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Bruce Anthony: The ick friendships and the lottery, we gonna get into it. Let's get it.

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Sibling Happy Hour: Sips, Laughs & Sibling Shenanigans 🍹😂

Bruce Anthony: it's the sibling happy hour. I'm here with my sis Jay, Andrea. We're gonna be dilly dad a little bit, and then we're gonna be talking about friendship and the rules surrounding it, and then we're gonna be talking about funny stories about [00:01:00] the lottery. But that's enough of the intro. Let's get to the show.

Bruce Anthony: What up sis?

Jay Aundrea: What up, brother?

Bruce Anthony: I can't call it. I can't call it. How are you feeling right now?

Jay Aundrea: Well, I tell you, my whole household is asleep right now and I'd like to rejoin them also, if we can Go ahead. I've been traveling, I've been doing a lot, so, uh, you know, like to go, go going by sleep?

Bruce Anthony: Yeah. Well, so ladies and gentlemen, my sister got back to Atlanta yesterday

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: and I was dreading texting her this morning. I was like, we gotta show the film. I know she's

tired and I know she probably forgot about it,

Jay Aundrea: I did.

Bruce Anthony: so this morning I

text her and it was simple words, simple phrases, 'cause that's what you like.

You don't

like a long drawn

out. You want simple, Hey, what time works for you today? [00:02:00] And I knew by saying that you would know exactly what the hell I was talking about.

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: And at first you was like, I don't know, three. I was like, three is perfect. We ain't get started till 3 15, 3 20.

But you know, we here now.

Jay Aundrea: because I'm literally roaming around the house doing things, like my whole podcast set up is set up already. Nothing's set up. It's in my luggage. So like, you're not ready for the show at all. And so, you know, 10 minutes before the show, I'm coming in the room. Like, what? Hell, nothing's ready. Uh, nothing's ready.

I don't know why I thought it was so, yeah,

Bruce Anthony: still delirious.

Jay Aundrea: I was late to the, show. Um, I apologize for that.

Bruce Anthony: Look ladies and gentlemen, I joke and I throw my sister under the bus, but I

really ain't upset and she knows that. She knows I ain't really upset 'cause I'm like, I get her on the show 'cause I know the show is better with her. So I ain't really tripping. It's kind of like your star basketball player or star football player.

They could just get away [00:03:00] with practice. We talking about practice, they could just get away with stuff

that that normal people couldn't get away with. I have actually canceled. Whole interviews because guests have arrived late with no reasonable explanation,

no heads up. Like, Hey, where are you? Our interview was supposed to start 30 minutes ago.

I don't know what

time you think I'm on, but I'm

not on that time.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: And we're like, well, uh, can't we reschedule? I'll be honest with you, this would've been a good conversation, but I'm a little thrown off. I have canceled so many

interviews because of that. You the only one that could get away with some stuff like that.

Plus you, my sister.

So

Jay Aundrea: yeah. It's also that.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah. You know.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. I think it's more about the fact that I'm your

Bruce Anthony: No, no. 'cause we've said some family was supposed to be on the show and got and got stripped of that

Jay Aundrea: Well, that's true also. Yeah. You know what? Okay. Then it's probably just because I'm on the show then.[00:04:00]

Bruce Anthony: Well, I'm, I mean, yeah. The show is better with, uh, with, with you.

I don't,

Jay Aundrea: try. I've try. I wish you hadn't told me that. I mean, I'm not going to abuse it,

Bruce Anthony: You already abuse it. You already

Jay Aundrea: that, that's just me not even acknowledging the fact that, of what you just said, that was just me. That was just my behavior being bad. Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: You already like

that.

Jay Aundrea: But, that was, it was not intentional. Like now it might be a little bit of what's it gonna do?

Fire me, you know? Now it might be a little bit of that.

Bruce Anthony: yes, yes.

Jay Aundrea: Well, nevermind then. Ladies and gentlemen, I'll be on time for the next show, y'all, because I could get fired

From Side Hustles to Success: The Real Entrepreneurship Story 💼💪

Bruce Anthony: Well, the ladies and gentlemen, I'm gonna let y'all into a little thing, little, little behind the scenes. You've doing this podcast with me. You've, you've, you know, I've been an entrepreneur for 20 something years,

Jay Aundrea: earlier your whole life.

Bruce Anthony: several, well, not my whole life. I it's not like you [00:05:00] and our brother with your Sham Olympics.

Kid Olympics.

But,

Jay Aundrea: It wasn't a sham, but,

Bruce Anthony: but, ever since, like, I. Teen years. Right. I like, I've been out there trying to hustle

some not so legitimate,

you know, like hustling. If you get, if you tell me go sell some candy bars, I might to, I might tell you that I got robbed, but then sell the candy bars on the side to pocket the money.

Or it might say it is $3 for a candy bar and I might sell it for $5 and pocket extra money. Dumbness type of scams that I was talking about was not really legitimate, but

Jay Aundrea: Oh, just straight up lying.

Bruce Anthony: Well, okay. Well I been, you know, twisting the truth

anyway.

Jay Aundrea: yeah. Okay.

Bruce Anthony: inflation. Anyway, uh,

I've also,

Jay Aundrea: inflation. Don't you know,

Bruce Anthony: uh, oh, we did?

Jay Aundrea: done. We solved it. You didn't see that

Bruce Anthony: I didn't. No, I

Jay Aundrea: yeah. [00:06:00] No. Inflation's been solved, so you don't even have to worry about that. Those are verbatim words, ladies and gentlemen. Inflation, it Is that mission accomplished banner all over again?

Bruce Anthony: Okay. You know how

I know, you know, I, I, I'm talking super first world problems,

but because I don't drive, I don't, I didn't see the price of gas where I've been affected with inflation. Is eggs

and Gatorade? No, just eggs and Gatorade.

I haven't noticed it anywhere else for

me personally.

But Eggs and Gatorade, I've seen the prices go up, but I was telling a story before your A-D-H-H-D kicked in. Uh, I've always been an entrepreneur,

so I've started several companies. You know, some of 'em haven't, A lot of 'em haven't worked out, but, but I've started 'em, some been successful the last couple of years. However, you wanna measure success, but you've never really worked with me outside of our time at Hard Rock.

[00:07:00] You've never seen me be. Boss Boss,

Jay Aundrea: Right?

Bruce Anthony: through this podcast, you've seen how I'm a boss, boss and you

realize, oh, my brother don't play.

Jay Aundrea: No, no. So I go back to my original, y'all. I'll be on time for now on 'cause I could get fired. Like your fave could get fired. Like, uh, he doesn't care

Bruce Anthony: I mean, I do care. I

wouldn't want to fire you.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah, but

Bruce Anthony: But I

fired. I fired people that said they was like my big brother.

