[00:00:00] Old-School Lessons, New-School Pressure, Same Human Struggle 🕹️📉❤️

[00:00:00] Bruce Anthony: What determines success and millennials and video games, we [00:00:05] gonna get into it. Let's get it.

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[00:00:19] Bruce Anthony: Welcome, [00:00:20] first of all, welcome. This is Unsolicited Perspectives. I'm your host, Bruce Anthony. Here to lead the conversation [00:00:25] and important events and topics that are shaping today's society. Join the conversation [00:00:30] to follow us wherever you get your audio podcast. Subscribe to our YouTube channel for our video podcast, [00:00:35] YouTube exclusive content, and our YouTube membership rate. Review, like, [00:00:40] comment, share, share with your friends. Share with your family. Hell even share with your [00:00:45] enemies. On today's episode

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[00:00:47] Bruce Anthony: is the sibling happy hour. I'm here with my sis Jay, [00:00:50] Andrea. We gonna be deadly ding a little bit. Then we're gonna be talking about what does success mean? [00:00:55] And did you know the video games we played back in the day taught us a lot? [00:01:00] But that's enough of the intro.

[00:01:02] Bruce Anthony: Let's get to the show.

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[00:01:11] Bruce Anthony: [00:01:05] [00:01:10] What up sis?

[00:01:12] Jay Aundrea: What up, brother?

[00:01:14] Bruce Anthony: I can [00:01:15] call it.

[00:01:16] Jay Aundrea: Oh, all right.

[00:01:19] Bruce Anthony: I [00:01:20] am exhausted.

[00:01:21] Jay Aundrea: Mm. Mm-hmm.

[00:01:22] Bruce Anthony: I woke up. First of all, I went to bed [00:01:25] late 'cause I needed, I was craving me time even though I had me time all day [00:01:30] yesterday. I was craving more me time at the end of the night.

[00:01:32] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

[00:01:33] Bruce Anthony: So I stayed up later than I should [00:01:35] have,

[00:01:35] Bruce Anthony: but not too late. Like I went to bed just a little after midnight.

[00:01:38] Bruce Anthony: The alarm was supposed to go after, [00:01:40] go out, go off at seven,

[00:01:42] Bruce Anthony: and so I was like, uh, you know, six [00:01:45] hours, it'll be good. People are thinking 12 to seven to seven hours. Bruce, I don't go to sleep right away.[00:01:50]

[00:01:50] Jay Aundrea: Right?

[00:01:51] Bruce Anthony: Well, I woke up at four to go to the bathroom, much like a middle aged [00:01:55] person would have to

[00:01:56] Jay Aundrea: Sure.

[00:01:57] Bruce Anthony: could not go back to sleep

[00:01:59] Jay Aundrea: [00:02:00] Mm.

[00:02:02] Bruce Anthony: I was both exhausted physically and [00:02:05] wide awake

[00:02:06] Jay Aundrea: Yeah. That's the worst feeling.

[00:02:08] Bruce Anthony: it's the worst feeling in the world. And you [00:02:10] like, alright, if I go to sleep, if I could fall asleep down, I'll give a solid, I'll get a solid [00:02:15] hour, I'll get that

[00:02:16] Jay Aundrea: had that conversation with ourselves. When you look at the clock, you'd be like, [00:02:20] look, if I fall asleep right now, [00:02:25] I could still get 52 minutes [00:02:30] before I gotta get up. For real, for real.

[00:02:33] Bruce Anthony: And you know what, you know what [00:02:35] I've learned, even though I didn't exercise this option last night or [00:02:40] this morning, is that

[00:02:41] Just Get Up or Regret It Later ⏰😤💡

[00:02:41] Bruce Anthony: just get the hell up because what's going to end up happening is you will [00:02:45] fall back asleep and you'll fall right back to sleep right before your alarm is supposed to go off. So just get [00:02:50] up.

[00:02:50] Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Yeah. And you're gonna oversleep. And that's what happens. Uh, [00:02:55] that's what happens to me all the time. 'cause I'm like, no, I still got a little time [00:03:00] because I purposely set my alarm early so that I can dilly [00:03:05] dally before I have to get up for real. But just depending on how [00:03:10] tired I am, I might fall back to sleep deeply.

[00:03:14] Jay Aundrea: And then I [00:03:15] wake up and I'm like, whoa, now it's time to work.

[00:03:17] Bruce Anthony: Mm-hmm.

[00:03:18] Jay Aundrea: And I still gotta [00:03:20] have some coffee, let the dogs out. So now I'm rushing around [00:03:25] when I had plenty of time. So a lot of times I'll just say, girl, just get up.

[00:03:29] Bruce Anthony: [00:03:30] If I could

[00:03:30] The Best Sleep Is the Sleep You Shouldn’t Get 🛌😈😂

[00:03:30] Bruce Anthony: harness that sleep that I get [00:03:35] when I'm not supposed to be getting that sleep.

[00:03:39] Jay Aundrea: It's the best [00:03:40] sleep you can have.

[00:03:40] Bruce Anthony: The best sleep that you can have. And it's so minimal. I, I, [00:03:45] I envy and I rarely env envy anybody. I envy those [00:03:50] people. That'd be like, yeah. Soon as I, as soon as my head hits the pillow, I fall right out. You fall right out. [00:03:55] I sleep through the night. No, I don't ever wake up. You

[00:03:57] Jay Aundrea: I hate them.

[00:03:58] Bruce Anthony: And, and you know, it's [00:04:00] crazy.

[00:04:00] Bruce Anthony: I'm still a morning person.

[00:04:02] Jay Aundrea: I'm not, I'm midday, [00:04:05] midday person. I'm not at night. I'm not a night owl, and I'm not a boring person. [00:04:10] Midday

[00:04:10] Bruce Anthony: Midday. That's where the kick air for you.

[00:04:12] Jay Aundrea: between 10 [00:04:15] and 10:00 AM and 5:00 PM

[00:04:17] Bruce Anthony: that's,

[00:04:18] Jay Aundrea: that's,

[00:04:18] Jay Aundrea: that's when I [00:04:20] shine.

[00:04:20] Bruce Anthony: midday. Well, I mean, most people work nine to five, so I mean.

[00:04:23] Jay Aundrea: So it's perfect for

[00:04:24] Jay Aundrea: [00:04:25] me and that I'm, I'm no good before, and I am no good after. [00:04:30]

[00:04:30] Jay Aundrea: That's that midday, that's where I'm, that's where I was like, oh, Jana's [00:04:35] on it.

[00:04:35] Bruce Anthony: I've learned since I've gotten older, [00:04:40] my mind is nowhere near as sharp until,[00:04:45]

[00:04:45] Bruce Anthony: until around 1112. I I do [00:04:50] not make important decisions before noon anymore. None. Because it [00:04:55] used to be I would wake up in the morning, sharpest attack, ready to go. Now it's like, why did I [00:05:00] do that dumb shit?

[00:05:01] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

[00:05:02] Bruce Anthony: You know, like brushing your teeth without putting [00:05:05] water on the toothpaste.

[00:05:05] Bruce Anthony: Why am I not focusing right now?

[00:05:08] Jay Aundrea: Right.

[00:05:08] Bruce Anthony: And now my

[00:05:09] Jay Aundrea: [00:05:10] just bristles just hard as hell.

[00:05:14] Bruce Anthony: raw dog in [00:05:15] a

[00:05:15] Socks, Slippers, and Bedroom Boundaries 🧦🚫🏠

[00:05:15] Bruce Anthony: toothbrush. You know why?

[00:05:18] Jay Aundrea: Gums bleeding.[00:05:20]

[00:05:20] Bruce Anthony: What was it that I did the other day that it was dumb as hell? And I was like, why did I do [00:05:25] this? This is what I did. I wear socks when I'm in the bed.

[00:05:29] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.[00:05:30]

[00:05:30] Bruce Anthony: However, I'm always getting up and I don't [00:05:35] care if I wear my socks from here to my bathroom because it's all connected in my room, right?

[00:05:39] Bruce Anthony: [00:05:40] Like, it's like it's okay,

[00:05:42] Bruce Anthony: but I'm not going out into the main room in my bed [00:05:45] socks,

[00:05:46] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

[00:05:46] Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Fair.

[00:05:48] Bruce Anthony: So I, [00:05:50] I take off my socks

[00:05:52] Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

[00:05:52] Bruce Anthony: to refreshing my drink. [00:05:55] I remembered this in the dead of the night. I remembered, hey, don't forget to take off your socks, [00:06:00] right? 'cause I routinely forget. And then I gotta put the socks in the dirty and the dirty clothes [00:06:05] and get a new pair of socks out 'cause outside socks, can't touch bed.

[00:06:08] Jay Aundrea: Nah.[00:06:10]

[00:06:11] Bruce Anthony: Why did I come back in, [00:06:15] put my socks back on,

[00:06:16] Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

[00:06:17] Bruce Anthony: back down. Be like, oh, I [00:06:20] forgot something, and walk right back out into the damn kitchen with the socks on.[00:06:25]

[00:06:25] Jay Aundrea: I am gonna tell you, you need to invest in some slippers,

[00:06:28] Bruce Anthony: I do have slippers, [00:06:30] but once again, I've got two pair of slippers. But once again, [00:06:35] the slippers can't roam all throughout the house. Oh, well wait a minute. [00:06:40] No, I don't, I don't like, I don't like the living room and, and [00:06:45] kitchen floor particles to touch the bedroom [00:06:50] particles.

[00:06:51] Jay Aundrea: So,

[00:06:53] Bruce Anthony: Everybody's like, Bruce, [00:06:55] there is something wrong with you. Yes.

