Housing Nightmares, Football Fiascos & Friendship Math Gone Wrong 🏡🏈🤯

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Squatters, Side Pieces, and Split Bills 😱💔💸

Bruce Anthony: we're talking housing, chaos, messy relationships, and why dating somebody does not magically make math stop working. But that's enough of the intro. [00:01:00] Let's get to the show.

Bruce Anthony: Okay, y'all. I swear this is the last. This the last update on the squatting situation here in DC because it is, this squatter story is not just a story about housing, it's a story about audacity. So everything has finally been resolved over the last couple episodes. We've been giving you guys updates, or I have, and I've been antagonized with my sister to talk about this because look, it is in my algorithm.

For anything about this story to pop up, and so finally it got resolved. And I'm gonna give you guys the rundown of exactly what happened. So a DC judge ruled that accused Airbnb squatter Shaza Romero, has [00:02:00] no tendency rights in a northwest Washington home in order that the homeowner can have her removed, validating a prior agreement she signed to leave the property.

The ruling effectively clears the way for an immediate eviction and has intensified debate. Over gaps in DC's tenant and squatter laws. Now I'm gonna get into the agreement that they had and that the court was like, nah, this is valid. I talked about it previously on one of the episodes that they had an agreement, but I, I, I wanna talk about what this story has done in this area, more specifically in DC now.

DC's Tenant Laws Under Fire After Airbnb Nightmare 📜🔥🏛️

Bruce Anthony: Some people are gonna say, this is absolutely ridiculous that this woman was able to live in this place, essentially rent free for about 10 months because of laws, and they're not squatters laws. Squatting is. Against the law, but there [00:03:00] was a debate of whether or not she was actually a tenant and this would have stretched out longer had it not been for this agreement that they signed, that I'll get into later.

And Sja Romero could potentially, could have potentially still been in the house for an even longer period of time costing the homeowner mad money. They, the homeowner, it was reported that the homeowner was paying the $4,000 a month mortgage but couldn't anymore because she wasn't getting any income, and that the mortgage payment went up to 10,000 a month.

I don't know what mortgage agreement that she had. I gotta talk to some real estate people, but that's crazy to jump up two and a half times. Well, it's not two and a half times, but y'all know what I mean. More than double is absolutely crazy. But there's a reason why there are tenant laws [00:04:00] because as crazy as this story is and is as unfortunate as it is for this homeowner, and let's make no mistake about it, it is absolutely a travesty for this homeowner.

If you also pay attention to DC housing, you will know there are a lot of shoddy landlords. You'll know that they are and that they will have people living in squalor breaking the law, and that there are still laws that protect landlords. And people, tenants have to take landlords to court to get them to do their job slumlords.

So while everybody is looking at this and while there is a, a hubbub, god that is so corny and old, but whatever, there is a hubb over this story. This harkens back to a couple of episodes that I did a few weeks ago where I talked about. Making rash decisions, making [00:05:00] emotional decisions lead to bad things, right?

So everybody, and you have people in DC council, you have people in the city of DC because this story is so bad. You have people now calling for a reversal or a scrubbing of these tenant laws, and I'm like, hold up. Wait a minute, because realize there are way more slumlords in DC than there are actually squatter cases.

This was a, a, a crazy case and like I said, I feel for the homeowner. This was some bullshit that she had to go through. And this squatter, Shadi Romero had done this before. She had done this before and knew the system. There are always gonna be sheisty people. That manipulate the system for their benefit.

That's always [00:06:00] gonna be the case. Remember them PPP loans. Now those loans were go, went out during COVID to help businesses. They were businesses that legitimately need that, help some people finesse the system. And now people were like, well, since they finessed the system, the whole system was wrecked. No.

There are gonna be people that are always gonna finesse the system. That's just how life works. People are always gonna find a way to get over. That doesn't mean that you sacrifice the many because of a few bad apples, but. Let me get back to the story. Don't worry, I will be going on my off the beaten path comments as I'm reading to you guys what, what the latest updates is for the story. The judge found that Romero is not a legal tenant and that a written cash for key style agreement. She signed in October confirming she was a short term Airbnb guest with no lease or tenant rights. [00:07:00] Remains valid because she does not have ancy rights. The court said the homeowner can move forward with having her removed from the property as early as the day of the ruling, rather than going through a prolonged landlord tenant process.

