point she don't have no beef with me. And I don't even know if the, if we were really beefing it just, the marriage just didn't, was it supposed to be just, we weren't supposed to be together past the point of us being together? That happens.

But the idea that even. At the divorce proceedings that I wouldn't be able to give an honest compliment about her would be absolutely ridiculous. And I have a whole host of compliments about her. I once loved her and cared about her enough to marry her. So the idea that people out there wouldn't be able to get an honest compliment and honest compliment, I give her, she is literally one of the most welcoming people that you will ever meet.

Comes from the whole, the whole family is welcoming. Just they make you feel like your family immediately. Immediately. She's also hilarious. [00:12:00] How do you think she kept me for six or seven years? It gotta be hilarious. I can't carry the weight. She's hilarious. She's a good person. These are all honest compliments about her.

And if you can't do that for your former spouse. It means one or two things, actually. It can mean more than one or two things, but I, I'm gonna focus on these one or two things. 'cause I just wanna prove my point. It means one or two things. Either you never truly loved them and people don't want to hear that, right?

You never truly loved them, or you ain't over it, the whole situation, and you just don't want to admit it to yourself. And the second one, the latter. It's okay. It's okay to be in pain. It's okay to be in pain for a while. You know, they say typically it takes you half the time that y'all was together to get over the [00:13:00] relationship.

I don't believe in that time period. 'cause I'm gonna tell you, one time I dated a woman and it was like four, five months and it took me a whole year plus to get over her. And then we doubled back and it went through the same thing. It just would take me a year plus to get over again. But yeah, you know, sometimes you have those things that it's tough to get over, but theoretically they say half the time you with the person, that's that, that's how long it takes you to get over a person.

And that's okay if you just not over the person, but you need to admit that. And then for the former, you never really loved them. Look, I realized in my older age that I've only loved romantically, loved two women too. My entire life now have said I love YouTube. I don't know, 5, 6, 7 women that I, that I dated, right?

That they, they were, my girlfriends have said it [00:14:00] to multiple women. But now in my golden years age of 45, I know truly I know I've only loved two women, and it was the one that cheated on me in college. I did truly love her. Now y'all will say, but you cheated on her all the time. I still loved her. Okay. I was just selfish.

The two things can be true. And my ex-wife, I did truly love her. Probably my ex-wife was the one woman that I loved almost unconditionally. Um, almost, almost. But yeah, so a lot of times people will get married thinking that they love somebody. They don't, they love aspects about them but not the person. So that happens.

And if you can't give an honest compliment at your divorce day to get that divorce, that might be something that you wanna [00:15:00] try to deal with because obviously there's still a major issue. Alright, onto the next thing that I thought was absolutely hilarious 'cause it exemplified my life this summer and the statement was, rip to all the, we gotta hang out this summer, people that didn't happen.

Summer Plans That Never Happened 😅☀️

Bruce Anthony: We'll try again next summer. And let me tell you, I said in the spring I was gonna be outside this summer. That's what I said. I said I'm gonna be outside this summer. I'm gonna go get it this summer. I made all these plans with, with friends saying, we gonna go here, we gonna go do that. I'm gonna stop by your house.

'cause I haven't seen your house and the new house that you bought five years ago. Don't judge me. Yes. I got a friend that bought a new house five to six years ago. To me, it's still new. She may have bought it five or six years ago, but to me it's still new because I haven't been there yet to [00:16:00] go visit her.

Uh, to my credit, there's been some times where we made plans that she forgot and, and she was like, oh, I'm outta town. And I was like, all right, I just wanna point out that I put this in my Google calendar. I recognize that this was the time I was supposed to come visit you. And it didn't happen. 'cause you outside, ladies and gentlemen, I was not outside this summer.

It was hot outside. It was ungodly outside. I wasn't even outside to do my evening walks. I would go down to the gym to do my walks in the treadmill. It was too damn hot. It was hot outside. Look, it's so hot. You can't breathe in the DC area. Who wants to be outside? I don't. And it was proven by the fact that I didn't go outside this summer.

And I'm gonna be real honest. The final part of this phrase that I found on Instagram, we'll try again next summer. We could try. We can try. We ain't gonna succeed because it keeps getting hotter [00:17:00] every summer. That means that next summer's gonna be even hotter than this summer and I'm gonna be a year older.

Nah, I can't take that heat. Uhuh. I wanna be inside the house with air conditioning. We could be inside. We could be inside. But I'm not going to be outside. I'm not gonna be outside. So if we going hang, we're going to hang inside. I look, lemme tell y'all something. I went. To go visit my sister when she was in town last weekend.

Everybody knows I don't have a car and I use public transportation. Do I use the bus there? I got a free bus in my city, so it'll take me to and fro the metro, but most of the time when I'm going out, I'm just taking an Uber. The Uber where she was gonna be at was gonna be like $50. I said, I'm gonna take public trends.

I'm gonna take the Metro. But as I'm waiting for the metro, just standing there sweating profusely 'cause I got this ball head, sweat it through all my moisturizer. What was the point of even putting moisturizer on? I sweat it through it 'cause it's just ungodly [00:18:00] hot out there. And then I'm like, I got my colognes and my body lotions.