So

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

The Truth About Inflation Nobody's Talking About 💰📊

Jay Aundrea: But, but speaking of inflation, still want to give, uh, as much as I've been giving him the shout out for a while now. Don Lio. Sorry if I mispronounce your name. Co-founder and chairman of Arizona Beverage Company. Shout out to you for keeping that can of Arizona. 99

Bruce Anthony: I thought, I did read [00:08:00] something a couple of weeks ago where they were questioning and they was like, Hey, we might have to rise. Raise the price.

Jay Aundrea: No, I don't want y'all to do that. Don't do

Bruce Anthony: is not about you wanting 'em to do it. I think recently an article came out. I don't know if I read the article, if I just saw the headline and you know how headlines could be mis uh, misleading,

but I thought I saw something where it was like, they're like, Hey, look, these tariffs, we might have to

Jay Aundrea: Yeah, they, uh, they are because of aluminum tariffs, um, they are considering raising the prices, but they're just considering it. Um, y'all please, I rely on that 99 cent Arizona iced Tea.

Bruce Anthony: You could just drink water.

Jay Aundrea: Or you could shut the hell up because I am supporting,

Bruce Anthony: It ain't no small business.

Jay Aundrea: I don't care. I'm supporting this business. Yeah. Six days ago there was an article in

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, that's what I thought. That's [00:09:00] what you know, I'd be up on the

Jay Aundrea: about it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Uh, only if they keep getting pressure, uh, from these well, astronomical tariffs, which again, another, I feel like it was the same interview, uh, with Captain Carrot that

Bruce Anthony: Oh. Oh, okay. Captain Kerry. Okay.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

That he said. Um, also, we're getting millions, actually, billions. Billions back in tariffs paid by the other countries, by the way, just lies. We're not getting billions in tariffs. And it is not paid by other countries.

Bruce Anthony: We are getting

Jay Aundrea: paid by you.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, We are getting millions. Yeah.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. But we are not getting billions and no, it's not being paid by the other countries.

It's been paid by us. The dumb asses.

Bruce Anthony: politicians have always kinda lie and most of the lies are misleading. What this is what I mean by that. Like you could take a statistic

and numbers don't lie, but you can twist the

Jay Aundrea: The interpretation of [00:10:00] them.

Bruce Anthony: So most of the time politicians do that most of the time. It's not an outright lie, it's a bending of the truth.

Jay Aundrea: yes,

Bruce Anthony: as OB one one said, I was telling the truth from a particular point of view. So

that's kind of what they do.

The Orange man lies. I say Baldheaded lies. Shout out to Tommy Strong from Martin.

God rush his soul. Baldheaded lies.

Jay Aundrea: baldheaded lies. Yes. Straight up untruths. Just a lie. Just a lie. Inflation is not solved. And thanks to the tariffs, it's worse. And, uh, we are paying those tariffs. It's taking away healthcare taking. And he's, uh, federalizing the police and he's a big old terrorist who hates America,

Bruce Anthony: All I know is,

Jay Aundrea: oh. He is not sending aid to states that don't support him.

Bruce Anthony: yeah, well, [00:11:00] all I know, is

Jay Aundrea: So Yeah,

Bruce Anthony: is that eggs used to be 99 cent a

dozen

Jay Aundrea: to. Yeah. Used

Bruce Anthony: at Aldi last year.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: Last year. You know how I know laser Gemma? 'cause I

eat a lot of eggs. I eat

a lot of eggs. I eat a, at bare minimum, I'm eating a dozen eggs a week.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

When Compliments Go Wrong: The Dating Game Changed 💄🤦‍♀️

Bruce Anthony: Uh, Jay, something came across my timeline and it wasn't about the Orange man, but it's about women and ex.

Now I am not a subscriber of the mans Sphere.

Jay Aundrea: Okay.

Bruce Anthony: I tried to not up.

Jay Aundrea: fill a, I fill a, a dangerous butt coming, but go

Bruce Anthony: Nah, nah, nah, nah. It's not a dangerous, but it's more like a, it's more like a, you know, Jennifer Love Hewitt from, can't Hardly Wait, but not a Rosie Perez. But Rosie Perez, that's a dangerous, but,

but Jennifer Love Hewitt. But nice, [00:12:00] but good, but

Jay Aundrea: Okay.

Bruce Anthony: good, but,

but not dangerous. Okay.

Jay Aundrea: Got it. Right?

Bruce Anthony: Don't subscribe to the manosphere, don't describe the patriarchy.

Try to not be misogynist

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: and, and toxic masculinity. I'm still growing

some of these women SI actually agree with, but two of these things that came across my timeline that had to have been from the manosphere that creeped into my algorithm somehow. Some way I do not agree with,

here's one. Young lady, very attractive young lady, I would say, well, actually I can't tell what age she is because Gen Z looks old.

So I'm going to assume that she is absolutely in Gen Z. Maybe a young millennial,

right?

Jay Aundrea: Okay.

Bruce Anthony: Says that an older man, and when I say older man, she said somebody 60 to 70 years old

walked up to her and said, [00:13:00] you are gorgeous.

And she said, thank you. But then in her mind she started running through the table. She was like, wait a minute, did I say thank you just because I'm a people pleaser?

Was what he said appropriate. Uh, men just leave women alone.

Jay Aundrea: No,

Bruce Anthony: And I was like, hold up now. Now,

if he said. Damn baby. You got some ass?

Yes. Okay.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah,

Bruce Anthony: Those have words that have actually been spoken

from 2002. Bruce.

Okay. I've said those words.

He just said, you're gorgeous.

And it reminds me of the story that I've told on this podcast before when I was at Target and this woman, I don't know if she was Persian, Italian, Latina, light-skinned black, who knows?

Right?

She had the, she had a skin tone. Not unlike the color of my skin tone,

Jay Aundrea: Okay.

Bruce Anthony: Uh, but you know, with Lil Henna something else,

Jay Aundrea: Right, right.

Bruce Anthony: lil hint of [00:14:00] something else.

But

Jay Aundrea: little hint.

Bruce Anthony: little hint.

But she had on this hot pink dress

and I walked up to her and I said, ma'am, I'm not hitting on you at all. I don't wanna make you uncomfortable. I'm just going, I just wanna let you know that that dress and your skin tone matches perfectly. You look fantastic today. You have a great day.

And walked away. As I'm walking away, she said thank you. Like she wanted to continue on the conversation, but as I said, I wasn't hollering and

I didn't want to double back, even

though I wanted to double back.