So this is what I was talking about earlier because the court ruled she ain't no tenant. The owner didn't have to go through a long process of evicting a person. And that is a long process, right? It is a long process of evicting a people, but because she was never a tenant, and let my, let me remind you guys what that agreement was, so.

The $2,500 Deal That Changed Everything 💵📝✍️

Bruce Anthony: When she went past her when, uh, Shadi Romero went past her Airbnb time period of 32 days. Right? 'cause she knew exactly how many days that she needed to go. The landlord was like, Hey, look what's going on? After a couple of months, the landlord was like, look, sign this agreement [00:08:00] that you were an Airbnb guest.

You are not a tenant. Here's $2,500 and get the hell out. And Mar Romero agreed to it initially and then backed out the deal. But because she had already signed that agreement, the judge was like, nah, that's valid. You are not a tenant. You need to go on ahead and get the hell out. But Shadi was trying to claim that she was a tenant. This agreement that she signed where she said she wasn't a tenant, proved that she wasn't a tenant, but she had already done a whole bunch of other things. She had changed the locks, and because of the tenant protection framework, the homeowner wasn't allowed to just go ahead and kick her out and changed the locks because before this court case, this was a tenant.

Landlord disagreement. They went to this emergency court [00:09:00] court case where the judge was like, no, this is not a tenant. Landlord agree, uh, disagreement. This person was an Airbnb guest. They're not a tenant. Those rules and laws for tenants do not apply to this person. Go and get the hell out. And I have to just keep acknowledging that Sja Romero is the one who said.

She wasn't a tenant before. She tried to flip back and say that she was a tenant, but you signed that piece of paperwork. Fact of the matter is she should have took the deal months ago. She could have took the deal, took that $2,500 and bounced, but, and this is just my theory, she probably couldn't, and the reason why she probably couldn't is because she had prior evictions on her record.

Which means that odds are she can't get in no apartment. Plus her credit I know has to be [00:10:00] poor because she has evictions and she has car repossessions. Maybe not car repossessions, but. She pulled it down, payment on the car, kept the car, didn't make any more payments on it. I know typically you get repossessed, but I can't confirm that she's ever had a car repossessed.

Well, she showed up to court. She sure as hell had a car. Don't know how she caught it. Maybe she got it from Eastern Motors where your job's, your credit, but your job, her job isn't entrepreneur and working for this nonprofit, which if I was the owner of the nonprofit, she gotta go. She gotta go. So. Here's some crazy stuff.

Caught in Lies: The Eviction History Exposed 🤥⚠️📋

Bruce Anthony: During the latest hearing, Romero was placed under oath and her prior history of evictions and non-payment cases in dc, Maryland, and Virginia was introduced into evidence after she had publicly denied ever being evicted. I, I, it, I told you guys [00:11:00] previously that she did an interview. And that, and in that interview she was convincing, she was convincing, she had convinced me that nah, she had made some payments and gotten an invoice and all that other stuff.

And, uh, she had justifiable reasons in her mind, uh, how she had not been evicted and she had an answer for everything. That's how scammers work. She's a good liar. Okay. In court she says she did not recall whether she had been evicted before and argued those past cases were not relevant, while also asking the judge to seal the case.

The judge agreed only to seal contact details like phone numbers and emails, but not the full file, so pay attention to what she did. Here she's under oath. There's a risk of perjury. This is not a stupid person. This is a very intelligent person. One of the ways that you can [00:12:00] get outta committing perjury is by saying you don't recall.

That's not saying no, that's not saying yes. Nobody can question whether or not you remember doing something or not, or something remember happening. It's a way around committing perjury, but people really know. If you don't recall, odds are you're probably lying. Especially when they got the paperwork right there and they're saying, Hey, uh, you see you got these evictions, right?

And then the audacity, remember what I said? This isn't a court case. This isn't just a story about housing. It's a story about audacity. Her audacity to be like during court. To be like, well, I don't think that's really relevant. No, it is absolutely relevant. You have a history of pulling scams, evolved with housing.

It is completely relevant, [00:13:00] and the fact that she wanted it sealed, she wanted it sealed, so it didn't go on her record. As an eviction 'cause she already got evictions, which also leads me to believe she knows the process of evictions, which means she did recall, but she's trying to pull some damn scams.