You know, I'm trying to smell good, look good. That's, that's the presentation I'm trying to present when I'm outside and then I'm thinking to myself, I'm sweaty as hell. Did I sweat past all the good smells that I had? Am I gonna smell like outside when I get there? No, I don't want to go outside during the summertime.

I'll catch you in the fall, I'll be outside in the fall. You know when the air's crisp and it's not as hot and I can breathe. Yeah. Then I'm gonna be outside. But for next summer, nah man, you know I'm not going. I'm gonna do exactly what I did this summer. Not a damn thing. I went out a couple of times and was sweating.

I don't, I don't like to sweat, you know what I'm saying? I did everything possible not to sweat. I even got a fat man's towel when I go out to try and dap the sweat. But with a bald head, it don't work. Just be sweating profusely. That's just, that's just how life presents itself for me. [00:19:00] So rip to all the plans I had of going outside this summer and, and rip to all the plans you might have had going outside this summer.

The summer was hot as hell, so we ain't gonna do nothing. And guess what? Next summer, we ain't gonna do anything ever. Outside either. That's just what it's going to be. But with that being said, there's a reason why I won't go outside right now 'cause I live in the DMV area. For those that don't know, the DMV area is the district, Maryland, Virginia, the district being Washington, dc and I'm gonna get into the reason why I'm not going out into D into DC next.

Bruce Anthony: So, like I said in the last segment, I live in the DMV area, that's the district, Maryland and Virginia, the district being Washington, dc And if you've been paying attention to the news at all, [00:20:00] you know that Trump has taken over the law enforcement in the city and before jumping on filming this. I saw a headline and I didn't get to really read the headline, but I saw the headline that he is issuing National Guard in 19 different states.

If you're not paying attention to what's going on, I see it from a historian perspective. There's not gonna be a traditional transfer of power when his term is up, it's gonna be something else. And if you're his, an historian, you know that these type of things, though, extremely unfortunate, extremely depressing, kind of have to happen.[00:21:00]

And this is what I mean. I love taking the quote from Clemenza and the Godfather when Michael asked him, Hey, we're about to go to war with the other. Families. There are five families in New York. They're about, there was about to be four families against the Corleone family. 'cause they, you know, they attacked Don Corleone and the Corleone family was gonna strike back.

And Michael Corleone asked Clemenza, how bad is it gonna be? Clemenza says, it's gonna be bad, it's gonna be real bad. But this needs to happen every 10, 15 years or so to clear out the bad blood. I live, I live by that quote every time there's unrest anywhere.

DC Takeover: A Historical Perspective 🏛️⚖️

Bruce Anthony: And me being a historian, realizing that when you're dealing with a fascist dictator or an authoritative dictator government, have you, these things [00:22:00] have to happen.

That push, that push for more and more authority has to happen for the revolution to truly be born. People that are indifferent to their rights, their liberties being trampled because it's not happening to them. Eventually that dictator or that authoritative government, that fascist government goes, doesn't overreach for power and it starts to affect the people that were unaffected before.

And then they start to get angry and they join the fight. And that's always, that's always what happens in these type of regimes. Going back to the beginning of time, all empires have fallen, all of 'em. What would make America so different? And America is absolutely an empire. And we've [00:23:00] already had a revolution twice in this country.

We had the quote unquote American Revolution and there was another revolution. There was a civil war. It was a revolution for both sides. One side was right, one side was wrong. North was right, south was wrong. It's clear. So Trump has, you know, decided that, uh, the movements of consolidating power in the last eight months, it's not enough.

And this was all written in their project 2025 handbook that we all tried to tell you that this was gonna happen. But now it's starting to affect other people. And what I mean by other people in the DC area, there's a lot of wealth in dc What's in DC is a lot of wealthy, liberal, and conservative white people.

And [00:24:00] in this country, no movement for righteousness. Conclusion to righteousness and movements happens until the majority starts to take action. That's just been the case throughout our history. The marginalized can speak up, they can yell and scream,

Law & Order or Just Order? DC's Wild New Reality 🚓🗽

Bruce Anthony: but it is not until people in the majority start to take notice and start to move in.

That action does true, true progress start to happen. And we are starting to see it in Washington DC as people are protesting people, people that live in Washington DC are starting to protest. They're not writing, but they're letting their voice be known that this occupation is not what they want. So I put on my author hat, and I haven't done it in a while.

I [00:25:00] wrote something, wrote something that's been in my thoughts for like the last week and a half, and I just sat down and I wrote it and I, I think it's okay. What I'm going to do is I'm gonna read what I wrote, that it's my opinion about this entire thing I put on my writer and teacher's hat, and I'm also gonna post it online.

It's gonna be on unsolicited perspectives.com, in the blog section. I know I haven't written in a long time. I really enjoyed writing this. I really enjoyed writing. You know, I don't know why I stopped. Maybe I start to pick it back up as a hobby. I've just really busy, but I took the time and this was relatively, this came to me relatively quickly.