[00:06:57] Jay Aundrea: yeah,

[00:06:57] Jay Aundrea: that's extreme. So my [00:07:00] slippers don't go outside. They are strictly indoor slippers. If I [00:07:05] go outside, I put my Crocs

[00:07:06] Jay Aundrea: on. Like if I let the dog out, go get the [00:07:10] mail, anything like that, the Croc's gone. My slippers never touch the outdoors. If they touch the outdoors, they go in the [00:07:15] garage. So, but they going to be around the ha [00:07:20] it's the same, I it is the

[00:07:22] Jay Aundrea: same floor.

[00:07:23] Bruce Anthony: would have to have 'em in every room. [00:07:25] And I guarantee you that even if I had the slippers right by the bed, when I wake [00:07:30] up in the middle of the night to go get something in outta the kitchen, I'm going to [00:07:35] forget to put them on. 'cause it's

[00:07:36] Jay Aundrea: They're right next to the bed.

[00:07:38] Bruce Anthony: be a habit.

[00:07:39] Jay Aundrea: It's a [00:07:40] habit for I cannot walk around barefoot.

[00:07:42] Bruce Anthony: Well, I have indoor and [00:07:45] outdoor slippers and everybody's like outdoor slippers.

[00:07:47] Bruce Anthony: 'cause I live in a building.

[00:07:49] Bruce Anthony: There'll be [00:07:50] times where I go downstairs and get the mail or packages or whatever, [00:07:55] talk to the front desk, uh, uh, assistant, and I'll use, those are my outdoor [00:08:00] slippers. They don't go past the entryway of my, of my apartment.[00:08:05]

[00:08:05] Jay Aundrea: Right. Okay.

[00:08:05] Bruce Anthony: They, they stay in the entryway. In the kitchen a little bit, [00:08:10] and then outside.

[00:08:11] Bruce Anthony: And then I got my regular slippers, which by the way, I

[00:08:13] Jay Aundrea: To me, that's [00:08:15] outside. To me that's outside because that's regular public [00:08:20] traffic. So if I step [00:08:25] out from my home, I gotta put the outside shoes on.[00:08:30]

[00:08:30] Bruce Anthony: Mm.

[00:08:31] Jay Aundrea: So for me, even if the moment you step out

[00:08:34] Apartment Living, Dog Pee, and Public Floors 🐕🚪🤢

[00:08:34] Jay Aundrea: [00:08:35] of your place, like it doesn't matter if you're still in the building, [00:08:40] general people's foot traffic is going through there.

[00:08:43] Bruce Anthony: Yes. And [00:08:45] you know what's even worse, dog pee. This is,

[00:08:48] Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

[00:08:48] Bruce Anthony: happened the other morning. [00:08:50] I'm downstairs, it's like nine o'clock in the morning. I'm going to the gym. [00:08:55] And this lady is, she has two little dogs, but she's cleaning up

[00:08:59] Jay Aundrea: Yeah. [00:09:00]

[00:09:00] Bruce Anthony: giant puddle of pee. And she was right by the elevator. [00:09:05] Which lets me know that she was, she was trying to get them out in time [00:09:10] and couldn't get them out.

[00:09:11] Bruce Anthony: And my boy, who I met in the gym was like, did you see the [00:09:15] lady to clean up the dog pee? I was like, yeah. It seemed like it was a lot. And I walked right on pass ' cause [00:09:20] I got some place I needed to be, she needed to play that up herself. He was like, yeah, [00:09:25] I saw it all when it happened. She almost beat the hell outta that dog.[00:09:30]

[00:09:31] Bruce Anthony: She's like, you, Sam.

[00:09:32] Jay Aundrea: because we almost there we're [00:09:35] almost outside. You couldn't hold it another three seconds.[00:09:40]

[00:09:40] Bruce Anthony: She said,

[00:09:41] Jay Aundrea: were almost there.

[00:09:42] Bruce Anthony: Sam almost beat the hell outta that dog. [00:09:45] And I was just like, IG I've been there, I've been there. I've been in this building where I'm like, you [00:09:50] know what crypto, I should have taken you out sooner. Come on buddy, let's go. And I know he is [00:09:55] holding it

[00:09:55] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

[00:09:56] Bruce Anthony: and sometimes you don't make it 'cause you get on these elevators.

[00:09:58] Bruce Anthony: All that motion for these [00:10:00] dogs.

[00:10:00] Jay Aundrea: stuff. See me? I just opened the front door.

[00:10:02] Jay Aundrea: Like you got all that extra [00:10:05] travel before they can actually get outside. So yeah, I get that. But [00:10:10] no, at the same time though, we were almost there. Like you could see [00:10:15] outside from the

[00:10:16] Jay Aundrea: elevators. you can't.

[00:10:18] Jay Aundrea: you can lean[00:10:20]

[00:10:20] Bruce Anthony: You gotta go all the way around the corner. But I know that she was probably running late [00:10:25] that morning

[00:10:25] Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

[00:10:27] Bruce Anthony: and this incident, because we got cameras and [00:10:30] you get penalized if your dog has an accident and you don't clean it up. And a cleaning lady was trying to [00:10:35] help her, giving the little paper towels, and the lady was like, can I use your mop?

[00:10:39] Bruce Anthony: And I would've [00:10:40] said no,

[00:10:41] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

[00:10:42] Bruce Anthony: that's a lot of dog pee.

[00:10:43] Jay Aundrea: Yeah,

[00:10:44] Bruce Anthony: [00:10:45] We need to get some of that up first and then we can use the mop. But uh, [00:10:50] yeah. Anyway, you were going to say something. You probably lost your train of thought.

[00:10:53] Jay Aundrea: Oh, it's gone. It's been gone.[00:10:55]

[00:10:56] Bruce Anthony: you said I'm gonna save the.

[00:10:58] Jay Aundrea: Yeah, it's been [00:11:00] gone.

[00:11:02] Bruce Anthony: It wasn't you almost burning your eyelashes,[00:11:05]

[00:11:06] Jay Aundrea: No, that wasn't it. That was a side comment. [00:11:10] No, it's almost, no, it's been gone. I don't know what it was. No [00:11:15] idea. But I was like,

[00:11:15] ADHD Brains, Novelty, and Disappearing Acts 🌀🧠👻

[00:11:15] Jay Aundrea: oh, this will be good for dilly Dally. Let me wait.

[00:11:18] Bruce Anthony: right?

[00:11:19] Jay Aundrea: [00:11:20] That was a mistake.

[00:11:21] Bruce Anthony: Yeah.

[00:11:21] Jay Aundrea: know what it was. It'll come back eventually. I don't

[00:11:24] Bruce Anthony: It, it [00:11:25] will, your A DHD brain will definitely come back. I saw something. There's this [00:11:30] woman on Instagram and I, you know, all these people on Instagram say they're an expert on something, [00:11:35] says she's an expert on A DHD and she made this [00:11:40] comment to, to these men. And the men was like, oh, [00:11:45] you thought you got yourself a little batty.

[00:11:48] Bruce Anthony: No, shorty has a [00:11:50] DHD. You did something that was enticing to her for the moment.

[00:11:54] Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm. [00:11:55]

[00:11:55] Bruce Anthony: Then she became really interested in, in it and then she disappeared on you. [00:12:00] Yeah. That's dealing with a woman that has a DHD and I was like,[00:12:05]

[00:12:05] Bruce Anthony: you know what? That's not just women. That's men. Because that is [00:12:10] me too. I, there have been so, I have had women [00:12:15] contact me and be like, what happened to you?

[00:12:18] Bruce Anthony: I'm like, what's talking

[00:12:19] Jay Aundrea: The [00:12:20] novelty wore off.

[00:12:21] Bruce Anthony: you? Just, you just disappeared. And I was like, I did, didn't [00:12:25] we just talk the other day, Bruce? That was a month ago. Oh, well

[00:12:29] Jay Aundrea: [00:12:30] time blindness. You forget how

[00:12:31] Jay Aundrea: much time passes. Also, [00:12:35] object permanence. You

[00:12:35] Jay Aundrea: don't miss anyone,

[00:12:37] Jay Aundrea: so it's a, it's very difficult.[00:12:40]

[00:12:40] Bruce Anthony: yo, to hold my attention for a long time.

[00:12:42] Jay Aundrea: intentionally.

[00:12:43] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

[00:12:44] Bruce Anthony: you know [00:12:45] what, and and this is a, a common problem that I have in [00:12:50] relationships.

[00:12:50] Bruce Anthony: I'm trying to do better at it. I don't make no plans. [00:12:55] Like I, I don't remember the last time [00:13:00] I asked a woman out on a date. They say, Hey, [00:13:05] do you wanna get together? You wanna hang out? Yeah, sure. Cool. Well, how does this day [00:13:10] work for you? That day doesn't work. This day does, what do you wanna do? I don't know.

[00:13:13] Bruce Anthony: It's whatever you wanna do. It's [00:13:15] all good. Okay. I was thinking about doing this. All right. I guess that'll work. 'cause you know, I'm easily, as [00:13:20] long as I can have a drink, I could do just about anything.

[00:13:22] Jay Aundrea: Right.

[00:13:22] Bruce Anthony: And then it goes, [00:13:25] whenever we gonna see each other again. I don't know. I mean, you know, whenever I don't ask women out,[00:13:30]

[00:13:30] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

[00:13:31] Jay Aundrea: That it, yeah. I don't, I don't think you [00:13:35] liked them,

[00:13:35] Jay Aundrea: so that's probably what, that

[00:13:37] Bruce Anthony: that's what somebody said to me.

[00:13:39] Jay Aundrea: [00:13:40] Yeah. You just didn't like her.