And so this, it kind of bothered me. I'm like, young lady,

take the compliment.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. That sounds more like a, like, um, a question of her own, you know, kind of self worth, maybe not so much that, I mean, people have eyeballs

Bruce Anthony: they do. They

Jay Aundrea: they can see, so if you look nice and someone says in a polite way that, you know, they [00:15:00] compliment you in a polite way, I don't see what. The problem is with just accepting the compliment and moving on with your day.

Uh, if they go, then I,

Bruce Anthony: Yeah. For those that are listening, for those that are listening, y'all didn't get the, the, the, the buildup to what she said, but those in the video saw her almost act like a seizure because that's how men be acting. That was perfect.

Jay Aundrea: right. You know, then I can say, okay, get a little upset. You know, it's funny because I actually saw a video of this, um, from a stud content creator, and she was like, Hey ladies, especially straight women, just because I compliment you don't mean I want you. There's a lot of times where, uh, a gay woman or particularly a stud will come up to me, well, hey, you're beautiful, or you look [00:16:00] beautiful, and the responsibility, I'm not gay.

I didn't say I wanted to holler. I'm just saying I have eyeballs and you know, the lashes are popping hair's done, nail done everything big. I mean, I'm just trying to compliment you on that. Uh, so like, you know, sometimes people are just innocently trying to compliment you, and I feel like if they're, they're doing it in a respectful way, you know, you'd be all right.

Just say thank you and move on.

Bruce Anthony: is stud an offensive term? 'cause

I don't, 'cause I, I feel, you know, but you know me, I always get up and get my panties in the bunch with certain words.

I'm like, is that offensive? I'm not trying to be offensive. Please.

Excuse me. So it's not

Jay Aundrea: offended by the fact that you said panties. Honestly,

Bruce Anthony: That's an expression. Get your panties in a bunch.

Jay Aundrea: I have never liked the word panties. I don't like it.

Bruce Anthony: it's, well, okay. I think it's [00:17:00] a better way of saying women's underwear.

Jay Aundrea: Just say draws is what they're,

Bruce Anthony: that draws is absolutely, it's absolutely what they are. I

mean, I, this gentleman was appropriate. It's not like we were just together this past weekend going to the bowling alley and our server. I said to you, she got a porch back there.

'cause her booty stuck out. Literally, it was a porch. You could have put plates of food

up there.

Jay Aundrea: yeah, it definitely, you could have been sitting on it with a rocking chair in a mint, Jule.

Bruce Anthony: Full man.

Jay Aundrea: day, you know, like, like for sure. And so, yeah, so like, it wasn't that, you know, it is okay if somebody says, you look like, you can say thank you and keep it pushing, keep it on, keep it on about your day.

Now if they get disrespectful after that, turn up, you know, uh, I'm a retired crash out. I get it. So, like, you know, but if it's, [00:18:00] if it's, it don't, you don't have to overthink it. I think a lot of time I feel like this person was just overthinking it. Um,

Bruce Anthony: There's another, there's one more that I want to get to before the end of this segment,

and there was another one that came across my algorithm and there was a woman in the airport complaining now she was complaining about men's wear in the airport and what she said was, men wear pants. And I was like, yeah, men should wear pants. But she was being very specific.

Jeans, cargoes, khakis, things of that nature. Men can't wear joggers. And I was like, wait a minute, we can't wear joggers or sweats in the airport. Kiss my ass. She'd be like, that's not manly. Wear regular pants. It's like they're uncomfortable and I'm on this plane. You gotta be lucky that I'm not in some boxes, some loose fitting boxes

and, and, and a baggy t-shirt.

And the only reason why I'm doing that is because uh, flight attendants say don't let yo actual skin touch anything on the air, on the

[00:19:00] airplane. 'cause it's gross.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah, absolutely. Um, yeah, absolutely. Yeah. Y'all stop being weird. Literally stop being weird, like, let people live. Uh, I don't, there's no problem with men wearing joggers. I, I don't understand. They're just sweatpants. Their sweatpants with a tapered leg. They're, they're, I get that there are more fitted sweatpants, but you're supposed to be able to jog in them.

Bruce Anthony: They're my favorite sweatpants.

Matter of fact, I like a tapered leg pan anyway 'cause I like to show off my shoes.

Jay Aundrea: like to show off the shoe,

Bruce Anthony: I like to show off my

Jay Aundrea: know, and so no, there's no, yeah. Stop being weird, y'all. This is a lot of people doing way, way too much now. It's just, it's more of like your personal preference, but you're trying to assign it like, like it's, it should be felt by everybody and no, that's just your personal, you personally.

I don't like to see men in flip flops. I don't like it. Most of y'all don't take care of y'all feet.

Bruce Anthony: Uh, [00:20:00]

Jay Aundrea: Okay. Uh, if you gonna wear flip flops with some socks on it, if you know them feet look natural.

Bruce Anthony: I hate that expression.

Jay Aundrea: If they look very earthly. Okay. If they look like you've been running across the earth, uh, keep, keep some socks on. But that's not a ick, that's not a th that's not something that should be, everybody should feel that. That's just my personal thing. If you don't take care of your feet. But honestly, that's anybody.

'cause I seen some women with some gnarled

Bruce Anthony: Hammer

Jay Aundrea: gnarl digits and y'all

Bruce Anthony: hide your toes,

Jay Aundrea: y'all shouldn't have 'em out either because I don't wanna see it while I'm trying, you know, eat my Burger King.

Bruce Anthony: not your bird cake. So on that note, for the audience, what are some of your X and what do you think are some of those ridiculous X? Leave a comment down [00:21:00] down in the section where it's comment section

and then holler at us.

But

Jay Aundrea: like, it seemed less about them struggling to know where the comments are and you struggling to know. What the word was, and it was comment section

Bruce Anthony: yeah, yeah.

Jay Aundrea: and you tried to make it seem like it was their problem when really it was yours.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah. Okay.

Yeah, no, absolutely right. But on that note. What gives you the ick and friendships and how can we establish better friendships? We gonna get into that next.

Bruce Anthony: Jay, you sent me a very interesting video and anytime you send something to me like show topic, I'm like, yeah, we're definitely gonna do it because that just takes a little bit of less work that I have to put into it and it's something that interests you. So I definitely wanna talk about [00:22:00] it. And it was this young man, I'm gonna call him a young man 'cause I'm gonna assume that he's younger than I am talking about friendships and he is a therapist.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. I believe he is a therapist, correct.

Bruce Anthony: so he, in the video, I'm gonna give you guys a quick synopsis of the video. In the video he discusses the idea that friendships require inconvenience. He argues that maintaining and building friendships often means pushing past personal boundaries of comfort, like showing up when you don't feel like it initiating plans or being vulnerable.