It didn't take me a long time to write. Um, but I'm gonna read it to you guys and I think it will effectively explain everything that's going on now. So for those people who are on the other side of the country [00:26:00] or on the other side of the earth, because we have people that are in other countries listening and watching.

Thank you, by the way. I appreciate it. This is gonna give you a perspective, a firsthand perspective of what's going on here in DC because I live here and I'm experiencing it. So law and order or just order over law. If you live in Washington, DC Congratulations. You've just become the first city in modern American history to have your police department put in timeout by the president of the United States and August, 2025, Donald Trump ordered a federal takeover of DC's Police, 2000 National Guard troops, federal agents on the streets, tanks of rhetoric rolling through neighborhoods where the crime rate is actually at its lowest level in decades.

That's right. The city is safer than it's been in years, but somehow Trump says crime is rampant. That's like calling the fire department because your [00:27:00] microwave popcorn burned. Not saying that I ever did that, but maybe. And of course, he showed up in person flank Bach, cops smiling for the cameras, hinting that he'd bring in the military if necessary, a 30 day operation.

But let's be real, when was the last time government power politely stepped back after 30 days? And DC is just the first stop. Trump already named Chicago was probably next, then New York City, and the sun floated Portland, Oregon because nothing says clear and present danger like anarchists at a poetry reading.

But let's look at who's being targeted. Washington DC Mayor. Mayor Bowser, black woman, Democrat Chicago. Mayor Brandon Johnson. Black man, Democrat, New York, C City Mayor Eric Adams, black man, Democrat, [00:28:00] big cities Democrat, led black leadership. You don't need a magnifying glass to see a pattern. Here's the twist.

If Trump really wanted to crack down on America's most dangerous cities, he wouldn't start with DC or New York or Chicago because 13 of the 20 cities with the highest murder rates are in Republican led states. States like Mississippi, Alabama, Missouri, Tennessee, Louisiana. Places where the homicide rates make DC look like it's running Senior Citizens Book Club.

So why isn't a National guard in Jackson, Mississippi or Memphis, Tennessee? Because this isn't about crime, it's about control. It's about spectacle and it's about who gets painted as dangerous. History has receipts every time government [00:29:00] bends the rule to give police more power. Human rights take a hit.

Civil liberties erode, stop and frisk in New York where millions of innocent black and Latino residents stopped for no reason. Excessive force rises. We've seen it in racial justice protests with pepper spray, tear gas, and rubber bullets. It happened right here in Washington dc I was out there earlier in the day.

I came home to work. A lot of my friends were pepper sprayed and tear gassed. All while the president Donald Trump held a Bible upside down political descent gets crushed from Jim Crow to the Warn Drugs Law and Order. Has often meant law against certain people order over others, and accountability gone.

Is Safety Worth the Price? Rights, Protests & Power Moves ✊🔒

Bruce Anthony: When police power [00:30:00] expands your avenues to fight back shrink. So when Trump takes over DC Police, it's not just about one city, it's about normalizing a precedent where federal power, steamrolls, local control, wherever it's politically convenient, but just a few miles up the road, there's a completely different story.

Baltimore mayor, Brandon Scott didn't call in troops, didn't militarize his streets, didn't pose for photo ops with Humvees, he treated crime like a public health crisis. He targeted those most at risk of violence. Offer support. Intervention and second chances invested in housing, jobs, youth programs, and trauma treatment.

He built trust, not just tougher laws. And what were the results? Homicides down 28%. Non-fatal shootings down [00:31:00] 19%. Baltimore's lowest crime rate in 50 years. 50 years. No troops, no tanks, no takeover, just strategy, data, and community. So let's call this what it is. Trump's crime wave takeover isn't about safety.

It's about power. It's about image. It's about race. Because when cities with black major mayors and large black populations are painted as lawless, it becomes easier to justify extraordinary force. But Baltimore proves. If there's another way, you don't need soldiers on corners to keep people safe. You need investment, partnership vision.

At the end of the day, the real question isn't about crime rates, it's about democracy. Do we want law and order that [00:32:00] means soldiers in the streets and rights in the shredder, or do we want safety built on justice, opportunity and trust? Because once you trade in your freedoms for someone else's definition of order, you might not get 'em back.

And the only thing scarier than crime in the streets is freedom under lock and key.

Bruce Anthony: I was talking to a friend earlier today and she is a, I think, a hilarious person, cute girl, fun personality, just giving up on dating, and the reason why she says she's giving up on dating is because of all the cringe stories. And I said, yeah, you know, it's a lot of cringe stories out there. Look, I've [00:33:00] gone on some bad dates.

Some of them I told on the show about the time I was punched that, uh, for will forever be the craziest date that I've gone on. I've gone on on dates where the dates went really well, extremely well, never heard from the person again. Uh, things like that just kind of happened. Like you never know what somebody is actually going through in their own personal life.