But this case has attracted wide attention because it highlights how DC's strong tenant protection regime can collide with situation where property owners say someone is effectively a squatter rather than a lawful renter. Local officials and lawmakers are now openly discussing possible changes to how tenant and landlord are defined, particularly for short term rentals like Airbnb and how possession disputes should be handled in both short and long term.

Okay. Following the ruling, the homeowner proceeded to evict Romero with law enforcement. Present a step that [00:14:00] was documented by the local TV cameras after months of legal, back and forth. Observers say the case could become a. Reference point and future DC disputes over when an occupant crosses from guests to tenant, and whether written agreements like this one can quickly restore possession to owners in similar short term rental conflicts.

And this is where I see a potential problem with fast judgment. Laws that puts more power in the landlord's hands, especially if you do a quick Google search. You will find the many cases of DC landlords being sued, being taken to court for [00:15:00] not fixing mold, not dealing with pest. Not fixing, you know, stairwells and lights, real life, life hazards.

Protecting Tenants vs. Punishing Landlords ⚖️🏘️💭

Bruce Anthony: I don't want this case to turn into a situation where power goes back to the landlords. I don't want that. The power should always be in the tenant's hands. It should, because the tenant. Majority of the time it is paying to live someplace. It's literally fighting for their home. What a landlord is fighting for a business, and I'm not saying that that's not important.

What I'm saying is fighting for your home, it's more important. So I'm not saying that there shouldn't be situations where landlords should be protected. This is a [00:16:00] prime example. There should be a clearer definition of what a tenant and landlord is, but I don't see how that could be quickly resolved.

Because people do short rental stays all the time. People do short rental stays. I know of people personally who have done short rental stays in homes, town homes, apartments three, four months because they're transitioning from selling a home to moving into a new home. Sometimes that new home is being built and they needed to sell the old home in order to build the new home.

So they need temporary housing. And nobody wants to sign a 12 month lease with an apartment building because trust me, anything under 12 months, you are paying 1980 cocaine prices. Okay? And what I mean by that is ridiculous amounts. [00:17:00] Okay? Back in 1980s it was 50,000 a key. That's ridiculous. 'cause you can get a key for probably like, I don't know what, you can get a key for now.

But it's way less than that. But that's the, the point I'm trying to make is shorter rentals for rental properties that are not Airbnbs are way more expensive than just doing an Airbnb for a couple of months. I don't want there to be a rush to change the laws because of this one story, because I gave you this one story.

I can give you 25 more that go the other way. This whole case feels like a warning shot to the system, and lawmakers are definitely paying attention, but are the right decisions going to be made to make sure that there is an even playing ground for everybody? That's really the [00:18:00] question.

When Side Pieces Cost $25 Million 💔💰🚨

Bruce Anthony: Now let's talk about how bad decisions can cost you, millions, your job and your reputation. This story, exactly why HR policy exist and why ignoring 'em is never worth it. So. Y'all wanna get messy? Let's get messy. Y'all heard about the University of Michigan head football coach? Yeah. He just got fired. The story of him getting fired was getting crazier and crazier as each day passed. So. What is his story? The University of Michigan fired head football coach, Sharon Moore, on December 10th, 2025 after an internal investigation found he had an inappropriate relationship with a staff member and concluded this violated school policy leading to a termination for cause.

That's important. I'm gonna get into that [00:19:00] later. Within hours of the firing, he was taken into custody and booked at the Wichita. Cont the Wichita County Jail as a suspect in an alleged assault connected to the situation, and he remained jailed while police pursued charges. If y'all couldn't quite follow, let me break that down again for you.

The University of Michigan fired their head football coach because he had an inappropriate relationship. They found out that it. Violated school policy and they were allowed to terminate him for a cause. Like I said, I'm gonna get into that later. After that, my man was arrested for assault and that assault was connected to this entire situation and he was in jail because the cops is like, we need [00:20:00] to find out what the hell is going on.

It might be some more charges here. It's gonna be some more charges. Michigan's statement said investigators found credible evidence that Moore 39 engaged in an inappropriate relationship with a staff member, which the school called a clear breach of university policy and grounds for immediate dismissal.

Interim President Dko Grass. An athletic director both emphasized that the school has a zero tolerance stance on this kind of conduct and framed it as a serious breach of trust inside the program because the firing was for cause. Mission, Michigan is treating his contract as void going forward, meaning the university does not intend to pay out the remaining value of his five year deal.