Real Talk: Why Your Friendships Are Failing 👥💭

Bruce Anthony: This they, he also emphasizes that inconvenience isn't just part of sustaining friendships, but also the entryway to them. Many adults struggle with loneliness because they avoid putting in the necessary legwork to form bombs compounded by declining in social skills due to technology and the pandemic.

And then I have some takeaways from the video that I put in the different categories [00:23:00] that I, you know, think were important talking points, but just. When you sent me this video, I was like, yo, he's making very valid points. And

it's not, it's not just friendships, it's relationships,

relationships with your friends, family, loved ones, coworkers

like it, it's all of these stuff are built on.

Yo, you gonna be a little inconvenienced if you want to participate in this thing.

Jay Aundrea: yeah. His name is Shahe McLaren, or McClaren? Uh, I'm so sorry if I mispronounce your name. Um, but he is a therapist and licensed clinical social worker and the owner of Freedom Collective Therapy. Yeah, it was a really, um, it, really hit home to me because, you know, I moved to Atlanta about 10 years ago.

I, I, my brother was here, I knew one person and that's it. And it's just like, how did [00:24:00] I over that? Decade build the community that I have now, and it was by inconveniencing myself. And that's not all, you know, I think we take a, we take the word inconvenience and we think, okay, whenever we're inconvenience, that's a bad thing.

But it's not, it was a inconvenience that I chose because I'm a homebody. I like to be by myself. I like to be in the house, but I also wanted community. And so that means I have to push myself outside of what, like you said, past your personal boundaries of comfort. You gotta push yourself outside of your comfort zone and do stuff in order to, one, build the friendships and then, and then sustain them.

Like having a friend is an active thing. Having any relationship is an active thing on your part. It's not just saying, this is my friend, boop, that's it. We're done. No, it's, you gotta keep. Working at it [00:25:00] every single day. You gotta keep up that communication. Gotta keep up that contact, and you have to push yourself and yes, that requires a level of inconvenience.

Bruce Anthony: So something that you said that that piqued my interest and inconvenience is uncomfortable discomfort

and to me. True growth comes from discomfort.

Jay Aundrea: Yes.

Bruce Anthony: So if you want to grow as a person, you gotta put yourself in inconvenient situations and in discomfort.

That's just how this thing works. Like they say, the long road is always the best road to take as opposed to the shortcut. Because there are no shortcuts in life.

You need to go through all the lessons that's pain and misery and everything, and that makes the accomplishment of taking that long road even better when you get to your goal. And this situation, goal is friendship. Now I will be the first to say I'm [00:26:00] a bad friend.

Well, actually I'm bad in all relationships because I really don't like being in convenience.

Growing up with me. You know, I was a spoiled brat, and if it was something I didn't want to do. I was gonna make everybody miserable if I had to do it.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: My boys still bring this up. It's like, yeah, you know, back in the day if Bruce wasn't having fun, nobody could have fun.

And I was

like, oh, I need to grow up and mature. Because the people that are in my life right now, the friends that are in my life right now, do real work to bring me out of my comfort zone. And my

comfort zone is just like yours sitting in the house, chilling. My

favorite thing in the entire world. I mean, my house, very comfortable.

It's

very pleasing to me, you know? And I love nothing better when there is nothing on the schedule. People say, what you got planned for this weekend? Not a damn thing. That's my favorite thing.

Jay Aundrea: Yes.

Bruce Anthony: But I have to make time for my friends.

Jay Aundrea: Yes,

Bruce Anthony: have to show them, yo, you [00:27:00] matter to me.

Jay Aundrea: yes.

Bruce Anthony: that means doing the things that are completely inconvenient for me.

But.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah,

Bruce Anthony: what friendship is. So one of the takeaways that, uh, I got from this video and that you just touched on, is that true friendship often requires sacrifice. Stepping outside of your personal, uh, comfort and missing these steps means relationships can't deepen. If you

want that superficial stuff, don't put into work.

Jay Aundrea: yeah. There's a lot. And, and, and you know, sometimes certain friendships, certain relationships are meant to be superficial. Right? Like, to me, I find like work relationships like that, like right, like you, you don't wanna bring too much. Or your personal stuff to work. So like, yeah, you're not gonna do too much, uh, a deepening of a, of a work relationship, but if you want a real [00:28:00] friendship, yeah, you're gonna have to push yourself.

You're going to have to push yourself. There's nothing wrong with inconvenience, and there's nothing wrong with sacrifice. There's nothing wrong with making compromises if it's your choice. Because I'm choosing this person to be in my life. I'm choosing to have this person. That's the beauty about friendships versus like, say your family.

Your family is what you're born into, but your chosen family or your friends, these are people that you're choosing. And if you're making that choice to have a relationship with somebody, put the work in to really have a relationship with somebody.

Bruce Anthony: And that means building community, which requires the efforts of making calls, arranging plans, and showing vulnerability because you have to initiate that closeness if you want to have deeper bonds Also.

Jay Aundrea: You have to.

Bruce Anthony: Just because you wanna be friends with somebody don't [00:29:00] mean that that person wants to be friends with you.

So rejection is also part of the process. Not

everyone's gonna reciprocate. Friendship and accepting reality means trying again with others rather than withdrawing. And once again, I feel like this can all be placed in relationships, whether it's family, you know, friends or somebody that you're trying to date, or your loved one. Like just because things don't work out, just because you're rejected, that don't mean that you withdraw and don't go back out there.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah, don't put yourself back out there. I mean, I had that, I had a, I, I met a person that I was like, this person's cool. I would like to be their friend. I, I worked, I worked to make that friendship happen, and, and it didn't, you know, it lasted for a little bit, but, you know, I was, I. Guess was more invested in being friends than the other person was.

And that's okay. Like, you know, sometimes people in your [00:30:00] life for a reason or a season, I definitely feel like this person served a purpose, uh, for that time in my life. They provided, uh, uh, a lot of great advice and support and encouragement for that time. And that's okay. That was it for that time. And, and it was beautiful and I have no regrets about it.

So like, that's, that's also okay, but just because you lose that one friend, it's not then well f everybody. Right? No. Get, get back out there and try again. Like, and it is, you see kids do it right when a, a kid first get on the playground. Some kid will run up. You wanna, you wanna play? Yeah. And then they run off.

Right. Because at the, and that's it. And that's all it is. It's like you can actually see somebody and be like, that person looks cool. I would like to be their friend and just go up and start talking to them. Like, just be like kids because you're about to touch on this and it's so important. We out here lonely.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah. [00:31:00] Yeah. There is a lonely epidemic that is, I, I've talked about on a previous podcast episode. It is a real thing.