Sometimes people are just lonely, don't want to be, uh, alone, bored when they go out on dates. Some of these men out here are real creepy, but race, basically when it comes down to is everybody is self-absorbed and our options are almost limitless due to technology. Hell, I was in a lifetime in the two thousands where you could only really date the people that were around you.

Like MySpace was kind of a thing. Facebook hadn't become a thing yet, so you had to go outside out in the streets and actually meet people and talk to people. You [00:34:00] only met the people that you act, the places that you actually went to. So your pool were limited. So that's how I have friends that are still married today because they met their person a long time ago because they would stop and focus on that person.

It's very hard to focus nowadays when you got so many different options. So there's

Modern Dating: Cringe Stories & Red Flags 💘🚩

Bruce Anthony: so many stories that, that I come across my algorithm on these social media and I just find them hilarious and wanna share my opinion. So this first story is about a man that takes out a woman on a date, and then she explains her experience after the date.

The key. Title for this is The Woman Reveals Date left her to pay for her own meal because she didn't know how to properly eat a steak. Now, the headline to this makes it seem like, oh, he is definitely wrong, [00:35:00] but I was curious, so I wanted to see what her response to all of this was. So this is what she posted.

I finally let this guy take me out after he stayed in my dms begging for a chance just for him to play in my face and walk out on me at a restaurant. If y'all man can't afford to take women out, stop begging for dates. It said he had to come up with a lame excuse just to leave me stuck with the bill and couldn't, I couldn't even afford.

And the crazy part, his issue was me not knowing how to eat a steak. Like be for real as a man. It's your job to teach me, not embarrass me. So not only is he broke, but he's lacking masculinity too. I'm exposing him because the world needs to know how he did me. Okay. Um, not everybody takes etiquette class.

I remember going on a date. Uh, no. I remember going out with one of my girlfriend's families and [00:36:00] my fam, look, my mom and dad had me very young. We went through multiple. Social economic stages. By the time I was 21, we went through all of them, right? Like we come from welfare to the point where my parents built their own house, like built their own house by the time I was 21.

So in those 21 years, we literally went from rats and roaches, welfare in the house, maybe not rats, definitely roaches and welfare in the house, to them building their own. I, I believe that house was two 3000 square feet, maybe 4,000 square feet. It was huge. It was a huge house. Okay? So I've gone through every socioeconomical experience, and what I learned was is that people that have, uh, I don't know, people that have money, have experienced things that I never experienced before.

So I'm going out with my girlfriend and her family. She's [00:37:00] Puerto Rican and Cuban. I'm in Miami. And we go out to this really nice restaurant and as I explain what I did, guys, I know how bad this was, but at the time I was 21, 20, 21, I didn't realize how bad it was. So her mom says, oh Bruce, you should try this.

And I said, okay. And she takes her fork with food in it and kind of puts it in my direction. I take my hand and I take my hand and take the food off the fork and put it in my mouth. My girlfriend taps me in her arm. She's like, that's not the right way to take food from somebody. You're supposed to, you know, eat, scrape it off of their fork onto your plate.

And I was like, oh, I didn't know. 'cause sometimes you just don't know. So this woman out to, on a date with this man doesn't know how to eat the steak properly and okay. How bad was she [00:38:00] eating a steak? Like she didn't know how to cut it. She ordered it. Well done. That always tells me where, what experiences you've had in your life if you ordering a well done steak.

'cause let me tell you something. I understand the history of why people order a well done steak and typically you're coming from meager means and you're getting poor quality meat. So you have to make sure you cook it thoroughly and that means well done. But good meat, you ain't gotta do that. I actually eat my steak medium rare.

I like blood and my steak makes the steak juicier. It took me a long time and working in the restaurant industry before I found out that's what you're supposed to be doing. But nevertheless, I eventually found out because my taste evolved, I climbed out of the meager financial, uh, beginnings that I had and experienced more things.

So did you order a steak well? What, what did she do? Well, ladies and gentlemen, um, she [00:39:00] ate the steak with her hands. She picked up the steak like it was a cheeseburger and ate her with the hands. Now, was he wrong for just leaving? More than likely, yes. He could have explained to her how to properly eat a steak, but I haven't read to y'all the exchange that these two people had.

Steak Date Disaster: When Etiquette Goes Out the Window 🥩😳

Bruce Anthony: So here is the exchange that these two people had. Hey, are you okay? This is her. Hey, are you okay? You've been gone for, from the table for like 10 minutes. He texts back. I left. She responds. What you mean? You left? You haven't even paid. And you said you were going to the bathroom. He responds. I paid for my food, dude.

What the FI hope this is a joke. He responds. The joke is you a woman that's almost 40 picking up a steak and biting it like you're an animal. You're embarrassing [00:40:00] and classless and I hate I ever hopped in your dm. You're nothing like you appear on the internet. She responds, man, I only allowed you to take me on this date so I could get a meal.

Ain't no way you playing in my face like this. A real man would've shown me how to properly eat the steak if you broke and can't afford me. You shouldn't have taken me out on a date. I don't have the money for this food. You need to cash at me. He responds, shorty, you got your meal. You just gotta pay for it.