Signed in 2024 last year. That was worth a base of about $5.5 million [00:21:00] per year. Through the end of the term, officials have said the internal investigation will continue, but they have not publicly released detailed findings for the full timeframe of what they knew and when. All right, so those are the facts.

Let me break it down to you and Bruce Lingo head coach. He had a little side piece and that side piece was a staff member. Oh yes, this head coach is married. I'll get into that later. So head coach had a little side piece, not uncommon, unfortunately. Had himself a little side piece. The side piece happened to be the staff member.

The school finds out about this and they're like, Hey, uh, we got to fire and this breaks school policy. This some serious stuff. 'cause this is a subordinate, this is somebody under his watch that he's [00:22:00] having an affair with. We gotta fire him. This man cost himself

From Head Coach to Handcuffs in 24 Hours 🏈👮‍♂️💔

Bruce Anthony: over $25 million for a side piece. I don't, I, I don't really think y'all hearing me.

So people in the back stand up, open your ears. $25 million for a side piece. Lemme tell you something. I have loved women in my life. I have lusted for women in my life. I've been obsessed with one woman in my life, but never ever would I let them cost me 25. Million dollars. I wouldn't let them cost me [00:23:00] $2,500.

$25. I love 'em. Cost me that, but 2,500 I, Hey, we gotta have some conversations here. But this man done ruined his whole career for a side piece, that was a staff member. Reports. Identify the staff member involved as Moore's executive assistant. And coverage notes that she received a large pay increase between 2024 and the 2025 seasons, which has raised additional scrutiny about whether the relationship overlapped with compensation decisions.

Media accounts also describe police being called to the assistance apartment shortly before the public announcement of Moore's firing, which appears to link the personal situation directly to the events that led to his arrest later that day. Once again, ladies, Gemma, let me break down the facts for [00:24:00] you in Bruce Lango, dude head.

Yeah, basically what would be considered in old times his secretary, but his executive assistant had an affair. This is, look, this is what happened in Jungle Fever when, when Flip was messing with his, with his assistant, now she was fine. But not flip. Uh, I forgot what his name was, but Wesley Snipes and Jungle Fever.

She was fine. You will know her as one of Tony Soprano's girlfriends. You'll know her as Tulsa King sister on the Tulsa King show. you, she's done been some and some other stuff. She been fine. Matter of fact, I believe personally on my personal note, to take a side detour. That the reason why I'm attracted to Italian women is specifically because of her and Marissa Toma, but [00:25:00] we've seen things like this happen before where high ranking men, or not even high ranking men have affairs with their executive assistant, and that's what he did.

Not only did he have an affair with her, he gave her a pay raise. Now there have been some women that if they worked for me while I was dating them or whatever, I would've gave 'em a raise too. 'cause they deserved it. They deserved it. However, I'm going to have to deal with the consequences of if I get caught.

The Executive Assistant Affair That Destroyed It All 💼❤️‍🔥🚫

Bruce Anthony: So not only does he have a side piece, he done finagled some way to get her more bread jumped up. It was a large. Pay increase from 2024 to 2025. Then they are saying, the reports are stating [00:26:00] that after the school finished their investigation, they pull him aside. They say, Hey man, we letting you go. Four calls.

Your contract is void. You got to move on. Hell out. 'cause you having an affair with your executive assistant. And oh by the way, you done cost us some bread. 'cause you done gave her a raise. He flips out, he drives straight to his side pieces, house and causes a ruckus that gets him arrested. I also told you he was married.

Right. I told you he was mayor. I'm gonna get into that later, but, but some outlets citing law enforcement documents and unnamed sources, say Moore had repeatedly contacted or visit the woman over several months before the incident that drew police response. At the same time, university and police statements stress that because of the sensitive nature of the allegations.[00:27:00]

And the ongoing criminal investigation, they are limiting specific public details about what happened. Criminal investigation. LA ladies and gentlemen, this was the head football coach for the University of Michigan. I have a friend, I have several friends. I wanted to go to the University of Michigan to play basketball.

I was a huge University of Michigan fan. I have friends that went to the University of Michigan. I'm not gonna call 'em to, to rub this in the face 'cause that's just tacky. I'm not going to do that. That's something that old Bruce would do. New Bruce, older, new Bruce. 'cause I'm older, but a new version of of me is not gonna do something like that.