And avoiding inconvenience or connection contributes to the rising loneliness. Also, technology and the, the pandemic have eroded people's social skills, making it harder. That's

another thing that doesn't get talked about.

Sometimes people are just don't have the social skills. So I, I had a friend recently,

When Being Too Deep Ruins the Vibe: Social Skills 101 🤔💭🤦‍♂️

Bruce Anthony: and I've known this person for a few years, but we got closer recently, and this person said to me, you really love talking about serious stuff. And I was like, what? Because I'm naturally a, a jokester and prankster and clown.

Jay Aundrea: Yes.

Bruce Anthony: However, I also like deep conversations. love learning how people think, what makes them tick [00:32:00] and what makes them go. And sometimes my social awkwardness

will put me in the positions where I want to have those serious conversations. When it ain't time to be serious. We at the bar, you, I don't need to ask you. So you and your your mom are having a falling out right now. What's going on? How are you doing? No,

that's not the time to ask that.

So sometimes people can just be like, don't wanna hang with Bruce 'cause he's too serious all the time. And I'd be like, I'm, do you know me? But sometimes I be too serious sometimes.

And not everybody want be serious. Not everybody

want to get deep

and into feelings, so, so that's a part of

Jay Aundrea: not all the ti not all the time, but yeah, like, I think you're absolutely right.

Level Up Your Social Game: Practice Makes Perfect 🎯💪🔥

Jay Aundrea: Also that, you know, the, the pandemic and technology have eroded people's social skills as a quote in, uh, the Pride and Prejudice film that I'm gonna butcher. But basically, Mr. Darcy says to Elizabeth, I [00:33:00] don't have the talent of conversing easily with people I've never met before.

And she said, maybe you should take your aunt's advice and practice. Like, it's just about you just gotta try. You gotta, there's no way of building social. There's no book you can read. There's no, it's called. The skills of being social. You got to go out, you got to meet somebody, you got to be social, and that's how you build social skills.

Yes, it's gonna be awkward and you might be cringey at first, but you'll slowly learn one. How, how people communicate now in person, which is very different, right? You'll slowly start to learn that. And then also you'll slowly start to see who are your people and who's not your people.

How to Find Your Tribe: The Secret to Belonging 👥✨💫

Jay Aundrea: And there are people for everybody I know there's a lot of people that feel like I just can't make friends for whatever reason.

I know a lot of, uh, you know, neurodivergent people like myself sometimes have a difficult [00:34:00] time. Making friends or building connection, because sometimes you miss certain social cues and things, but just be friends with other neurodivergent people and we all understand each other. Like that's how, that's the solution that I found.

Like we can all understand each other and we can all, you know, go on those info dumps and things that we have when we get really into a topic. Like I had a very long conversation about what the flesh inside a great, this call is pulp, by the way. Uh, I looked that up. I went down a whole rabbit hole about that, but I had a good conversation with another neurodivergent person.

You know, it's about finding your community and finding your people, and you can only do that by actually going out and looking for 'em.

Bruce Anthony: That's true. Uh, Pope like, like orange juice has pope so

that the grape also has that, and

Jay Aundrea: It's called, it's called the pulp.

Bruce Anthony: and that's the fleshy part of the grape.

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: Okay. So you know how

Jay Aundrea: Because I was,

Bruce Anthony: the skin and you got the flesh. I

just thought it was the grape,

but the whole thing is the [00:35:00] grape. and you got the grape skin, right?

And then

Jay Aundrea: And then you have inside is the pulp. Yes. I was eating some grapes and I was like, what the hell is this part of the grape called? And that is the answer. I went down a whole rabbit hole about it.

Bruce Anthony: yeah. Okay. All right.

Why Friendship Takes Work: The Hard Truth 🤝💫💡

Bruce Anthony: And we also, in friendships when we talk about inconvenience, we have to kind reframe, as you said earlier, what that word actually means.

Take the negative connotation

out of what inconvenience mean and understand that it's an effort.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: It's it, you might look at it as a burden, but it's an effort.

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: the cost of this quote unquote burden or inconvenience is meaningful. Human connection.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

No Magic Pills: The Brutal Truth About Weight Loss 💪🏋️‍♀️🎯

Bruce Anthony: So all those people out there that's like, I wanna lose weight. There's no magic pill. You can [00:36:00] take ozempic. Ozempic will have, you have Ozempic, but you don't know what that is. Google it, you

Jay Aundrea: Or APIC face.

Bruce Anthony: or Ozempic face, like it makes you look sunken and droopy.

It's not cool. You wanna lose weight, guess what? You gotta eat a certain way.

Put yourself in the calorie deficit and then work out.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: It sucks. As

somebody who is a trainer, people ask me all the time, you like working out? No, I don't

like working out. It hurts. Literally

it hurts. I enjoy the feeling after

every now and then.

I feel that high during, but for the most part, it is not something that I'm always looking forward to.

I know it's the inconvenient part of trying to look the way that I wanna look.

Jay Aundrea: yes.

Bruce Anthony: Same concept here with friends.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah, it, the inconvenient thing is you gotta, you gotta get ready to [00:37:00] go out. You gotta put the clothes on, you gotta put the, the braces on because we over 40, so you gotta put some on your knee or your wrist. Okay. You might have to put something around your back. You might have to put on, you know, something to support your back.

You gotta go to the place where you work out. That's a inconvenience. 'cause you got to leave your house sometimes. You know, I don't, but some people do. Okay. You got to then spend the time and the labor of working like inconvenient. Yeah. It's not supposed to be easy.

Bruce Anthony: Mm-hmm.

Jay Aundrea: It's not supposed to be easy to inconvenience, inconvenience yourself.

And I think that's a lot of times why people look at it as a burden. But if it's a choice that you're making to add some value to your life through relationships. Take that inconvenience and use it and, and, and grow some relationships and, and, and stop being so [00:38:00] lonely out here. You know, you be, your phone be dry.

You just be looking out a, a rainy window, you know, like Carl Thomas or somebody. 'cause you alone,

Bruce Anthony: Oh look, ladies and gentlemen, nothing from nothing leaves nothing.

Jay Aundrea: right.

Bruce Anthony: You had to do something. Person punch you in the mouth. Don't mind.

Jay Aundrea: You know?

Bruce Anthony: Alright, for my people out there, question, have you ever lost a friendship because neither person wanted to put in effort? If you have drop down in that comment section, leave us a little bit of that story. Might even talk about it on the air, maybe, probably if it's good enough. 'cause I'm messy.

Jay Aundrea: Yes.

Bruce Anthony: Speaking of messy. Up next we're gonna be talking about some interesting and messy lottery stories. We're gonna get into that next.