Be blessed. Big rabbit teeth.

I'm sorry. That's funny. Big rabbit teeth. Alright, so they're both wrong. Karma is a mother, so you and her dms you trying to get with her. Because you have this perception of that she portrays on the internet of the woman that she is, you meet her and realize that's not the woman that you saw on the internet and you decide to bounce [00:41:00] you wrong for that.

I don't know if it's a man's job to teach people. I think it's all our jobs, male or female, to help people evolve. So as she grabbed a steak with her big teeth chomping on it, he could say, Hey, it would be a little easier if you take the fork and the steak at knife and cut it and you don't have to get your hands dirty and it'll be easier to chew.

Um, instead of you trying to tear it apart with your teeth, that's one way you could approached it instead of automatically being disgusted. Now this is Karma for her as well because she clearly states that she was using him to get a free meal. So baby girl, you ain't get that free meal. You didn't get it 'cause you was using somebody.

So y'all both got karma, right? Him thinking that she was all that popping up, she ain't all that might've been the girl of your dreams in [00:42:00] your head. In reality she was not. And ma'am, you get it because you was using him to get a free meal. Not because, hey, he's been in my dms, he's been wanting to take me out.

Let me give this guy a chance. He might be an interesting person. I might have a good time. Nope, it was to get a free meal and how you gonna come with no money? No money. Let me explain to women out there. I don't agree with this. I'm old school. I believe a man pays for the first date. I believe a man actually pays for the second date.

By the time we get to the third date, it's whoever asks the other person out. Uh, I've gone on a three dates with a woman and she ain't paid. She ain't getting no fourth date. She don't even pump fake. She ain't getting no fourth date. She ain't even really getting a third date if she don't pump fake. That happened to me recently, like six, seven months ago, where I took a woman out twice.

She ain't even pump fake. I was not, there was not gonna be a third date. And she had a big old booty. [00:43:00] She did. Um, women nowadays you need to have your own money just in case. I got a lot of female friends and sometimes they. Guys asked to go Dutch. I don't, that's not my cup of tea, but I'm not going to knock another man for saying Let's go Dutch, because let me explain something to you ladies out here.

Traditionally, traditionally speaking, we're the ones that pay on the first date. If you going on a lot of first date, that costs, that's not money to come outta your pocket. How much money does it really cost for a woman to date when you're in a relationship? Yes, but to date, it's the, the burden financially is on men and men in the manos sphere.

Don't come in here co-signing what I'm saying. 'cause I'm not an ally for y'all. I'm just thinking, generally speaking, the financial burden on dating typically falls on the man. That doesn't mean that women shouldn't have, [00:44:00] women shouldn't have their own money just in case that man says, let's go Dutch. And I don't know how to judge a man, uh, in today's climate if he asks to go Dutch, because I don't know what he's doing in his personal life.

But if you ask a woman out, bro, that's on you. So he should have paid for the meal. He could have paid for the meal and, but like I'm never hanging out with you again 'cause you are not the class of woman I would like to date. I think it probably had to do more with just a steak, but honestly, 40 years old and you don't know how to eat a steak properly, you grab it with your hands and he actually has a picture of, I'm not gonna post that, but if you Google search it, you'll find it.

He, he posted a picture of her eating a steak and she eating it like a hamburger. GNA at it. It is. If I ever took a woman out and she was eating a steak like that, I'd be like, [00:45:00] I'm never going out with this woman ever again. But they both wrong. But that is a cringed story. Like, you know, do, been in your DMS for a while and you know,

Who Pays? The Great First Date Debate 💸🤷‍♂️

Bruce Anthony: finally allow him to take you out and he act a fool.

Hey. Alright, here's another story. A boyfriend and a girlfriend get into an argument. The argument is over the fact that she's wearing shorts and a tank top to the gym to work out. Now this woman was curvy. Look, lemme tell you something. I saw the picture of her. If she was in my gym working out, I'd definitely be sneaking some looks.

She looked good. She looked good. But I have friends who are female trainers. I also work with female trainers, but I have friends that I actually talk to personally on like a personal level. People that work in the company that I work [00:46:00] for. Like I'm their boss, so I don't talk to 'em on a personal level like this.

That's an hr, that's an HR violation. But my friends who are personal trainers or who work out the gym. I talk to 'em all the time about what they wear and, and they constantly say, we wear what's comfortable. Can it be revealing sometime? Yes. But we wear what's comfortable. Well, the, her boyfriend in this, in this uh, post was furious.

Furious about what she wore at the gym. And she was like, I don't know why you're tripping. And he was like, yo, why are you wearing this in the gym? She was like, you knew what I was wearing when I left the house. He was like, nah, you had baggy clothes on, quote unquote pump cuffers. And she was like, yeah, but you knew what I had on underneath.

Yeah, I didn't think that you was gonna work out in that. Why would I work out in baggy clothes when I'm at the gym? It's gonna get hot. Eventually I'm gonna take them off. This is my workout gear. He says to her, if I knew I was gonna be dating a hoe, I wouldn't have dated a hoe. She was like, I'm a hoe because I wore certain outfit [00:47:00] at the gym.