[00:13:42] Bruce Anthony: But there was something about 'em that I, I at [00:13:45] least entertained the idea

[00:13:47] Jay Aundrea: There was something novel about [00:13:50] it. Uh, an A DHD brain, it like, it, it craves [00:13:55] novelty. And so if there's something unique about [00:14:00] somebody, I'll zero in on it. But once I, once the novelty wears off, [00:14:05] uh,

[00:14:08] Bruce Anthony: why you be like, they're so [00:14:10] quirky and, and, and spontaneous and then you realize they flighty as hell. [00:14:15] And this is not the way I wanna live my life. I need to live in more structure.

[00:14:19] Jay Aundrea: Or I just [00:14:20] like, okay, I got used to it and it's no longer

[00:14:23] Bruce Anthony: Exciting.

[00:14:24] Jay Aundrea: or [00:14:25] anymore. And so like, my mind moves on and it's not, it's not [00:14:30] great, but that's how it is. And my mind just moves on.

[00:14:34] Bruce Anthony: You know what I've [00:14:35] learned with people that have been in long-term relationships?

[00:14:37] Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

[00:14:39] Bruce Anthony: They love [00:14:40] their, they love their partner, but they're bored. They're bored. You know this, [00:14:45] man, it's mundane. And part of the reason why I never got an office job, I [00:14:50] swore to my dad when I was our dad when I was like 13 and 14.

[00:14:53] Bruce Anthony: I was like, I'm never gonna work in an [00:14:55] office. That just seems like I would just die in a cubicle. And I haven't, I [00:15:00] haven't,

[00:15:00] Jay Aundrea: yeah,

[00:15:03] Bruce Anthony: The relationships almost feel like the [00:15:05] same thing. They feel like a cubicle. It's like, I can't, it's not like I want to go [00:15:10] out there and do what I, whatever, you know, I'm, I'm not out here running the streets no more.

[00:15:14] Bruce Anthony: I'm too old for

[00:15:14] Chosen vs Choosing in Relationships 🎯❤️⚖️

[00:15:14] Bruce Anthony: [00:15:15] that. But it's like, man, this kind of feel like a, I'm getting trapped. Ah,

[00:15:19] Jay Aundrea: [00:15:20] yeah.

[00:15:20] Bruce Anthony: wanna see me on this

[00:15:21] Jay Aundrea: into the trap that I fell into, which [00:15:25] is you're always chosen and you never choose. So like that's another thing of like [00:15:30] when you don't wanna set up the meat, don't just go along. [00:15:35] Because this person wants to hang out. Like [00:15:40] you should be active, actively participating in it. If you're not actively [00:15:45] participating in it, it is 'cause you don't really wanna do it.

[00:15:47] Bruce Anthony: Well, when you say [00:15:50] choose and not just be chosen, that that really falls [00:15:55] along. Heterosexual relationships is what I'm talking about right now.

[00:15:58] Bruce Anthony: [00:16:00] Women get to choose. Men are chosen,[00:16:05]

[00:16:07] Jay Aundrea: I don't

[00:16:07] Jay Aundrea: think that's

[00:16:08] Bruce Anthony: speak. Generally [00:16:10] speaking, women are being hit on all the time. Men are [00:16:15] being hit on all the time, not

[00:16:16] Jay Aundrea: no, what I'm saying is like you're making the [00:16:20] act of choice. It's not somebody coming to you and saying, Hey, let's get together. And you just [00:16:25] saying, okay. Instead of that, it's you [00:16:30] making the action.

[00:16:32] Bruce Anthony: When was the last

[00:16:33] Jay Aundrea: what I mean by [00:16:35] choosing.

[00:16:35] Bruce Anthony: My last girlfriend, I did that. I, I guess, no, [00:16:40] she asked me out on the first date and, but I did say no. She says something [00:16:45] about the second date I, I sent her a picture of, of this restaurant or this [00:16:50] something, and she was like, is that what we're doing next? And I, I was just sending it to her.

[00:16:53] Bruce Anthony: I wasn't asking her. [00:16:55] And I was like, oh, well, I guess we could do that. And then after the second date, I was like, Hey, [00:17:00] can I see you again? Yeah, but that was the last time I don't be asking, can I see you [00:17:05] again? I'd just be like,

[00:17:07] Jay Aundrea: yeah. So I'm trying to be more intentional about [00:17:10] not just letting myself be chosen and like I actually [00:17:15] participate in the process because typically I'm just like, all right, [00:17:20] I'm not doing anything. Sure.

[00:17:22] Bruce Anthony: Nah,

[00:17:22] Jay Aundrea: And then I get into a relationship, I'll be like, [00:17:25] oh, Lord, I don't really have a good way out of this.

[00:17:29] Bruce Anthony: [00:17:30] quote, quote younger Bruce, and I forgot about this until one of my main [00:17:35] boys said, remember when you used to say this all the time, younger Bruce, I'm talking about college, [00:17:40]

[00:17:40] Jay Aundrea: Okay.

[00:17:40] Bruce Anthony: to always say, man, get into these situations with women [00:17:45] and never wanted to be direct 'cause didn't wanna hurt nobody's feelings and used always come up [00:17:50] with these schemes.

[00:17:50] Bruce Anthony: And I would say, I need to find some way to wiggle my way out the situation.[00:17:55]

[00:17:56] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

[00:17:57] Bruce Anthony: I was like, I need to wiggle my way out the

[00:17:59] Jay Aundrea: Gotta wiggle [00:18:00] my way out the situation. Like, and sometimes I just say, oh, you [00:18:05] know, I just don't see a future for this. And,

[00:18:08] Bruce Anthony: I don't know if

[00:18:09] Jay Aundrea: and that's [00:18:10] just my catchall, that's just my catchall answer when I really don't [00:18:15] have a reason. I just was never really interested in the first place. I [00:18:20] just did it when I was bored.

[00:18:21] Jay Aundrea: And now the novel, the little bit of novelty there was, [00:18:25] is been wore off and I need to make a nice, you know, clean [00:18:30] exit.

[00:18:30] Bruce Anthony: Yeah. Sometimes that's what you gotta do, but I like to wiggle my way out the [00:18:35] situation. That's, and,

[00:18:37] Jay Aundrea: I'm not gonna lie, like, I'm not gonna lie, but [00:18:40] uh, you know, I'm not gonna work hard to make up [00:18:45] something palatable. I'm just gonna say, Hey, I just don't see a future [00:18:50] with this.

[00:18:51] Bruce Anthony: no, I mean, that's the

[00:18:52] Bruce Anthony: mature adult [00:18:55] way to do that. You know? Speaking of that, [00:19:00] and the segue is, I, I already screwed it up. Anyway, ladies and [00:19:05] gentlemen, that's enough of the daily dabbling. I was gonna attempt to make a segue and I was like, I don't know how to connect this. That's [00:19:10] enough of the daily dabbling.

[00:19:11] Bruce Anthony: Uh, we going to get into what [00:19:15] defines success? Are we gonna get into that? Next.

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[00:19:27] Bruce Anthony: [00:19:20] [00:19:25] I just wanna ask you one question. [00:19:30] What were we told a successful adult looked like growing up? [00:19:35] Success used to be external, a job title, [00:19:40] money, marriage, house, kids,

[00:19:42] Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

[00:19:43] Bruce Anthony: very little conversation about [00:19:45] mental health, joy, alignment, or sustainability. [00:19:50] I have come to this [00:19:55] point in my life where I'm trying [00:20:00] so desperately to appreciate the successes [00:20:05] that I have in my

[00:20:06] Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

[00:20:07] Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

[00:20:07] Bruce Anthony: Here's a prime example. [00:20:10] I had a friend not too long ago that I was talking [00:20:15] to and I got pitched a person to interview

[00:20:19] Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

[00:20:19] Bruce Anthony: I [00:20:20] was like, no, I don't want to interview this person and these are the reasons why I don't want to interview this person. Like I, the, [00:20:25] the, the material that they were gonna be presenting, I, I couldn't connect with.

[00:20:29] Bruce Anthony: And [00:20:30] if I can't connect with it, the audience won't connect with it 'cause it'll be inauthentic.

[00:20:34] Jay Aundrea: [00:20:35] Yeah.

[00:20:35] Bruce Anthony: And so I was like, I'm gonna have to tell this publicist that I'm just not interested. [00:20:40] And this is like the second or third time that I've told a person that they pitched that I'm not [00:20:45] interested in.

[00:20:45] Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

[00:20:46] Bruce Anthony: And my friend was like, wow.[00:20:50]

[00:20:50] Bruce Anthony: Your podcast is really successful, and I'm like, no. You know, when I look at the metrics [00:20:55] and I compare it to other people, you know, we, we all right, we in the middle of the road [00:21:00] sometimes, you

[00:21:00] When Someone Else Sees Your Success First 👀✨💡

[00:21:00] Bruce Anthony: know, it's, it's a lot of streams. Sometimes it's not, eh, [00:21:05] whatever. Like, we're still not, we're still not generating a, a ton of money.

[00:21:09] Bruce Anthony: It's like, [00:21:10] whatever it is, like we do. Okay. She was like, Bruce, you can [00:21:15] literally, you literally have companies pitch their [00:21:20] clients to you to come on your show

[00:21:24] Bruce Anthony: and you [00:21:25] say no more than you say Yes. [00:21:30] I was like, yeah, but you know, that just doesn't fit with the show. She was like, do you understand that, that people [00:21:35] are coming to you to come on?

[00:21:38] Bruce Anthony: People see the value [00:21:40] in their clients coming on your show. I was like, oh. She's like, that's [00:21:45] successful.