[00:39:00]

Bruce Anthony: Jay. Something came across my timeline. My algorithm like often does to pique my interest and not lottery stories that you typically hear about. You typically hear about lottery stories where people get the millions, they've never had millions before.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: Think that millions is going to last, should last, but they spin and end up going broke.

Jay Aundrea: Yes. You hear about the horror stories be either people going broke or they're fighting over it or somebody dies. So Yeah, you hear a lot of the horror stories.

Bruce Anthony: these aren't necessarily horror stories, but they're funny stories in my mind.

They're humorous. So here's one.

Wild Lottery Stories That'll Make Your Jaw Drop 🎰🤯💰

Bruce Anthony: A British family used to play a game where they would pretend to win a lottery ticket, taking photos, holding up a fake winning ticket. They used to do this all the time. Amazingly, the day after playing the lottery, [00:40:00] they actually won the lottery for real, turning their play, pretend into reality.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah, I think that's hilarious. Like first of all, that you have a whole ritual around it and then like you've been practicing winning this whole time, and then you actually win. That's dope.

Bruce Anthony: I've been practicing winning without

ever playing. I play only when it get to the billions,

but then I think about how I'm going to give all the family members, certain family members, not everybody money. And I'm like, how am I going to escape the tax situation but

still give my family money? And then I start

Jay Aundrea: Oh, there's a way.

Bruce Anthony: yeah, there's a way.

And then I start thinking about, you know, the things I'm gonna buy with it. And believe it or not, it's nothing crazy.

Like I don't care about cars. I'm never gonna get back on a motorcycle again.

That's a lie. Uh, if motorcycles had training wheels, I'm on it.[00:41:00]

Jay Aundrea: Stay. There are three wheelers,

Bruce Anthony: I saw one recently and

that looks like if you turn the corner too fast you gonna flip over,

Jay Aundrea: yeah, for sure. Probably. Yeah. But I feel like that's the same for a motorcycle.

Bruce Anthony: Oh absolutely. But,

uh, I feel like you could take a sharper turn in a motorcycle anyw who

Yeah,

No, that's pretty cool. You've been practicing, then you win. And I hope that when they won that didn't cause no friction in the family.

'cause you think about, hey, we gotta split this money. And that's typically money is where

problems

Jay Aundrea: for the mo money, mo problems is what, is what you typically often find, uh, according to the notorious BIG.

Bruce Anthony: Now this one was this interesting.

Hmm, interesting.

Jay Aundrea: Hmm,

Bruce Anthony: in Massachusetts accidentally won the same lottery twice. He used his favorite number. For a ticket.

Forgetting that he's also been entered automatically with the same numbers by a season pass that was gifted by his family. [00:42:00] He ended up winning twice in the same drawing. Now I don't think you get twice the money,

but you

Jay Aundrea: uh, why not?

Bruce Anthony: That's not how it works.

Jay Aundrea: You have two winning tickets.

Bruce Anthony: yes. Well, I guess if it's multiple people, that's one that should be, you should win twice.

Jay Aundrea: I don't know if it's So when, I feel like when multiple people hit the lottery, they split

Bruce Anthony: they split. That's what I'm talking about.

Jay Aundrea: Okay.

Bruce Anthony: if they're, if it's multiple people and they split, he, his split should be different. 'cause he didn't want it twice. We

Jay Aundrea: Right? Yes. So if it was me and one other person, we not, you know, I get two thirds, they get a third. I got, I got two

Bruce Anthony: I got. And if, and if they want to go to court, We can go to war.

Jay Aundrea: 50. We're not splitting this 50 50. 'cause lay the tickets out. There's three of them.

Bruce Anthony: Now,

Jay Aundrea: belong to me, one to you. Let's do this [00:43:00] math here.

You gonna need, you gonna need this because you got money now. So you gonna need to learn how math works.

Bruce Anthony: how does math work, Jay?

Jay Aundrea: Look, lay the tickets on the table. How many are they? Three. So you already know this. This pot is gonna be split three right ways. Now, just because one person owns two of the tickets don't mean this is now 50 50.

Take the people out of it,

Bruce Anthony: Take the people

Jay Aundrea: assign the money, sign the racks to the number of tickets, and then the owners of those tickets, or the owners of them racks.

Bruce Anthony: Right.

Jay Aundrea: That's how, that's how that works.

Bruce Anthony: That would be an interesting legal argument. If any lawyers out there listening, yo, drop us a line, a DM or, or something like that. 'cause I don't really feel like doing the research.

'cause that seems like that would be really intricate to do. I'm sure there's

Jay Aundrea: Nah, I feel like it's easily a Googleable

Bruce Anthony: eh, I don't know.

Okay. This is one of the rare times where I don't feel like looking it up. So

Jay Aundrea: I don't,

Bruce Anthony: yeah, break that

down

Jay Aundrea: like [00:44:00] looking it up.

Bruce Anthony: But you know what? I instantly thought if you're awarded two

winning tickets in your lifetime, I'd be pissed off if it, if it's for the same

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Yeah, yeah.

Bruce Anthony: Because if I'm the sole

winner that don't change my fortunes,

I want to win two lotteries,

not one lottery twice.

Jay Aundrea: because I'm now questioning the amount of like merits or karma or everything that I've built up over my lives. That one. I've built up so much that in this life now I have the opportunity of winning the lottery twice. But I also did something because a little, some, just some karmic justice came in there where it's like, yeah, you built up enough merit to win it twice, but it's gonna be the same one.

Like it feel like, and, and you just would be like, wow, that's okay. I mean, I'm happy [00:45:00] that I won, but this just feels like a waste of all that karma that I just built

Bruce Anthony: Right, right. Yeah, I'd be pissed.

All right. This one is gonna sound familiar to a lot of my millennials and Gen Xers. Okay. In New York, a police officer and a diner waitress split a lottery ticket using numbers. They each selected, they won big together. This story is loosely inspired. The story loosely inspired the movie. It could happen to you. Starring, uh, um, uh, ooh. Who was that Star? Nicholas Cage. And was it Meg Ryan?

Jay Aundrea: You know, it feels like a Meg Ryan thing, but actually no. It was, uh, Bridget Fonda.

Bruce Anthony: Oh, you right. Bridgette Fonda. And then, uh, the Woman with the Dangerous Butt was also in that movie. I'm talking about

Jay Aundrea: Rosie Perez. Yes. Yes,

Bruce Anthony: Uh, though, and this is a real life story

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.[00:46:00]

Bruce Anthony: that they made a movie off of, though, in real life there was no romance, just luck and teamwork.

That's actually based on a true story.

I did not know that.

Jay Aundrea: I didn't know that either.