Like, how ridiculous. You not gonna call me out my name like that? What was my immediate thought? Because I went into the comments and sure enough. Sure enough, there was a bunch of men having a major issue about what she's wearing at the gym. If that was my girl, she couldn't wear that. That was my girl. I wouldn't wear her to wear that.

Gym Clothes & Double Standards: Insecurity Unleashed 🏋️‍♀️😠

Bruce Anthony: And it's pretty clear to me, uh, that men are definitely insecure. So when men sit out there and say women shouldn't wear certain things, I, I always ask the question, why? Because they're presenting a certain thing a certain way. No, that's your perception. That's doesn't mean that's reality. Well, if I perceive it that way, there's reality.

No, no. Still your perception. There's perception. There's reality. There's two different things. Can perception be reality? Yeah, but not in this case, this case, this woman who has a man that she lives with is just going [00:48:00] to the gym to work out this insecure man is having an issue with what she's wearing.

Maybe I'm different. Maybe I'm different. Because I routinely date bad women. And what I mean by bad women, women that get attention from other men, how do you think they drew my attention physically? Have I dated women who are physically, you know, don't draw that much attention? Yes. Because that's not the be all end all.

But traditionally speaking, I've dated women that draw attention. And when I was younger, when they drew that attention, yeah, they used to bother me in my toxic masculinity years that used to bother me. As I've gotten older, it's been a badge of honor to know that you are dating a woman that other men can't stop looking [00:49:00] at.

Jealousy, Trust, and Dating Bad Baddies 💃🔒

Bruce Anthony: Almost fawning over 'cause she's so fine. She's so beautiful. Just her presence makes people stop and stare. Because that's my woman. Why am I gonna get jealous? Also, I can't control her, don't wanna control her. She's with me for a reason. If for some strange reason she does something with somebody else, I can't stop her from doing anything with anybody else.

And I'm not trying to hold nobody under lock and key, let people do what they going to do. You afraid that she's gonna cheat on you? Then you might wanna reevaluate the situation that you're in. I mean, anything's possible and anybody's possible of anything given the right circumstances. If you go through life realizing that, then you will be better for it.

You'll be a lot better for it. So, I can't understand why men would get upset that other men are gonna look at their women except for the fact that they're insecure. One of [00:50:00] my women that I dated, I dated her, I mean, almost a year. Uh, it was a, it was a few years ago that I dated. Very, very attractive. She could have been a, I used to tell her all the time, you could be an Insta Instagram fitness model.

Like your body is crazy. Like her body was absolutely crazy, right? Like real life people would've thought she had a BBL, but that just was natural. And she worked out all the time at the gym. She didn't wear like crazy clothes. Like that wasn't her thing. But when we went out, she told me an outfit that she wore one time, she had worn it before with a guy that she had previously dated a couple of years before, and he said, oh, you about to wear that tank top outfit, because it was a dress that literally like just fell below the curve of her butt cheek.

We were out and about. I remember we went to several places that night and I was like, wow, that dress looks amazing. She [00:51:00] was like, you not upset that I'm wearing this? I'm like, hell no. I'm not upset that I'm wearing this. She was like, you know people gonna be looking. I was like, yeah, I expect like when we're out, people are going to be looking at us.

Not just you by the way. Not just you. By the way, they're gonna be checking me out as well, but I know the majority of the time men are gonna be looking at you. I'm not tripping over that. She's like, you're really secure. I look, yes, I am secure. Like I don't, I've been cheated on. It's not the greatest thing in the world, but it's not something that you can't get over the fear of being hurt.

You can't live your life like that. This guy is clearly offended that his woman wore that because of fear of the attention that you get, because of fear that that attention may bring her to some other man, and that's not anything that you can control. I didn't agree with him. And I knew a lot of men in the comments agreed with them.

And that's real funny that y'all always say that, but you [00:52:00] know, a lot of men out there have a double standard, right? They say What I can do is different than what a woman can do. And in some ways, some ways they are correct. Sex, sex for men and women are diff is different. It's been studies that proven that the physical nature of it is just, I mean, obviously the physical nature of it, but the, uh, chemicals that are let loose in the body for, for females and males, it's just completely different.

So, but with, even with that being said, I don't give a damn about a woman's past halftime. I don't give a damn about a woman's present. The only thing I care about is what that future holds. That's just me. That, and it took me a long time to get there. It took me a long time to get there. It took me 30 plus years to finally get there.

And some men never get there. Some [00:53:00] men are so territorial she better not do nothing better. Not looking at me. She, she, that guy is making her laugh. So what? The dude is funny. Get over it. I look, don't date a bad bee unless you can handle a bad bee. That goes for women too. Don't date a, don't date a dude that's holding it down.

If you can't date a dude that's holding it down, I have a lot of female friends. For some women that date me, that rubs 'em the wrong way. 'cause even some of my friends I've actually got history with, but we're just friends now and I'm like, they're my friends. I chose you. I ain't got no time or the patience to try and lie to you 'cause I can't keep up with lies 'cause I can't keep up with the stories that I tell 'cause I can't keep up with the conversations I have with people.