But this man was the head football coach at a traditional blue blood football powerhouse. Head coach, first, black head coach, university of Michigan. History too, by the [00:28:00] way. I'm gonna get into more of that later. But head coach, his side piece not only cost him 25 million, and I'm not blaming her by the way, I'm not blaming her.

I'm blaming him, being I and irresponsible not responsible. I hadn't messed up that whole word, but y'all know I was trying to say I'm still a little sick. Okay. Irresponsible. Okay. With his actions. I'm not blaming her, I'm just saying, look how stupid this sounds. His side piece, because he wanted to have a side piece, doesn't cost him over 25 million.

His actions of having a side piece have cost him over 25 million and arrest. A full fledged criminal investigation 'cause that kind of sound like he was stalking her. I am gonna read between the [00:29:00] lines. This is just my unsolicited perspective. This is just my unsolicited gossip. Police had been saying that he had been contacting and popping up at the house for several months before this.

Incident where he was arrested,

could it have been that she cut it off and he couldn't handle? 'cause it's kind of seemed like if you got an assault charge and there's more charges that could be potentially pending 'cause there's a full fledged criminal investigation on your actions. It kind of sounds like she broke it off. He wasn't feeling that, and he reacted in the worst possible way for somebody who was the head football coach for the University of Michigan.

[00:30:00] Booking records show Moore was taken into custody just hours after his dismissal. EN listed as a suspect in an alleged assault tied to the same situation as a university's investigation. Although authorities have said he's expected to be formally arraigned, once prosecutors finish reviewing the case, and they have not announced formal charges yet as of the latest report.

Which when this releases, there might be more to this story, but it's not like I record this and then drop it as soon as I finish recording. So there'll probably be more to this story. News reports describe more as suicidal or in severe emotional distress when officers encountered him after responding to the assistance's residence.

Details that come from News report described more as suicidal or in severe emotional distress when officers encountered him after responding to the assistance's residence. These are from the details that come [00:31:00] from the police narrative referencing the media coverage.

Emotional Distress and Criminal Investigation 😰🚔📱

Bruce Anthony: Okay. Law enforcement has declined to give full public account while emphasizing victim safety and the need to preserve the integrity of the investigation. I mean, if I had lost the love of my life and 25 million, I might have some emotional distress. That's a joke, ladies and gentlemen. This is all, all of this is happening because of his piss poured decision making.

That's, that's just what it is. It's because of his piss poor com. Uh, and, and, and let's not get it twisted. Was he a good football coach? Michigan wasn't bad. Right. Michigan had just been hit by sanction sanctions because the coach, Jim Harbaugh, after winning the national championship had done some funny stuff, right.

I'm not even gonna get, I'm not gonna get into all of the scandal or the funny stuff, but. Uh, Michigan had done some funny stuff. They'd had some sanctions, so they [00:32:00] were under uh, kind of like a probation and he was still having Michigan as a top 20 team. When you're under those type of sanctions and probation, you lose scholarships, so you can't recruit as well as you did.

And he was bid fairly successful, right. When you're still a top 20 team after having sanctions. Yeah. 'cause it took Jim Harbaugh a long time to win a national championship There. Matter of fact, they were getting kind of restless that he wouldn't get it done until he finally had it done. So the coach was being successful.

This wasn't the case of him not being successful and them trying to do some screwy stuff to fire him. Right. He, I need to point this and make this clear. 'cause I made a point of saying that he was the first black head coach at the University of Michigan. This wasn't a situation where. They tried it out for a black coach for a little while.

They ain't liking anyone to get outta the situation. Nah, nah, nah, nah, nah. Even [00:33:00] though I'm not in the know, even though I'm not in the room having discussions, I could just look at what's being presented and read between the lines. He was a fairly successful coach that was building a program that did something egregious and it probably all came out.

Because she broke it off. He started stalking her. She reported it to the school saying, this is what's going on. They did an investigation. They fired his ass. Said With, cause you ain't getting your money. He flip out, go straight to her house, assault, whatever the hell happens, gets arrested. And oh, by the way, let me also remind you, he's married, his wife is Kelly Moore.

They have three. Three young daughters. This man is younger than I am. He's 39 years old. [00:34:00] First black head coach at the University of Michigan, and he blew it because of his piss poor decision making. Now, from the outside looking in, this is a funny story to me 'cause I'm not affected in any way. I don't care about college football, I don't care about the university in Michigan.