[00:21:45] Jay Aundrea: Yeah,

[00:21:46] Bruce Anthony: I was like, oh. Okay. I never thought about it and I [00:21:50] need to be more intentional about

[00:21:52] Jay Aundrea: yeah,

[00:21:53] Bruce Anthony: what success is. But you said you [00:21:55] had a conversation with a person recently about this topic [00:22:00] and I feel like it's important because so many people out there are like, I don't feel [00:22:05] successful, and you are, you just may not be seeing it the way that you should be.

[00:22:09] Jay Aundrea: [00:22:10] yeah. And basically what the conversation boiled down to is that you have to [00:22:15] define what success looks like for yourself. It cannot be [00:22:20] these external drivers because there [00:22:25] are over 7 billion people in the world. There is no way that [00:22:30] these specific things, these five or six things are gonna make all of us [00:22:35] happy. That is not, first of all, I also wouldn't equate [00:22:40] success with happiness.

[00:22:42] Bruce Anthony: Mm-hmm.

[00:22:42] Jay Aundrea: Just because you're successful doesn't mean that you'll be [00:22:45] happy. So I wouldn't conflate the two of them. You [00:22:50] can,

[00:22:50] Success Doesn’t Equal Happiness 🚫😊📉

[00:22:50] Jay Aundrea: you can be what other people would deem not successful, but be [00:22:55] perfectly content with your life. So I wouldn't conflate the two, but [00:23:00] it's, but it's also about deciding for yourself what [00:23:05] success looks like. it's gotta come [00:23:10] from you because what you'll find is [00:23:15] if, if your metrics are coming from other people, if you're coming from these [00:23:20] external sources of society, whatever, when you hit them, [00:23:25] it will be hollow because you are not connected to these things at [00:23:30] all.

[00:23:30] Jay Aundrea: None of this came from you. So, [00:23:35] uh, earning things, uh, gaining material things. [00:23:40] Fame, fortune, all of that stuff. If, if, for you as a [00:23:45] person, those things were never really important, [00:23:50] but they're important to other people. And so you get them. And then you realize, I hate [00:23:55] this, right? Like, how many people in entertainment are [00:24:00] miserable?

[00:24:00] Jay Aundrea: And you would think rich are miserable?

[00:24:04] Jay Aundrea: [00:24:05] absolutely miserable, but we are saying, no, you're rich and famous, [00:24:10] you're successful. But how many of them was on [00:24:15] drugs and can't, can't cope and can't like, because that [00:24:20] stuff was never actually important to you in the first place.

[00:24:22] Jay Aundrea: So you have to figure [00:24:25] out what is important to you, what do you actually care about? What, [00:24:30] what would bring you joy if you were to accomplish that [00:24:35] goal? And then start defining. [00:24:40] Success by those metrics, because otherwise it's just not ever [00:24:45] gonna feel good the way it's supposed to

[00:24:48] Jay Aundrea: or the way you think it should.

[00:24:49] Bruce Anthony: I [00:24:50] love that what you said, success doesn't equal happiness because we were always [00:24:55] told, if you hit these markers, markers, happiness will follow. And [00:25:00] then we have to ask ourself, does, does, does that script really work? As you get older in life, [00:25:05] as you hit those markers, you could hit those markers and be like, well, [00:25:10] does that, does that really work?

[00:25:11] Bruce Anthony: Because I don't feel fulfilled, even [00:25:15] though, quote unquote, I'm successful.

[00:25:18] Bruce Anthony: I, and part of that has to [00:25:20] do with like your job.

[00:25:22] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

[00:25:22] Bruce Anthony: And a lot of people [00:25:25] tend to look down at Gen Z at jobs and say they nobody [00:25:30] sticks to their job anymore. Well, actually, statistically, the [00:25:35] younger adults haven't changed the rate of moving around.

[00:25:39] Bruce Anthony: The jobs. [00:25:40] They tend, they tend to stick in jobs just as long as older people.[00:25:45]

[00:25:45] Bruce Anthony: But what has changed is the economy,

[00:25:48] Bruce Anthony: right? So [00:25:50] going out and getting, people will talk about, you get that dream job, you'll be happy

[00:25:54] Bruce Anthony: and [00:25:55] maybe you get it. But then these jobs now don't offer long-term security, [00:26:00] don't offer pensions.

[00:26:01] Bruce Anthony: They don't offer loyalty in return. So [00:26:05] people will move for better pay, better mental health, and better boundaries. [00:26:10] So job is job happen. Hopping irresponsible or [00:26:15] strategic, I would say depends, right? It depends [00:26:20] on.

[00:26:20] Job Hopping: Strategic or Side-Eyed? 💼🔄🤔

[00:26:20] Bruce Anthony: Deemed to be happiness in your eyes. [00:26:25] But I can say staying at a miserable job [00:26:30] is no bueno. If you miserable, if you hate waking up in the morning, going to [00:26:35] that job every day, look for a new job. Don't quit it. Look for a new job. 'cause you might need [00:26:40] that job 'cause you gotta support a family. But get the hell up out here. You did [00:26:45] that and it changed your entire life.

[00:26:47] Jay Aundrea: yeah. Sometimes you do have [00:26:50] to, uh, bet on yourself. And it was funny, uh, the conversation ended up, [00:26:55] venturing into them, this [00:27:00] person like wondering, you know, should I step out on faith and do [00:27:05] something different, or should I stay where I'm at and be secure [00:27:10] and not really being on the fence about it?

[00:27:13] Jay Aundrea: And I'm saying [00:27:15] to them, it's like, it's not really you. [00:27:20] Suddenly changing things or switching things up. It's just as you get [00:27:25] older or as life dictates, circumstances change. Your appetite [00:27:30] for risk can increase or decrease. And right now, your appetite for [00:27:35] risk is open. And so that is why you're feeling that [00:27:40] itch to try something new to kind of bet on yourself and try something new. I [00:27:45] was in a position where, my appetite for [00:27:50] risk had increased and I was like, I can take on more risk [00:27:55] to do s to for the end result to be much better [00:28:00] than what I'm doing right now. And so I wouldn't [00:28:05] look at, you know, quitting your job or [00:28:10] ending that relationship or, you know, stepping out on faith or anything as [00:28:15] like irresponsible or reckless. You just. [00:28:20] Are willing to take on more risk to do something new.

[00:28:24] Bruce Anthony: I [00:28:25] would say make sure it's a calculated risk.

[00:28:27] Jay Aundrea: Well, Yeah.

[00:28:28] Jay Aundrea: So that's why it's all, it's all [00:28:30] strategic,

[00:28:30] Jay Aundrea: Right.

[00:28:30] Jay Aundrea: Like that you, you had asked, you know, is, is [00:28:35] job hopping responsible or str irresponsible or strategic? I think it's strategic.

[00:28:39] Bruce Anthony: Mm-hmm.[00:28:40]

[00:28:41] Jay Aundrea: Job hopping statistically [00:28:45] results in higher salaries, more opportunities to develop and move up [00:28:50] the

[00:28:50] Jay Aundrea: ladder. It, these jobs, like you said, they're not offering that [00:28:55] pension anymore.

[00:28:55] Jay Aundrea: A lot of times older folks is like, I, I worked here 30, 40 [00:29:00] years. Yeah, because you knew when you retired you had some money coming to [00:29:05] you. We don't have that. We got what we [00:29:10] saved

[00:29:10] Jay Aundrea: and a little bit, the government may give us. When the time comes, [00:29:15] I don't know if it'll still be around, but like companies aren't [00:29:20] prioritizing their people the same way that they used [00:29:25] to.

[00:29:25] Bruce Anthony: Mm-hmm.

[00:29:26] Jay Aundrea: The middle class was created because those things [00:29:30] existed. Now they don't. So y'all [00:29:35] asking why we still living home, or we are in apartments with a bunch of roommates, or we [00:29:40] job hop and this and that. Because it's like you said, the, the economy [00:29:45] changed. We didn't change.

[00:29:46] Jay Aundrea: We're just trying to adapt to it.

[00:29:48] Bruce Anthony: And. [00:29:50] When we talk about this idea of success and happiness, [00:29:55] 'cause they're kind of intertwined. You're, you're looking for happiness through success.[00:30:00]

[00:30:00] Bruce Anthony: You are success in some form or fashion. You're looking for the happiness through [00:30:05]

[00:30:05] Jay Aundrea: At

[00:30:05] Peace Is the Real Measure of Success ☮️🧘🏽‍♂️✨

[00:30:05] Jay Aundrea: least satisfaction.

[00:30:07] Bruce Anthony: A look, the, the, [00:30:10] the grade should be peace,

[00:30:13] Jay Aundrea: Yeah,

[00:30:14] Bruce Anthony: The [00:30:15] happiness should equal peace.

[00:30:17] Bruce Anthony: If, if you got peace, [00:30:20] everything else will fall into place. But peace is the most important thing.

[00:30:23] Bruce Anthony: And a lot of times [00:30:25] people will stay somewhere out. Fear, whether it's relationships or jobs. [00:30:30] I know of a person and they listen to the show and watch the show. [00:30:35] So they, and they always like, I know that story.

[00:30:36] Bruce Anthony: That's my story. And I'm like, yes, I'm telling your story. [00:30:40] Okay. They were at a job and I was [00:30:45] like, Hey look, your boss talks at you. Out the side of they [00:30:50] mouth, first of all, that's a problem for me. I was around them when they got a phone call from [00:30:55] their boss and the first few words were cuss words. And I was like, you ain't check, [00:31:00] you ain't checking for that

[00:31:01] Bruce Anthony: because I ain't no, I don't care if you [00:31:05] my boss, you ain't going to come out your mouth wrong.