It's too difficult. I'm not gonna live my life like that. So I'm not gonna lie to you. I'm going to be honest and I'm with you because I want to be with you. If I wanted to be with them, I would be with them. But I'm with you because I want to be with you. There's no [00:54:00] reason for you to fear them. I'm here guys, when they with you.

Respect the fact that they with you. Alright, the final one is a list of places that women don't want to go on a first date. Now this is old. But it came across my, uh, Al algorithm again and I was like, oh, they some, they done added some things on the list. Now we always know what the first list is. Once again, these are a list of places that women refuse to go on the first state.

Places Women Won't Go on First Dates 🍽️❌

Bruce Anthony: We already know what the first one is. Cheesecake Factory. And you know what? I'm cool with that. Cheesecake Factory is low key, kind of expensive. I went to the Cheesecake Factory about three, four years ago and I was like, this is ridiculous how much I'm spending. And, and it took me 35 minutes to read through the whole menu to decide, decide what I wanted to eat.

So if you don't wanna go there, cool. 'cause I don't want to go there. Applebee's, Chili's, Chipotle, olive Garden. Hey, look, I understand if you don't want [00:55:00] to go to any of these places on a first date, if you're of a certain age, if you're in your teens, your early twenties, those are perfectly fine establishments to go on the first date.

'cause you ain't got no bread unless you're one of these Gen Z people that you know. Found a hustle, which by the way, a lot of these Gen Z people are doing that. So maybe, but I know at 20, 20 years old, Applebee's, Chili's, Chipotle, and Olive Garden was all I could afford. And actually, I don't even know why Chipotle is in that list, because Applebee's, Chili's, olive Garden.

Olive Garden, I get it. Chipotle. Chipotle is basically fast food. So women are right. Going to Chipotle for a first date is not good. Not an official date. The movies, the movies are always a horrible place to go on a first date because you can't talk to the person. You just sit there watching the movie. So I actually agree with women.

The house on the first date. I just told this to one of my female friends the [00:56:00] other day, do not go to a man's house on the first. Date. It's not even if I, I don't invite women to my house on the first date. Mm. Not the initial date. Maybe if the date is going well, I'll suggest, Hey, do you wanna go back to my place and hang out?

We can sit on my balcony, have some wine or some drinks or something like that, and just vibe. But I've even stopped doing that, realizing that, you know, I, I didn't, it's not my intention, but women can sometimes feel trapped in a guy's apartment. You know, not knowing, not knowing the guy, 'cause it's a first date, not knowing that he'll, how he'll respond to rejection and history says men ain't out here responding to rejection.

Well, I'm not one of those people. I can handle rejection, but a lot of dudes can't. So, yes, I understand women saying they don't wanna go to the house on a first date. Back to these fast food chain restaurants. I understand that, but come on, Buffalo Wild Wings. That's along with [00:57:00] Applebee's and Chili's and Olive Garden, and they also got Wingstop and Red Lobster.

Like who doesn't wanna go to Red Lobster? I wish a woman would take me on a date, first date to Red Lobster Ladies out there. If y'all wanna take me on a first date to Red Lobster, by all means, take me to Red Lobster. I love Red Lobster. A buffet, I mean, yeah, that I can understand. Not wanting to go to buffet.

These are also, the next two are also one of them fast food type places. IHOP and Denny's. No, not on a first date. Now, however, dig this here. If you've gone on a date, let's say y'all went bar hopping, right? Or let's say y'all went to a club or a lounge or something like that. You had drinks. Y'all are vibing.

And then afterwards, it's on a late night and the date is going so well that you don't want to end the night. The only places that are really open to eat are IHOP and Denny's. That's okay, but for an initial like, Hey, let's, on this first date, let's go to IHOPs. No, I agree with [00:58:00] women on here. That's absolutely unacceptable.

The gym. Now I'm going to combat this. I'm gonna combat these. Next two is the gym and church. Those are perfectly fine first dates, because that's showing, that's the man showing the woman what's important to him. Have I done that? Actually, I have. I have gone on first dates to the gym and it's just been like, Hey, like what are you doing?

You trying to make plans or something? I gotta go to the gym. Well, I gotta go to the gym today too. Oh, you wanna go to the gym with me? We can go work out together. You go work out and you grab something out to eat. If you are a gym person, that's a great first date. Not great. It's a good first date. Church.

Now, I ain't been to church in a long time, but if I was a person that went to church, I would want you to participate in what I feel like is that part of my life. There's nothing wrong with going to church. You go to church and they have you in nice little brunch afterwards. That's a good first date. You going to pray as the Lord and then get your [00:59:00] grub on.

All right. That's a good first date. Uh, Starbucks. I Starbucks or coffee dates. Lemme explain something to y'all, what I explained earlier, it is extremely expensive for men to be out here dating. It's too expensive to be going on multiple dates. I had a friend, I used to call him Mr. 51st dates 'cause he always was going on first dates, coffee dates are really good.