I don't care about the plight of black coaches in college football. Not, it's not a part of my everyday thinking. Not that I don't care, but it's not a part of my everyday thinking. Right? However, conversations are starting to be ahead about how this is a bad look for black coaches and it is. Lemme give you guys an example.

Black Coaches and the Grace They'll Never Get 🏈✊🏾😔

Bruce Anthony: Or let me explain. Black coaches don't get hired that often. In college football, you would think in a sport kind of like the NFL, right? That's the reason why they had the Rooney Rule. You would think in a [00:35:00] sport where the sport is dominated by players that are of color, that there would be more coaches of color one year, and remember the NCAA.

Division one is like 115 plus schools. One year it was like five black head coaches. That is crazy. And here you are, a black man getting an opportunity at a blue blood powerhouse. University of Michigan. Yeah. You coming back. Yeah, they're coming back from sanctions. But you got the opportunity and you're doing well.

The team is being successful and you pull some shit like this. He's not the only head coach that's pulled some stuff like this, Bobby Petrino or Rick Pitino. There have been a, a long list of head coaches that have brought Scandal, specifically, specifically sexual scandal, to a campus and been [00:36:00] fired. I not, nine times out of 10.

They get a second chance. Some of them get second, third, fourth, and fifth chances. The likelihood of this man, Mr. Moore, getting a second chance, went out the window. It went out the window, not solely just for the fact that he had an affair, a side piece with an executive assistant, with somebody working under a room that's bad.

You could possibly recover from that. It's everything afterwards. It is the assault, it's the arrest, it's the the criminal investigation. He ain't never working again and he is outta 25 million for some booty. That's what it was. This is what it's about. Unless my man was in love, but it wasn't real love, should have been still in love with his wife Kelly.

I seen Kelly. I seen a picture of Kelly. Kelly is fine. Got three [00:37:00] beautiful daughters. He's got the type of life that. Other people would look at and be like, man, you got it. You got it. Good. You never know what's going on with a man inside of his own head, but you got it good. And he blew it. And there's his discussions all over sports.

Talk about his color and the fact that these black and what this mean for black coaches. Yes, this is going to affect black head coaches going forward because. Let me let you into a little secret. If you are not black or a person of color, if you are white in this country, this is, this message is for you.

When One Person's Actions Hurt an Entire Community 💔👥⚖️

Bruce Anthony: When somebody of color does something, it's reflected in white people's eyes for the entire grouping of that particular culture. [00:38:00] One person. Then the whole group is looked at like this, kind of like in the first segment, this one squatter. They're gonna make rules. Now that's probably gonna be hurtful to tenants.

This one black head coach is going to hurt black head coaches for the future. So Ryan Clark, somebody who I respect has a podcast to pivot. More intelligent than he gets credit for because most people will look at him as a, oh, he was a football player. He is also a college graduate from the, from Louisiana State University.

Right. Okay. Say was saying these same things that I'm saying as well, uh, because it is a true statement. Luther Campbell, uncle Luke got on social media and said, Ryan Clark, you stupid. Why would you say something like that now? Because you said it. That's definitely gonna be the case. They're both wrong and right.

At the same time, perhaps Ryan shouldn't have said it, spoke it in public spaces to reaffirm what [00:39:00] probably some white athletic directors and presidents to these major colleges were already thinking after this whole story broke, right? By speaking it out loud, you give it reality, you give it existence, but at the same time, Luther Campbell.

It's also the truth, right? Like whether he spoke it out and made it put it out in reality and in existence, these type of thoughts were still gonna be present. So whether you said it or not doesn't change what happens in other people's minds. Not really. Okay. And Luther, what you're doing is the thing that you're accusing him of.

You accuse him as a black man putting down another black man? No, that black man, Mr. Moore should be put down 'cause he was wrong. Made a mistake. Mistakes happen, but [00:40:00] damn did he make it worse and worse and worse with each decision that he made, he probably, it's not gonna get another job. And I don't know that I would if I was a president.

Not a head coaching job. You're gonna have to prove yourself over years. He's still young. 39, maybe in the next 15 years he can get a head coaching job works. He works his way back up. But they're kind of both wrong and both right at the same time. But more importantly, besides what happens with the culture, the saddest part is the fallout doesn't stop with just him.