Bruce Anthony: You learn something new every day.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Very cute movie too. Yes.

Bruce Anthony: it is a beautiful movie.

90s Rom-Coms That Hit Different: The Golden Era 🎬❤️

Bruce Anthony: And look, first of all, they don't make movies like that anymore. Let's, let's talk about that for a

Jay Aundrea: IJ Yeah, yeah. Listen, the, the early and mid nineties for romantic comedies. I mean, yeah. I mean, wow. Just a beautiful time. We had a lot of really, really good romcoms in the nineties that I feel like we don't have.

Bruce Anthony: we've had 'em in the 2000. They just all star the same person. Jennifer Aniston

and J-Lo, Jennifer Aniston and J-Lo have a lock on all rom-coms. Every now and then Gabrielle Union gets thrown one.

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: But the rom com, you know what the rom-coms are now. Tyler Perry movies.[00:47:00]

Jay Aundrea: And that's disgusting to me. And I think that we all know my position. On that. But yeah, I mean, it started with, ours were all, all like, they weren't even based in reality. Like it started in 1990 with a little film starring Richard Gere and Julia Roberts called Pretty Woman. Not based in anything real, but uh,

Bruce Anthony: that's, that's a story of Cinderella.

Jay Aundrea: yeah, it's,

Bruce Anthony: with a twist.

Jay Aundrea: yeah. But let's come on y'all

Bruce Anthony: And look ladies and gentlemen, you know, sex work. I'm not going to shoot down sex work. I live in a state that is not legal. But if it was legal and a woman that looked like Julie Roberts, then, or now,

Jay Aundrea: now.

Bruce Anthony: I would, yeah. You know, I'd partake. 'cause you know, Julie Roberts is a beautiful woman.

Jay Aundrea: 1992, we got Boomerang.

Bruce Anthony: One of the greatest romcoms [00:48:00] and give it, leave it to Eddie to give himself two beautiful women to

choose between Robin Givens and a young Holly Berry. And

guess what?

Jay Aundrea: mushroom cut. Halle Berry, y'all. I don't think y'all understand. Mushroom cut. Halle Berry. That was top tier. Halle Berry,

Bruce Anthony: Right? Strictly

Jay Aundrea: first of all, Halle Berry and Halle Berry is always been top tier. She's top tier to this damn day.

Bruce Anthony: in that movie, she wasn't top billing.

Jay Aundrea: No,

Bruce Anthony: Givens was

supposed to be the most attractive woman in the movie. Can you imagine that? Uh, in a movie that Holly Berry is in,

she's not playing the most attractive woman That

was a thing in Boomerang.

Jay Aundrea: the one that got the little theme music as she walked into the office and it was, yeah. You know it got the whole thing. You see your

Bruce Anthony: was Grace Jones. No, that was Grace Jones got the theme music.

Jay Aundrea: Well, [00:49:00] no, 'cause there was also her walking there. She got the theme music too. Everybody, Robin Gibbons also got the theme music. But you got sleepless in Seattle.

You got, I mean, we had,

Bruce Anthony: in Seattle. And the movie that is exactly like sleepless in Seattle. You got mail

Jay Aundrea: yes.

Bruce Anthony: that stars the same two people telling the same damn story.

Jay Aundrea: One of another. One of my favorites. Forget Paris. 'cause you want it. You got it.

Bruce Anthony: uh, forgetting

Jay Aundrea: starring Billy Crystal and Deborah Winger. He was a NBA referee.

Bruce Anthony: yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. That was a good one. Uh,

1. we we took a detour. Let,

Jay Aundrea: we did. I'm sorry, but the nineties you can't. That was my time.

Bruce Anthony: Uh, nineties romcom. Yeah. You know what else is also a romcom

The Titanic Door Debate: Could Jack Have Survived? 🚢💔

Bruce Anthony: Titanic.

Jay Aundrea: is it? It is. Okay. It's definitely funny that she let that man drown when there was plenty of room on that door, but, but I'm gonna be honest with you, I have not seen [00:50:00] that one second of the film Titanic.

Bruce Anthony: Uh, I've dated several women that have made me watched that movie, including when it came out I was dating a woman and she was like, we're gonna go see Titanic. And I was like, I really wanna see that movie. She said,

we are going to go see Titanic. And

while everybody is crying in the movie theater, I'm actually chuckling because it was fun.

It's a funny scene. It's not funny, but it's funny 'cause of my

dark sense of humor where the boat it turns not, uh, it's no longer sideways. It goes vertical.

Jay Aundrea: Yes.

Bruce Anthony: And people start falling down.

Not only are they about to drown to death, but they hitting railings and bouncing before they hit the water.

It's not funny, but I'm like, yo, I'm getting ready to die.

Don't break my back on my way to drowning.

At least let me drown. Fighting a current, like swimming. I can't drown. 'cause I done, I done got paralyzed on the way to the water.

Jay Aundrea: No, you definitely can still drown. Here's the thing. I [00:51:00] would actually prefer to hit various things and be killed before I hit that ice, cold water and drown. Uh, I would rather bun, I would rather break my neck hitting a, a deck chair falling down, and then just be dead, then have to die, freeze to death first,

Bruce Anthony: I agree with that. But you said hit several things. I don't wanna

Jay Aundrea: Well, however many things that it takes for me to die before I hit that water.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah. Okay. I agree with that.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah,

Bruce Anthony: I just thought it was funny if people was falling and the band's still playing as they sinking,

and I'm just looking around, don't nobody else find this hilarious.

Jay Aundrea: yeah. No, they didn't.

Bruce Anthony: I, and I don't know about anybody else. I, uh, I try to be a gentleman.

I would've pushed Rose off of that thing and be

Jay Aundrea: Yeah, we gonna, we're gonna alternate and when I can't take it anymore in this water, let's switch you. Get in the water. I get it. If [00:52:00] we really truly can't both fit on this door, which I refuse to believe that that's the

Bruce Anthony: They just did a, they just, the director just proved it was something that came out recently just proved that they both can't fit on that. And I've actually seen other theories before. Two people get on there. It, it gets topsy-turvy. You flip off, you can't.

Jay Aundrea: then we alternating like, I just don't understand. We're alternating.

Bruce Anthony: All right. We had this turned into a dilly dabbling segment.

Ladies and

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Sorry

Bruce Anthony: for it to, we're gonna get back to,

uh, the Lottery. and these last two ones. Now this one is funny to me 'cause of my dark sense of humor.

Two brothers from Kansas win 75,000 and decide to celebrate with a wild night at home. Unfortunately, their party plans backfired when refueling their butane torches to light bongs. One brother calls an explosion that blew up their house. He was wearing his lottery t-shirt at the time.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: It [00:53:00] just seems like that would be something that happened on Curb.