Coffee or grab a quick drink. Right. It's really good because you're sitting down, you're having a conversation and you're trying to see if it's compatible to see if you want to go on future dates. I'm not taking you out to dinner on a first date 'cause I don't like going out to dinner, period. Right. But I'm not taking you out to dinner on a first date.

I'm just not doing, I'm not spending that type of bread. I want to know who you are and if you're saying that I'm broke, cool. I'll just be broke to you 'cause I'm just not going to do it. Um, ice cream dates, are you kidding me? I went on an ice cream date on the first date. It was [01:00:00] cool. We got some ice cream.

We walked around the park and talked. Those are good dates. If that's not a good day for you woman, then I, you know, I'm just not the dude for you Family functions. Now I actually agree. Don't be bringing no woman or no man for no first date to no family function. Now we talking about what women say is that they are refuse to do on a first date.

And women, I get it. If a dude taking you to a family function on a first date, that's crazy. I would never take a woman on a to a family function on the first date. Never, ever movie, movie night, Netflix, Hulu, et cetera. That's just basically coming to the house. That's a no-no. Somewhere where that requires a long drive.

Alright? I think this is absurd. Like maybe it's a special, uh, location. Maybe y'all, you know, maybe the first date is going hiking or something like that. He got something planned, a little picnic afterwards. You not willing to go for a long drive. I mean, what if, what if he's picking you up and y'all just riding in the car together?

You [01:01:00] can't vibe in the car. Have a conversation listening to music while you get to your destination. That's crazy to me. Uh, bowling. I think bowling is a cool first date. You get the competitive juices out there. See what these people is really about. So I'm not trip. I'm not, I'm not, that's, I'm not agreeing with women on that one.

Nightclubs depends. Is it one of these big box clubs? Box clubs? Or is it a lounge? If it's a lounge, I, you know, I don't agree. Like you can go to a lounge on the first date, find you a little seat, listen to music, have a drink that vibe and have a conversation. Now nightclubs those big box nightclubs, no you can't, that's not someplace that you take somebody on a first date hookah bar.

I don't know. I don't go to hookah bars 'cause I don't smoke hookah. But it seemed like hookah bars are like a cool thing. So I don't know why women wouldn't want to go there for a first date. It's all, it's basically a lounge. It's music, it's drinks, and it's hookah. Why is that bad for a first date? Bar for just drinks.

I told you I'm not spinning that bread to take you [01:02:00] out to dinner. We're gonna go to a bar for just drinks or you cannot go on a date with me. I'm absolutely cool with that because I wanna find out who you are as a person, have this conversation, and also you're not gonna hit my pocketbooks on the, on the first date.

And besides going to drinks, going to get drinks in Washington, DC or the surrounding area, that's a grip anyway. So it ain't about me being broke 'cause that's gonna cost a lot of money. We wanna get to know each other. It's not about the experience, it's about the person. It's what's important on the first date, A Waffle House that goes along with Denny's and ihop.

I actually agree with that. That shouldn't be used in the first date. And the last one, sporting events. I, I wouldn't take a first date to a sporting event, but I remember that I was dating a woman. We went out on dates. We weren't dating yet. She wanted to date, but I told her, I was like, no, I, I still go out on dates with [01:03:00] other women.

So she went out on a date with another dude. The disrespect that she treated this guy with I thought was absurd. 'cause she's on a date with the dude. This dude got her court side seats to a Wizards game. She's texting me her seats at the Wizards game and I'm like, yo, you real close to, to the, the court.

Was this one of your clients or something like that? Because I didn't know she was on a date. I was like, is this one of your clients or something like that? No. I was like, yo, are you on a date right now? She's like, yeah, I'm on a date. I was like, you're texting another dude you're talking to that has not done anything like that, besides take you out for drinks.

You're texting another dude you're talking to while you're outta date with another guy that has actually got you court side seats to the Wizards game, and you're bragging about how closer the court you are with me, but you're with him. That is extremely [01:04:00] disrespectful to him. It's made me feel great, but I was like, yo, I would be livid and you would never go on a date with me if I knew that you was texting another dude while you were on a date with me after I spent that type of bread.

She obviously enjoyed the experience, so I don't know if a sporting event on a first date is necessarily a bad thing, but if women say they don't want to go to a sporting event, maybe they're just not a sports person. I, I have female friends who are sports junkies who are into sports more than I am, who routinely go.

To all the stadiums to go see different football games. Love going to arenas, love going to sporting events. We'll travel to other countries to go experience sporting events. If you took them on a first date to a sporting event, they would love it. So teach their own, I guess. But some of those things in the list, bit ridiculous.

But a lot of the things and the list, I actually agree with women, the most important thing is to be safe out there and also come with your [01:05:00] own money. 'cause you might be left at the restaurant by yourself 'cause you ate a steak with your hands. That's a possibility. But on that note, ladies and gentlemen, I want to thank you for listening.

I want to thank you for watching, and until next time, as always, I'll holler.

Outro: Thanks for Watching! 👋🙏

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