It ripples through families, not just his multiple families, all the people on his staff, all those players up under her, the young lady that was working under her and her family and communities. This is felt throughout all of that, and it brings up another uncomfortable conversation [00:41:00] about who gets grace and who doesn't.

Yes. He's not gonna get much grace. He wasn't gonna get much grace anyway. Does he still deserve grace? I don't know. It depends on what that assault was. I need more information, but I, this is what I can tell you. He's a 125% dumb ass for all of the actions. That he's done.

Couples Math: When 1+1 Doesn't Equal Fair 🧮💸😤

Bruce Anthony: All right, ladies and gentlemen, let's get to this Reddit post because the math ain't math in in this story, so of course. Went on my favorite, social media site, Reddit, and got an mi overreacting. And I, I've [00:42:00] been pissing my sister off, so I decided to do this one by myself. 'cause I already know what she's gonna say.

I already know what she's gonna say. I already know how she's gonna respond to it. But I wanted to just give my take, just my take alone. Give her a break. Give my take alone on this story. 'cause immediately when I saw it, I said. WTF. I'm not gonna actually say the words 'cause I tried to not say the F word on the show, but I said WTF.

Alright, so the title of the post is, am I Overreacting for Wanting My Friends to Pay for Their Half of a Trip, even though they're a couple? And at first glance of the title, I was like, huh, pay for their half of the trip, even though they're a couple. I'm like, I'm a little confused now. Bear with me because I've tried to clean this up.

The original, the original Reddit. Reddit. Mm goodness gracious. I'm attacking the Reddit poster and I can't even talk the original Reddit poster, [00:43:00] not the greatest writer. Uh, so I had to clean this a little bit and I don't like, it's, it's not well written, but we gonna get through it. So. So me and my two friends planned this weekend getaway to the mountains for like six months.

First of all, what sounds kind of dope to me, we split everything three ways initially, the cabin, rental, gas, groceries, and all of it. But now that they're actually going, they're acting like because they're dating, they should only pay for one person total instead of two separate people. Huh? I get that couples share expenses in their relationship, but this was planned when we were all single and now all of a sudden to cover more.

I'm supposed to cover more because they got together. The Cabin sleeps six and costs $600 for the weekend, so we each agreed to pay $200. Now they're [00:44:00] saying they should only pay $200 total as a unit, which means that I would have to pay the $400. That's literal. That's literally double what I budgeted for.

They keep saying stuff like, we're basically one person now. And couples usually split costs differently, but like we're not all dating here. They still eat the same amount of food, use the same amount of space, and frankly, they're probably going to be using the master bedroom while I'm stuck with the pullout couch.

I told them if they wanted to pay as a couple, they should have mentioned it when we were booking everything and now they're saying I'm being unreasonable. My other friends agree with me. But honestly, I think they're just trying to save money and using their relationship as an excuse. Am I overreacting here or is this actually messed up?

The Mountain Trip That Exposed Fake Friends 🏔️💸😡

Bruce Anthony: I don't wanna lose friends over money, but I also don't want to be taken advantage of. Okay? [00:45:00] So like I said at the beginning, the math ain't math in for me. For several reasons. Now. The initial reason would be like, oh, it's three of 'em. You split it three ways. Right, right. Like that's the way it should be.

But it's their counter. Like they say, we're one unit, we're a couple, now we're one person. Okay, so how is that still paying only a third. Of the total cost. Y'all see what I'm saying? If they say, if they say that they're one person, okay, we doing math. If Johnny got five apples, listen to me. Here it's three people, and two of those people say they're merging into one, which would mean that instead of three people going on this trip, by their logic, ladies, gentlemen, by their logic, instead of three people going on this trip, it is now two people [00:46:00] going on this trip.

But even in that two person scenario, this couple is saying, oh, we pay $200. No. Like even in their warped scenario, in their misguided and stupid scenario, it would be half. It would not be 200, it would be half a 600, which would be 300. And this is in their dumb ass scenario. Okay. I'm not agreeing with it.

I'm just saying that they don't know how to do simple math because they say they are now one entity, which would mean that there would be two people going on this trip if they were now one entity, which means that they would be splitted down the middle, not paying a third.