[00:31:07] Bruce Anthony: But then again, I'm notorious for [00:31:10] quitting jobs, so maybe

[00:31:11] Jay Aundrea: No, that's, no, it's absolutely unacceptable in

[00:31:14] Jay Aundrea: [00:31:15] the workplace, period.

[00:31:16] Bruce Anthony: and then they were, they were working under [00:31:20] this constant pressure and they were having, you know, health problems. It was [00:31:25] checking their heart and they were a young person. And I was like, why are you still [00:31:30] with this job?

[00:31:31] Bruce Anthony: And it was because of the security. It was a guaranteed check.[00:31:35]

[00:31:35] Bruce Anthony: They didn't have to worry about it. They were going to deal with the strikes because [00:31:40] most people will take prestige over peace.

[00:31:44] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.[00:31:45]

[00:31:45] Bruce Anthony: You know, I got this job title. So what you got all that stress that's [00:31:50] along with it? Are you enjoying it? Are you happy?

[00:31:53] Bruce Anthony: Are you putting on for the [00:31:55] Joneses?

[00:31:55] Bruce Anthony: And are you scared to leave because you'd be judged for it? I [00:32:00] have left some cushy situations where people would be like, why did you do that? [00:32:05] I, you had it made over there. It was like, 'cause I wasn't happy.

[00:32:09] Bruce Anthony: I didn't [00:32:10] have peace. I had to get up outta there.

[00:32:12] Jay Aundrea: I was not satisfied

[00:32:14] Jay Aundrea: [00:32:15] with where I was.

[00:32:16] Bruce Anthony: so, so these are interesting conversations and [00:32:20] social media has a lot to do with part of the unhappiness that [00:32:25] people have because social media, people will show you [00:32:30] the, the good stuff.

[00:32:31] Bruce Anthony: They'll show you the wins, not the process. They'll show you the highlights, not the [00:32:35] burnout. But a stable life has its [00:32:40] ebbs and flows. It has its failures and successes, and a lot of people [00:32:45] on social media aren't gonna show their failures.

[00:32:47] Jay Aundrea: Right.

[00:32:48] Bruce Anthony: You know what I'm [00:32:50] saying? They'll only show the successes,

[00:32:52] Bruce Anthony: and then you sitting there watching it, you trying to [00:32:55] compare yourself and you can't compare.

[00:32:57] Jay Aundrea: Right. Because it's a curated life [00:33:00] that you're seeing,

[00:33:01] Jay Aundrea: it is a perfectly crafted, curated life that you're [00:33:05] seeing. You are not seeing. The times is [00:33:10] you. All you seeing is like the trips around the world. You not seeing them [00:33:15] with the credit card bills after

[00:33:17] Jay Aundrea: trying to figure out the [00:33:20] budget plan to fig. No.

[00:33:21] Jay Aundrea: You just seeing the highlights, [00:33:25] you're not seeing, it's just like you say, you're not seeing the process. [00:33:30] Very few people will let you in on how the sausage is made. [00:33:35] Right? Because it's ugly to [00:33:40] get to what everyone deems as successful. It's a ugly [00:33:45] process and sometimes you're an ugly person.[00:33:50]

[00:33:50] Jay Aundrea: You try not to be. But sometimes you [00:33:55] gotta be, that's just the nature of the beast, especially if you're in corporate. [00:34:00] Like, like me, I always try to lead with kindness, but some I've [00:34:05] had to take people to the side. Be like, Hey, we need a [00:34:10] conversation. Let me put 15 minutes on your calendar. 'cause I got something. We gotta talk.[00:34:15]

[00:34:15] Jay Aundrea: You know, like, it, it's, it's not all, it's not pretty all the [00:34:20] time. No, really no. Journey is like, I was just talking to [00:34:25] somebody other day about the healing journey. It's ugly and it's painful [00:34:30] and you're gonna grieve and you're gonna be [00:34:35] depressed and all, all of these things like, nobody's gonna [00:34:40] see that.

[00:34:40] Jay Aundrea: So don't take it all with a grain of salt. Don't let social [00:34:45] media and the, the curation of life lets you [00:34:50] make you feel like you're missing out on something or [00:34:55] you're not where you're supposed to be.

[00:34:57] Bruce Anthony: Yeah, I, I, this, [00:35:00] this phrase doesn't quite fit here, [00:35:05] but I'm gonna make it fit somehow. Some way. You can't compete where you can't compare. Right.

[00:35:09] Jay Aundrea: [00:35:10] Yeah.

[00:35:10] Bruce Anthony: That's typically reserved for, Hey, you can't compete with me 'cause [00:35:15] you can't compare. Right. But, but in this regard, when it comes to social media, you can't [00:35:20] compare because you're not seeing the full story.

[00:35:22] Bruce Anthony: So you can't compete with what you can't compare. [00:35:25] I made it

[00:35:25] Jay Aundrea: right.

[00:35:25] Bruce Anthony: some way,

[00:35:27] Jay Aundrea: Somehow, I, I, I'm following you.

[00:35:29] Bruce Anthony: Right. I [00:35:30] hope the people listening and watching and following me, but

[00:35:32] Quarter-Life Crisis Nobody Warned You About ⏳😰🎢

[00:35:32] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

[00:35:33] Bruce Anthony: another thing about this happiness [00:35:35] is success and, and we, what always gets talked about is the midlife [00:35:40] crisis.

[00:35:40] Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

[00:35:41] Bruce Anthony: Nobody ever talks about the quarter life.

[00:35:44] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

[00:35:44] Bruce Anthony: [00:35:45] And there is a thing. I remember, I remember

[00:35:49] Bruce Anthony: being [00:35:50] 25, 26, 27 years old, and I [00:35:55] was doing, I was doing financially really well.

[00:35:59] Bruce Anthony: I had [00:36:00] left a restaurant management and decided just to be a bartender. But I was [00:36:05] do, I was making money,

[00:36:07] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

[00:36:09] Bruce Anthony: but [00:36:10] I started comparing myself to my peers [00:36:15] who all went to college and they all had these [00:36:20] job jobs.

[00:36:20] Bruce Anthony: I, that's what I call

[00:36:21] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

[00:36:22] Bruce Anthony: jobs.

[00:36:23] Bruce Anthony: Right.

[00:36:23] Jay Aundrea: They had [00:36:25] careers.

[00:36:25] Bruce Anthony: you could still be in the restaurant industry. You could be a bartender and that could be a career. Uh,

[00:36:28] Jay Aundrea: mean, but the, in the [00:36:30] traditional sense,

[00:36:31] Bruce Anthony: sense, right? And I was like, I need to do, I [00:36:35] need to quit this and do something else. And I really enjoyed bartending, [00:36:40] but then that mindset started to creep into my mind where I was like, I'm better [00:36:45] than this. I didn't need to be better than that. I could have done that for the rest of my life, found my lane [00:36:50] and been happy as hell. Some of my friends that I was bartending with 20 years ago are still bartending and [00:36:55] they're happy as hell. But it was a quarter of [00:37:00] life crisis, and I, I was like, Ooh. Life is approaching, right.

[00:37:04] Bruce Anthony: I'm going to [00:37:05] hit 30 soon. I need to settle down. I need to find a woman. I need to settle down 'cause I need to get [00:37:10] married. And I'm not saying I found the wrong woman. I think she is a great [00:37:15] woman.

[00:37:15] Bruce Anthony: We just, were not right for each other. But it, it worked well for a long [00:37:20] time because we were both of that mindset, mindset of this is [00:37:25] what success and happiness is supposed to be.

[00:37:29] Bruce Anthony: And it was [00:37:30] all a lie. Achievement does not equal fulfillment.

[00:37:34] Jay Aundrea: Nope.[00:37:35]

[00:37:36] Bruce Anthony: It doesn't, but people don't talk about it. All these Gen Z [00:37:40] people and boomers, like if I, when I was your age, I had this and that. And when you were their age, you were going [00:37:45] through it too. You turned and you decided to become what you became [00:37:50] because life said that's what you're supposed to become

[00:37:54] Bruce Anthony: at this age [00:37:55] now.

[00:37:56] Bruce Anthony: And these kids are like, well, maybe I don't have to do that.

[00:37:59] Jay Aundrea: yeah, [00:38:00] yeah. Quarter of life crisis is real. You'll crash out at 25. Like you've [00:38:05] accomplished nothing. But let me please like, I, I mean, you see it on these [00:38:10] Reddits all the time. Like you are just start like you, there's no [00:38:15] plan, there's no timeline, no clock is ticking.

[00:38:19] Bruce Anthony: Well, there

[00:38:19] Jay Aundrea: [00:38:20] there

[00:38:20] Bruce Anthony: is a clock ticking.

[00:38:21] Jay Aundrea: I mean there's a clock ticking ultimately for all of us. [00:38:25] Yes.

[00:38:25] Jay Aundrea: But God willingness, so

[00:38:28] Jay Aundrea: that clock don't [00:38:30] chime for a while.

[00:38:32] Jay Aundrea: You are 25. [00:38:35] It's okay. You are okay. 'cause if you think [00:38:40] it's gonna become clear in your thirties, no.

[00:38:43] Jay Aundrea: If you think it's gonna become clear in your [00:38:45] forties, no.

[00:38:46] Jay Aundrea: I ain't hit the fifties yet, but I'm thinking it's not gonna [00:38:50] become clear then,

[00:38:50] Jay Aundrea: either. I don't know. It, it just, we all just doing the best we can. And [00:38:55] listen, there's no timeline. There could not possibly be one [00:39:00] timeline for every single person in this world

[00:39:03] Bruce Anthony: Yeah, this

[00:39:04] Jay Aundrea: that we, [00:39:05] yeah, that we all, but you know what I'm saying? That we [00:39:10] all gotta go, go to college, graduate, get a job, find somebody, [00:39:15] get married, buy a house, have a kid, 2.5 kids and a dog, white picket fence, this [00:39:20] whole timeline thing, and all of this before you're 30, first of all, [00:39:25] the way this economy set up, you ain't finna do that anyway,

[00:39:29] Jay Aundrea: number one, [00:39:30] number one, number two, that can't possibly [00:39:35] be the life plan for every single billions of [00:39:40] us.