Jay Aundrea: And, and, and all the money you just won now has to go in to repairing your house

Bruce Anthony: They blew up the home. They got, they gotta buy a new home.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. I mean, you got some insurance, but you going to have to replace your things and so all that 75 That's gone

Bruce Anthony: Do you ha? Do you ha? Does insurance cover lighting a bong and it blow up your house?

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: Oh, okay. Alright,

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. That's the thing. A lot of people don't know. Insurance cover stupid.

Bruce Anthony: Alright.

This one?

Jay Aundrea: of the things are due to people being stupid.

Bruce Anthony: People are stupid. All right. This last one I thought was real interesting and shady at the same time.

Jay Aundrea: Okay.

Bruce Anthony: In a hilarious twist, a woman in the UK kept her 2.65 million lottery win a secret from her husband for years worried he [00:54:00] would re relapse into old habits of spending it recklessly. She disguised her new purchases as pay raises or bonuses from work, keeping the massive win under wraps.

Jay Aundrea: For how, I mean for years. Like did he ever found, find out, like, I mean, obviously yes. Right, because it became a story, but like,

Bruce Anthony: but it was for years. She

did it for years.

Jay Aundrea: Wow.

Bruce Anthony: What type of spending now? Me and you got spending habits.

Both of us. Money flows in our hands and outta our hands. Holding money in our hands is like putting your hand, cupping your hands under the sink, having the water run and trying to hold the water.

Jay Aundrea: yeah,

Bruce Anthony: That's how money in our hands is. So we

empathize with her in the standpoint of, yeah, I want somebody to check me. Like if I

won a lottery, I'm [00:55:00] putting the money in trust and things like that. And then I'm

getting an allowance. 'cause I'm going, I'm gonna blow through it

just by getting,

Jay Aundrea: That's the

Bruce Anthony: kettle chips from Harris Teeter every day.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Um, she, he done got them into some trouble before.

Bruce Anthony: Yes he did.

Jay Aundrea: Okay. Okay. And I mean, big trouble, um, and probably more than once.

Bruce Anthony: Yes.

Jay Aundrea: To the point where this amazing thing happened. She couldn't share it with family, friends, nobody. She had to keep going to work.

Bruce Anthony: Yes. Well,

in all

Jay Aundrea: know what I mean?

Bruce Anthony: in all honesty, if you win 2.6 million, six, uh, $2.65 million, now

you still gotta take your ass to work that that

used to be enough. No,

Jay Aundrea: that, no, you can make that work. You can't. You can live, you can absolutely live off $2.565 [00:56:00] million. You don't have to live like a, you are not gonna live like a millionaire. You gonna live like a person that makes 60 or 70,000 a year.

Bruce Anthony: Well, even if you do a hundred thousand a year. That's 26. No, that's, I'm okay. Ooh, no.

Yeah, that's 20. That's 20 years

Jay Aundrea: Yes. Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: of

Jay Aundrea: You making

Bruce Anthony: thousand. Yeah.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Yeah. You can live off that just fine.

Bruce Anthony: But in 20 years I'll be 65. What the hell else am I going to? The

money gone after that.

Jay Aundrea: hopefully you've inve for, hopefully you've taken that 0.65 and invested that Hopefully that's been invested and you've been living for the last 20 years and, and saving your money, investing your money. Well, it's just like if you were saving for retirement when you just normally work in a six figure job.

It's the same premise.

Bruce Anthony: know how, I know we bad with money because your ass just said, [00:57:00] instead of every year paying yourself a hundred thousand dollars from an account, you said just take the 65 or the 2.65 million. That $650,000, just take that 'cause that's what the 0.65 is. Right? It's

$650,000. Just take that and invest it and just spend the rest of 2 million.

Jay Aundrea: No, no, you live for the 20 years. Right, but like also like you're giving yourself a salary, but part of your salary is going into your retirement fund.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, that's

Jay Aundrea: it's the same thing, like invest a portion of it, like take a large sum and invest a

Bruce Anthony: but but at the very least you don't have to go to work

Jay Aundrea: yes, you don't.

have to go to work

Bruce Anthony: Yeah.

Jay Aundrea: she had to go to work. She had to live life as normal

Bruce Anthony: Well, we don't know.

Jay Aundrea: being a millionaire,

Bruce Anthony: We don't know how much of debt they were in because of his past

spin habits [00:58:00] and recklessness.

Jay Aundrea: He done got them into some things enough where she was like, I am willing, as now a multimillionaire to keep living my life normally and just buying myself little things here and there, a trip, a vacation here and there, and I just say, I got a bonus at work. I'm willing to live like this and I don't have to

Bruce Anthony: talk about inconvenience in relationships.

She done lived it.

Jay Aundrea: because he done got them into some things a couple times.

Bruce Anthony: thing is just get a divorce.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: take half. You take half. Because if I got to

go through all that, if I don't trust you.

Jay Aundrea: Right,

Bruce Anthony: If I don't trust you, why

am I with you? I might love you, but I can't trust you.

Like maybe You won't cheat on me,

Jay Aundrea: you can't be with somebody you don't trust.

Bruce Anthony: Maybe you won't cheat on me.

I could trust you in that standpoint,

but I can't trust you with money.

And what is the number one cause of divorce? [00:59:00] Money.

Jay Aundrea: I, I would assume so. Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: money. It's not infidelity. It's money.

Jay Aundrea: It's money.

Bruce Anthony: And people can forgive being cheated on. People can't forgive you. Making us go broke. You

know how hard it was for me to make this money?

Jay Aundrea: I, I, I lost it all

Bruce Anthony: All, all

of

Jay Aundrea: you had to, because you, at the casino.

Bruce Anthony: Not the casino.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah, when it's, when it's not a, when it's not a good place. It's the casino. When it's a you going with your friends, you on vacation, then you going to the casino, but when you done lost all my money, it's the casino.

Bruce Anthony: All, we have dilly Dallied in this third segment, and

that was not the purpose. But Jay, before we go, 'cause you want to get some rest,

Jay Aundrea: yeah.

Bruce Anthony: what do you wanna leave the people with?

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Jay Aundrea: Inconvenience is not a bad thing if it's a choice. If I'm saying I'm choosing this relationship and this [01:00:00] person over my own comfort this moment, that's a good thing and it's okay to go ahead and lean on into that, or you gonna be lonely as hell with a dry ass phone.

Bruce Anthony: I, I, I cherish Sade that I could have a dry as phone and be lonely as hell. But on that note, ladies and gentlemen, I want to thank you for listening. I want to thank you for watching, and until next time, as always, I'll holler.

Woo. That was a hell of a show.

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