Okay. That, that it, it, it so annoys me when people don't do math, right? 'cause math is simple. Like this is one plus one equals two. [00:47:00] Like it, it's that simple. It is three. Now we would go to two, which means it's, instead of splitting in three ways, we split it two ways and this in half, which by the way, like I said, stupid scenario that I absolutely don't agree with.

Okay. But. That would be the math. Okay. That's what really bothered me. That's not what really, really bothered me, but it that bothered me to know end. I really can't stand when people can't do simple math. It like ladies and gentlemen, we all, we all studied math. I know they got this new math out here, but we know what math is.

Math Ain't Mathing: Breaking Down the Betrayal 🧮❌💯

Bruce Anthony: Okay. I feel sorry for my man. Because he planned a trip with his friends. They decided to get together at some point during the planning of this trip. 'cause he said when they initially planned it, they were all single. And now these two people got together, which, I mean, you kind of should have seen it coming.

'cause two [00:48:00] people that are friends just don't randomly get together. They just don't wake up one morning. I think we want you see signs, right? You see signs. But I'm not gonna blame you for your current predicament. There's a couple of different things that you could do, and I'm just gonna be real with you.

If I were you, I would put my foot down and say, look, I don't give a damn what you guys consider yourselves. Now, this was the agreement when we were together. I'm not being unreasonable. Either we honor the original agreement or we don't go. And I would remain steadfast and not going, I would completely back out of the whole trip altogether.

Even though it's something you've been playing in for six months, it's a weekend getaway. It sounds like it's a dope ass experience, but are you really gonna have a good time if this money thing is hanging over your head? I'm damn sure I'm not paying two [00:49:00] thirds of what it costs to be there and sleeping on the pullout couch like, like.

I,

when people care about you, when people truly care about you, they don't do these type of things to you. This is straight selfish. Now, can people that love you do selfish things from time to time? Yeah, but odds are when they really care about you and you express, yo, this. Hurts me. This bothers me. They'll take a step back, examine it and be like, yo, okay, my bad.

You are saying that sort of, kind of, but you're explaining to them that it ain't right, and they're saying that you are being unreasonable. I have to question just how good of a friend these two people are,

and if I have to question it. [00:50:00] Hmm. There's your answer, right? Like there's your answer. So young man, I'm gonna assume that you young, that you younger than me. 'cause if it was me, I would just say, forget it. I'm gonna go by myself, and I would go up to the mountains by myself. $600 for the weekend is a good damn deal.

That's at least two nights. That's not bad at all. What ca, what mountain and cabin are y'all going to? Is do y'all have electricity? Is there no bugs and no rodents? Because I want to go, but, but, yeah, if you can't, like, pull the trigger by yourself, if they're, if they're still in this steadfast that they're not even gonna pay half that, they're gonna pay a third because somehow they are one entity and that allows them to pay as one person.

Uh. And that would still mean that they only had to pay a third if they're not going to [00:51:00] meet you halfway and meeting you halfway would be like the original agreement. The original agreement. I mean, if you really, really desperate, you could say just pay half. And I get the master bedroom. I would insist upon that.

When Money Shows You Who Really Cares 💰👀💔

Bruce Anthony: I'd be like, sure, that's no fun. That's no problem. I gotta pay an extra a hundred dollars. Fine. I'll pay extra a hundred dollars. I get the master bedroom. I mean, that would be a happy compromise. If they're still being adamant that, uh, they don't want to roll with that, you gotta cut loose. You, you don't go.

And I would distance myself. I really would because people that care about you wouldn't, wouldn't do that to you. People show you who they are. People will show you who you are. It's your choice to really pay attention or to turn a blind eye. They're telling you who they are and yeah, nobody wants to lose friends over money.

But you know, money [00:52:00] is typically how relationships end. I mean, I'm just gonna be honest. Money. When you deal with money, everybody's truth comes out. You see who they are as a person and what their character is when money is involved. And if they are trying to skate you outta money, bro, you need to make your move, you know, do something else.

And that sucks because nobody wants to lose friends. And it seems like these are really, really good friends of yours, but it seems like it might be a one way street. Because if they're doing this, they obviously don't care about you as much as you care about them. And, and that's exactly how friendships end sometimes quietly, awkwardly and over Venmo.

Like for real, that that's just how it is. [00:53:00] But ladies and gentlemen, on that note, I want to thank you for listening. I want to thank you for watching. And until next time, as always, I'll holler.

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