[00:39:40] Jay Aundrea: That doesn't make any sense.

[00:39:43] Bruce Anthony: No sense. [00:39:45] I.

[00:39:46] Jay Aundrea: So when people ask me now that I'm thinking in my [00:39:50] forties about children, do I have any regrets about not having children sooner? No. [00:39:55] Even if it doesn't happen,

[00:39:57] Bruce Anthony: Mm-hmm.

[00:39:58] Jay Aundrea: I still don't have any regrets [00:40:00] because I was not ready to be a mom in my twenties and thirties. [00:40:05] Could I have done it? Sure. We all, most of [00:40:10] us Figure it out. Some of us don't, but most of us do. Like [00:40:15] pa, a lot of parenting is just figuring it

[00:40:17] Jay Aundrea: out. There's never a time where you're ready. [00:40:20] Right. But like I would not have been a good parent. Sorry. Something got in my eye [00:40:25] and I don't know, it's probably 'cause I burned my eyelashes,

[00:40:28] Jay Aundrea: but something got it is [00:40:30] in there.

[00:40:30] Jay Aundrea: So I just want y'all to know I'm not crying. There's literally something

[00:40:33] Bruce Anthony: Now this is [00:40:35] emotional that we're talking about. This is emotional.

[00:40:38] Jay Aundrea: But yeah, you're, you're [00:40:40] doing, you, you, you're doing all right. You all right? That's [00:40:45] okay.

[00:40:45] Bruce Anthony: You know, a lot of people experience burnout because [00:40:50] once again, you go off of these tent poles of what is success. You get these [00:40:55] benchmarks, you'll get the happiness, and you accomplish these successes, quote unquote, [00:41:00] and you don't get the happiness and then you burn out. And burnout comes from chasing goals that [00:41:05] don't align with your values.

[00:41:06] Bruce Anthony: And I'm not talking about your moral values or your Christian [00:41:10] values, or whatever religious values you have. That's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about your values of [00:41:15] how you want to experience life, which is different

[00:41:18] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

[00:41:19] Bruce Anthony: than [00:41:20] other type of values, right? I know that I have [00:41:25] always beat my head up against my values

[00:41:28] Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

[00:41:29] Bruce Anthony: because my [00:41:30] values have always been whether I knew it explicitly or not.

[00:41:33] Bruce Anthony: Peace. [00:41:35] That's all I've ever wanted was peace.

[00:41:37] Jay Aundrea: Yes. Mm-hmm.

[00:41:38] Bruce Anthony: will consistently put [00:41:40] myself in situations that do not give me peace. And [00:41:45] because I think there's some goal or success that I wanna attain, [00:41:50] attain it and be like, this created more of a [00:41:55] headache than I really wanted it to. People are like, Bruce, you say that you're an [00:42:00] entrepreneur, you don't have no businesses right now.

[00:42:02] Bruce Anthony: And one, somebody pointed out to me, this [00:42:05] podcast is a business. So there you go. But I ha I have started several businesses and then I [00:42:10] quit. Like the dog walking business was a prime example. I had that for a good month. And people [00:42:15] was like, that's not a business. You can't tell me. It wasn't because within the first week, I made [00:42:20] a thousand dollars walking dogs.

[00:42:22] Bruce Anthony: Okay. So, and it wasn't like I was [00:42:25] walking dogs all day, all night. It wasn't, it was during my free times, and then I just [00:42:30] got to the point where I was like, wait a minute. As long as the weather is nice, I don't mind this, but I don't [00:42:35] wanna do this in the rain and the, in the cold and in the extreme heat, I was like, oh, [00:42:40] okay.

[00:42:40] Bruce Anthony: It's cool. I did it. I accomplished it. off it now.[00:42:45]

[00:42:45] Bruce Anthony: Uh, and, and then there was a sense of, yeah, I did that, but at the same [00:42:50] time it was just like, it,

[00:42:52] Bruce Anthony: right. And sometimes people can [00:42:55] accomplish those successes, those goals, looking for happiness, get there and then just be like, [00:43:00] that's it. That's all it was.

[00:43:02] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

[00:43:03] Bruce Anthony: But when you talk about, [00:43:05] as we, as we wrap this up, what successes are we were taught, like [00:43:10] money and, and, and what those goalposts were in success [00:43:15] and how you're supposed to build a life. How are you supposed to build a life [00:43:20] right now in this day and age without drown? Drowning, drowning financially?[00:43:25]

[00:43:25] Bruce Anthony: You got everybody that, that is somewhat successful, that that's a millennial [00:43:30] or Gen Xer because Gen Z, they've learned how to be entrepreneurs [00:43:35] through technology and not even have to go to college. Not all of them, but some of 'em are getting that money, [00:43:40] right?

[00:43:40] Bruce Anthony: But a lot of us have student loan and you know what student loan debt [00:43:45] does to you?

[00:43:45] Bruce Anthony: It delays home ownership, marriage, kids, and [00:43:50] healthcare. It can lead to financial stress. 'cause financial stress isn't solely [00:43:55] just about poor choices, right?

[00:43:57] Bruce Anthony: Debt creates anxie, anxiety, shame, [00:44:00] and survival thinking.

[00:44:01] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

[00:44:02] Bruce Anthony: So like. [00:44:05] It, it all bec these things that we were told that you need to achieve to become [00:44:10] successful when houses were $13,000 in a, in a box of gum y [00:44:15] Yes.

[00:44:16] Bruce Anthony: But when I look in this area [00:44:20] and I look at a condo right down the road, that's a one bedroom, one bath, [00:44:25] and it's $400,000 for this one bedroom, one bath condo.[00:44:30]

[00:44:30] Jay Aundrea: Yeah,

[00:44:31] Bruce Anthony: This is the world that we're living in.

[00:44:33] Jay Aundrea: yeah. [00:44:35] Finishing grad school, I essentially pay two [00:44:40] mortgages, a mortgage for my home and my student loans [00:44:45] because my student loans amount to essentially [00:44:50] a home. So that's, that's that's the [00:44:55] reality. Luckily, I bought my home at a [00:45:00] good time. It was just a good time in the market, in [00:45:05] a good place, you know, a good area, everything.

[00:45:07] Jay Aundrea: So like, I'm locked in, but like, [00:45:10] it's, [00:45:15] Financial stress is demoralizing because you are working [00:45:20] and if you're in a corporate space, it's more than 40 hours. You're working a

[00:45:24] Jay Aundrea: week. But [00:45:25] you're, uh, and, and if you're an entrepreneur, it is way more than 40 hours that you're [00:45:30] working a week. Okay. It is constant work for very little to [00:45:35] survive.

[00:45:35] Jay Aundrea: Like I say this all the time, that we're the stupidest species on this planet. 'cause we're the only ones [00:45:40] dumb enough to pay to be here. Everybody else is living on this mug for free. [00:45:45] Okay. Just taking the resources that's available. We don't even have [00:45:50] fruit trees in this country just naturally [00:45:55] occurring.

[00:45:55] Jay Aundrea: Fruit trees, which used to exist

[00:45:58] Jay Aundrea: because they don't want [00:46:00]

[00:46:00] Jay Aundrea: naturally occurring fruit trees. No. It's all, they're all aggregated [00:46:05] onto orchards.

[00:46:06] Bruce Anthony: Uh hmm.

[00:46:07] Jay Aundrea: You can't just walk down the street, take an apple [00:46:10] off a tree and try and have a little snack for yourself. That's possible in other [00:46:15] countries, like they do have, but that's how much we have [00:46:20] commodified everything in this country.

[00:46:22] Jay Aundrea: And so just to stay, uh, [00:46:25] not even a float, just to not drown [00:46:30] completely. Like you don't have no air in your lungs and you're definitely under the [00:46:35] water, but you're not dead yet. And like that's what we're working for [00:46:40] and people are tired.

[00:46:42] Bruce Anthony: People are tired. So ladies [00:46:45] and gentlemen, this whole segment was to get you to rethink. I know this is going to hit home for [00:46:50] some people because they're either hitting that quarter life crisis or the midlife crisis, [00:46:55] and both of them are a thing where you start to think heavenly about your life, [00:47:00] right?

[00:47:00] Bruce Anthony: Both of

[00:47:00] Bruce Anthony: them, and I wanna just leave you with this [00:47:05] enough, is greater than more

[00:47:07] Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

[00:47:08] Bruce Anthony: freedom, peace [00:47:10] and alignment matter. Impact matters more [00:47:15] than image. And with these [00:47:20] questions that I'm gonna leave you with, I want you to really take a in and think about it. [00:47:25] What would success look like for you if nobody was watching?[00:47:30]

[00:47:31] Bruce Anthony: What would you stop chasing if you weren't [00:47:35] afraid of judgment? And is set? Is success a [00:47:40] destination? Or something that you need to keep redefining [00:47:45] success might not be one big moment, it [00:47:50] might be a series of choices make life [00:47:55] livable.

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[00:48:04] Bruce Anthony: [00:48:00] [00:48:05] Jay, you sent me something and it was a reel on Instagram and I was [00:48:10] like, yo, this is really interesting. So of course, me being who I am, I was like, let me research this a little [00:48:15] bit more.

[00:48:16] Bruce Anthony: Uh, because you can't take what people go off with social [00:48:20] media, even us, right? Like we, everything that we do is very well researched [00:48:25] 'cause you're talking to two researchers. However, if we give you a kernel [00:48:30] of something that piques your interest, go do your own real research with [00:48:35] real sites.

[00:48:36] Bruce Anthony: Oh my god.

[00:48:37] Bruce Anthony: People don't know how to research. But anyway, you sent me something [00:48:40] and it was about video games and it was comparing video games when we were growing up. [00:48:45] Millennials, maybe some Gen Xers, right?

[00:48:47] How Old-School Video Games Trained Our Brains 🎮🧠🔥

[00:48:47] Bruce Anthony: To video games that Gen [00:48:50] Z and Gen Alpha have been dealing with and how it affects our brains.

[00:48:54] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.[00:48:55]

[00:48:55] Bruce Anthony: And I was like, this is a really interesting concept because [00:49:00] the games that we play do affect how we move in [00:49:05] life.

[00:49:05] Jay Aundrea: Yeah, for sure.

[00:49:07] Bruce Anthony: I think the people who was playing Monopoly and [00:49:10] Life and Risk that led those games were popular in the sixties and seventies. [00:49:15] That led to the decadence and greed of the eighties.

[00:49:18] Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.[00:49:20]

[00:49:20] Bruce Anthony: Our video games led to technology, boom, [00:49:25] social media dot coms, because of the way these games were [00:49:30] designed. So what am I talking about?

[00:49:32] Bruce Anthony: Recently mental health experts [00:49:35] and psychologists have argued that the nineties kids learn to think and feel [00:49:40] their way through games differently than kids raised on today's titles. [00:49:45] 90 games were finite and skill-based. They had clear endings, tough [00:49:50] levels, and no constant auto save. Beating a game meant to [00:49:55] sustain focus, memorizing patterns, and tolerating frustration, which [00:50:00] built patience, problem solving, and a strong sense of accomplishment.[00:50:05]

[00:50:05] Bruce Anthony: This is against today's modern games where modern popular games [00:50:10] are endless and monetized. Big current titles like Fortnite and [00:50:15] and Roblox are designed

[00:50:17] Jay Aundrea: I have, I have the damnedest time pronouncing [00:50:20] that too.

[00:50:21] Bruce Anthony: Roadblocks.

[00:50:23] Bruce Anthony: Roadblock. Parents know parents. [00:50:25] Y'all know what I'm talking about. 'cause your kids tell you what it is.

[00:50:27] Bruce Anthony: Those games are designed around [00:50:30] retention and micro transactions with battle pauses, cosmetic [00:50:35] purchases and time limited events that keep kids in a constant loop instead of a [00:50:40] beat the boss and stop arc.

[00:50:42] Bruce Anthony: And I thought this was brilliant because [00:50:45] yes, in the two thousands, that's when we got memory cards, right? [00:50:50] That's when we could actually save games. Before that, I, if you wanted to beat [00:50:55] Super Mario Brothers, you was playing that game for hours. 'cause there was no [00:51:00] pause, there was no, oh, I'll turn this off and I'll stop back at this point again [00:51:05] tomorrow or an hour or two.

[00:51:07] Bruce Anthony: And you only had three lives. You lost them. [00:51:10] You had to start from the beginning all

[00:51:11] Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Yes. From the [00:51:15] beginning until, until Sonic, like Introdu, I don't know if Sonic [00:51:20] introduced this, it probably some, some other game introduced this, but it was my first introduction to [00:51:25] it,

[00:51:25] Cheat Codes, Checkpoints, and Earning the Win 🎮😤🏆

[00:51:25] Jay Aundrea: uh, where you could pass a checkpoint. And then when you die, you would go [00:51:30] back to that checkpoint. You wouldn't have to start all the way over. But [00:51:35] yes. So our, our games and, and if you use cheat [00:51:40] codes, you are lame. Like, but now it's like you watch [00:51:45] YouTubes of people playing the game to figure out how to get through the game. And that's not to [00:51:50] say that there aren't still those finite skill-based games. Like there still [00:51:55] are, but it's the, the monetization, I think is what [00:52:00] is the kicker.

[00:52:01] Jay Aundrea: Like that's what keeps, [00:52:05] uh, kids and young folks in that continuous loop that they're [00:52:10] constantly playing the game. This one game, the game because they, they gotta [00:52:15] buy this, they gotta purchase that. They gotta, you know, oh, this is a limited [00:52:20] event. We gotta participate in that. And so, whereas like our games, [00:52:25] we, you wasn't, there were no in-app purchases.

[00:52:28] Bruce Anthony: No, our parents wouldn't have done [00:52:30] no in-app purchases. They was like, we bought you the game. The

[00:52:32] Jay Aundrea: Right.

[00:52:33] Bruce Anthony: is the purchase.

[00:52:34] Jay Aundrea: It is [00:52:35] the game. That's it. The game is the game. So you ju and, and [00:52:40] and it was tough. And then there weren't maps. You

[00:52:43] Jay Aundrea: know, like a lot of these [00:52:45] games now, like I play, like you could hit a button and pull up a map and see where you're supposed to [00:52:50] go. Or like, I played this one game and like a little spirit [00:52:55] would appear like to lead you on the path you're

[00:52:58] Jay Aundrea: supposed to go if you've gotten off [00:53:00] the path.

[00:53:00] Jay Aundrea: Like, and, and there wasn't that. You had to just [00:53:05] figure out the way through that level and it took several tries[00:53:10]

[00:53:10] Jay Aundrea: before you figure out you need to jump on this platform and then quickly down on [00:53:15] this platform and back up on one to miss the thing that dropped down that'll crush you. [00:53:20] Like you had to just remember that.

[00:53:22] Bruce Anthony: yes.

[00:53:23] Bruce Anthony: yes, yes. [00:53:25] And, and, and I, I was talking to a friend because [00:53:30] they were like, Hey, I got an interesting topic for your show. And then they told me about this and I was like [00:53:35] that. Yeah, I already, I already had that plan, but, but thank you, thank you for helping me [00:53:40] produce the show. I already had that plan.

[00:53:41] Bruce Anthony: 'cause this is a new thing that this has gone somewhat viral.[00:53:45]

[00:53:45] Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

[00:53:46] Bruce Anthony: And we were talking about how yo, you would [00:53:50] get to a certain part. You would leave the video game system on 'cause [00:53:55] you couldn't save

[00:53:56] Bruce Anthony: and turn off the tv like, like if you was playing before school or something. [00:54:00] And pray,

[00:54:01] Bruce Anthony: pray

[00:54:03] Bruce Anthony: that when you got home, [00:54:05] nothing had happened because you didn't want to have to start from the beginning all over again.

[00:54:09] Bruce Anthony: And it's [00:54:10] true. I remember when the maps first started, I think it was grant theft, auto

[00:54:14] Bruce Anthony: [00:54:15] grant theft, auto three. That's, that's the game that I remember where I [00:54:20] was like, I'm driving all around the city and it's a map you need to get here. But even in that [00:54:25] map, you were still, you learned the streets, right?

[00:54:28] Bruce Anthony: So eventually you wouldn't have [00:54:30] to pull up that met, you would learn the streets and the side roads and how to get in and out [00:54:35] because you would have ti you would have to beat a specific time to get to a [00:54:40] location.

[00:54:41] Bruce Anthony: Uh, and they, and I'm, I'm sure they'd still have those type of games, [00:54:45] but those aren't the popular games and definitely not the popular games for the younger kids.

[00:54:49] Jay Aundrea: [00:54:50] Yes. Especially like Gen Alpha. They're playing Fortnite, they're playing rob, [00:54:55] robots,

[00:54:55] Bruce Anthony: Rob.

[00:54:57] Jay Aundrea: robots, robots, robots. [00:55:00] I don't care.

[00:55:01] Jay Aundrea: They're playing

[00:55:01] Jay Aundrea: it It is that, you know, [00:55:05] and uh, 'cause I just sent, uh, our little [00:55:10] cousin that he wanted Rob, so there's money. [00:55:15] With like within Roblox

[00:55:18] Jay Aundrea: Roblox, [00:55:20] and that helps you pop buy in at purchases and all that stuff.

[00:55:23] Jay Aundrea: So I sent him some [00:55:25] Rob

[00:55:26] Jay Aundrea: Rob

[00:55:26] Jay Aundrea: dollars, Roblox,

[00:55:28] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

[00:55:29] Jay Aundrea: whatever. [00:55:30] Yeah, like, and I'm just like, you've been playing this game for a number of [00:55:35] years.

[00:55:37] Bruce Anthony: when get to

[00:55:38] Jay Aundrea: What's the end? What's [00:55:40] the goal?

[00:55:41] Bruce Anthony: Right.

[00:55:41] Jay Aundrea: where's the end of this?

[00:55:43] Bruce Anthony: But I guess it started with [00:55:45] Sims 'cause there

[00:55:46] Jay Aundrea: Yeah,

[00:55:46] Bruce Anthony: end but.

[00:55:47] Jay Aundrea: there's, yeah.

[00:55:49] Bruce Anthony: These games [00:55:50] have taken on tutorials and guidance changed like your thinking [00:55:55] demands, right? Like older games often dropped you in with minimal explanation, [00:56:00] right? As, as to what you were talking about, forcing, uh you to experiment [00:56:05] and the critical think.

[00:56:07] Bruce Anthony: Whereas many of the new games hold your [00:56:10] hand with long force tutorials or spirits guiding you away [00:56:15] glowing path, GPS style, navigation, and instant online walkthroughs, which [00:56:20] means that the reward patterns have shifted from a slow [00:56:25] burn to a junk food. Dopamine clinicians describe nineties games as [00:56:30] giving deep delayed satisfaction after hard challenges versus today's [00:56:35] systems that provide quick, frequent dopamine hits that disappear fast, pushing kids to [00:56:40] chase constant stimulation.

[00:56:41] Bruce Anthony: And you know where else you see this [00:56:45] in all forms of entertainment.

[00:56:47] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

[00:56:48] Bruce Anthony: Everything is shorter now. Quick, [00:56:50] quicker. Now. Even when we do these,

[00:56:54] Bruce Anthony: I [00:56:55] have been told you gotta throw in hooks

[00:56:57] Bruce Anthony: and reels and hooks [00:57:00] and captions and hooks. I'm not talking about the stuff that actually pops up on our [00:57:05] shorts videos I'm talking about like in the podcast and I'm [00:57:10] like, I'm not gonna do that.

[00:57:11] Bruce Anthony: No, you gotta do it. You gotta have these code phrases that bring people [00:57:15] back in. Yeah. I bring people back in 'cause they're listening to me and I'm making a point. I [00:57:20] don't,

[00:57:20] Bruce Anthony: I'm not going to do that because then people aren't listening to [00:57:25] everything else I'm saying. They're waiting for the hook

[00:57:27] Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

[00:57:29] Bruce Anthony: and [00:57:30] like songs are shorter tv.

[00:57:32] Bruce Anthony: Like do kids, [00:57:35] people can watch, can binge shows because it [00:57:40] begins and ends.

[00:57:41] Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

[00:57:42] Bruce Anthony: So there's a. [00:57:45] Something that happens with the end, and then there's almost kind, kind of like a little let down, [00:57:50] but you know, Ooh, starts in five, four, next [00:57:55] episode, and then you can keep on watching.

[00:57:57] Jay Aundrea: Yes.

[00:57:58] Bruce Anthony: down and watch a long [00:58:00] movie.

[00:58:00] Jay Aundrea: I

[00:58:00] Jay Aundrea: can't

[00:58:01] Bruce Anthony: can't do it.

[00:58:02] Jay Aundrea: I've been

[00:58:03] Jay Aundrea: struggle. I [00:58:05] can't, I, it's so hard for me to sit and watch a film and it's crazy [00:58:10] because it's, it's, I even skipped through songs to get to the part that I [00:58:15] like,

[00:58:15] Jay Aundrea: and I used to let, as by Stevie Wonder, it's 45 minutes [00:58:20] long,

[00:58:21] Jay Aundrea: and we would listen to that song or repeat like, these [00:58:25] songs used to be much longer

[00:58:28] Bruce Anthony: Mm-hmm.

[00:58:28] Jay Aundrea: than what they are. [00:58:30] I mean, even when I was a teenager, it was typically three, three and a [00:58:35] half

[00:58:35] Jay Aundrea: minutes. Now they're down to two, two and a half minutes.

[00:58:39] Bruce Anthony: 90 [00:58:40] seconds.

[00:58:41] Bruce Anthony: Sometimes, sometimes a minute. Uh uh, a friend of mine has a [00:58:45] son that's a rapper and she sent me some of his music and I was like, oh, he could spit. I was like, [00:58:50] but this is like an excerpt. Like I remember those things being [00:58:55] like in an album, like a, like a quick little spit, like a quick [00:59:00] 16 bars.

[00:59:00] Bruce Anthony: That wasn't a song. It was just like a little, it was an inter loop. Thank [00:59:05] you. I was looking for the word, it was an inter loop, but now this is what these kids are doing. But back to the video [00:59:10] games. So what these clinicians and psychologists are saying is [00:59:15] that the argument isn't that nineties cartridges [00:59:20] magically rewired a different generation, but that the design [00:59:25] goals, completion and skill verse retention and monetization, encourage [00:59:30] different habits of attention, frustration, tolerance,

[00:59:34] Bruce Anthony: [00:59:35] and reward seeking. so

[00:59:37] Bruce Anthony: when

[00:59:37] Jay Aundrea: learn that, but other people

[00:59:39] Bruce Anthony: [00:59:40] but wait, hold the hell up a second. Why [00:59:45] am I getting shots right now? What did I

[00:59:46] Jay Aundrea: you, I've seen you throw a, throw a [00:59:50] controller in your day.

[00:59:51] Bruce Anthony: now? Hold on Now. What they didn't [00:59:55] say about these video games, both yesteryear and [01:00:00] today,

[01:00:00] Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

[01:00:00] Why the Video Games Be Cheating (And We Felt It First)” 🎮⚠️😮‍💨

[01:00:00] Bruce Anthony: that they cheat

[01:00:02] Jay Aundrea: I knew you was gonna say that. I knew you were gonna [01:00:05] say that.

[01:00:05] Bruce Anthony: everybody that's playing video games know video games be cheating[01:00:10]

[01:00:10] Jay Aundrea: no, they don't.

[01:00:11] Bruce Anthony: yet. No. I, the, the only thing I yell, scream, and cuss. Some of my [01:00:15] neighbors must think I have Tourettes 'cause I'm in there playing Madden or NB 2K [01:00:20] and the game be cheating.

[01:00:21] Jay Aundrea: It does Game don't

[01:00:22] Jay Aundrea: cheat.

[01:00:23] Bruce Anthony: game be cheating. Yes, it

[01:00:24] Jay Aundrea: the [01:00:25] same a algorithm that it's been programmed with from day one.

[01:00:29] Bruce Anthony: Right. And the [01:00:30] algorithm is to make sure that the game is competitive. [01:00:35] So if you are so good, the game will make it so that it's [01:00:40] competitive by cheating you.

[01:00:41] Jay Aundrea: No,

[01:00:43] Jay Aundrea: it just increases the [01:00:45] difficulty.

[01:00:46] Bruce Anthony: exactly. Cheat

[01:00:47] Bruce Anthony: you.

[01:00:48] Jay Aundrea: cheating you.

[01:00:49] Bruce Anthony: If me and you [01:00:50] playing poker and we playing five cards stud, but you keep winning every [01:00:55] hand and then I say, you know what? I'm gonna do 10 cards to your five cards.

[01:00:59] Bruce Anthony: That's [01:01:00] cheating.

[01:01:01] Jay Aundrea: That's not, that's not what's happening.

[01:01:03] Jay Aundrea: what's happening.

[01:01:04] Jay Aundrea: [01:01:05] is they are what's called a pool shark. [01:01:10] You thought you was doing good,[01:01:15]

[01:01:15] Jay Aundrea: and they was

[01:01:15] Jay Aundrea: like, oh, you didn't know we still had more in the tank.[01:01:20]

[01:01:20] Bruce Anthony: games be cheating. Okay. But, but. [01:01:25] Through video games and sports. I will say [01:01:30] my ability to overcome

[01:01:32] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

[01:01:34] Bruce Anthony: is learned [01:01:35] through those type of losses

[01:01:36] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

[01:01:37] Bruce Anthony: and I, and, and I'm not knocking the younger [01:01:40] generation, they got their own different type of losses. The

[01:01:42] Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

[01:01:43] Bruce Anthony: recovery [01:01:45] and the reaction to it is just different because [01:01:50] of the things that we were into when we were younger.

[01:01:53] Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

[01:01:53] Bruce Anthony: weren't handed [01:01:55] nothing when it came to these video games.

[01:01:57] Bruce Anthony: And video games are handing you [01:02:00] everything except for money, right? So we had to pay one time. Y'all gotta continuously [01:02:05] pay to even enjoy the game, which would make me stop playing the game. But, [01:02:10] but that for, so for people out there that are like, these young kids don't know [01:02:15] how to work through things and, and, and, and they give up so [01:02:20] easily, well, you know, blame it on the adults who created these games to make [01:02:25] life a lot easier.

[01:02:26] Bruce Anthony: Also blame yourself parents. 'cause a friend of mine [01:02:30] told me. There is a team of eighth graders that play a a U

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[01:02:34] Bruce Anthony: [01:02:35] basketball and they're 15 years old now. Back in my day when we played a A u basketball, it was [01:02:40] ages. It was 15 and under 16 and under 17 and under. If you were good enough and you [01:02:45] were 15 and you could play on the 17 and under team, you would do that.

[01:02:49] Bruce Anthony: But a [01:02:50] 17-year-old would never play on a 15 and under team. And now they didn't change the rules where they're [01:02:55] doing it by grade level and these kids are reclassifying so that they could be good. [01:03:00] And I'm like, no. Compete with your peers. Either you good enough or you not good [01:03:05] enough. You live with that.

[01:03:07] Bruce Anthony: What? Why you gimme that look?

[01:03:09] Jay Aundrea: because [01:03:10] you just in the same breath said, these video games be cheating you.

[01:03:13] Jay Aundrea: No.

[01:03:14] Bruce Anthony: [01:03:15] games be cheating.

[01:03:15] Jay Aundrea: good enough.

[01:03:16] Bruce Anthony: No,

[01:03:19] Jay Aundrea: [01:03:20] Compete with your peers.

[01:03:23] Jay Aundrea: So if it ups the [01:03:25] ante on the difficulty, that's because it's in response to your [01:03:30] skill

[01:03:32] Bruce Anthony: Any look. [01:03:35] Shut up. Hey, on that note, Jay, you wanna leave the people with anything or [01:03:40] was that it? Because that was pretty good. I would leave it on that.

[01:03:42] Jay Aundrea: I think that's right.

[01:03:44] Bruce Anthony: I [01:03:45] didn't. That was perfect. I bad. I didn't even said anything. But on that note, ladies, gentlemen, I want to [01:03:50] thank you for listening. I want to thank you for watching, and until next time, [01:03:55] as always, I'll holler.

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