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After Hours Uncensored Sneak Peek 👀🔥

Bruce Anthony: I'm giving you two sneak peeks of our After Hours Uncensored show and another segment that's a Reddit post that me and my sister are gonna dive into. But that's enough of the intro.

Let's get to the show.

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Bruce Anthony: All right guys. I'm not being lazy. I'm not being lazy. We are producing original content. I just want to give everybody a heads up in about. A couple of weeks. My sister's gonna be taking a break for six weeks, uh, not filming, so there won't be a sibling Half hap happy hours, sort of. She's got a lot of stuff going on with her final semester and graduating.

She's not leaving the show. She's taking a brief break, but we are recording so much content to fill in for the fact that you guys won't get your full sibling happy hour shows. So. There's gonna be a lot of interviews. I've been preparing for this. There's gonna be a lot of interviews, there's gonna be posting, and then I'm gonna do my show.

And then the final segment will be a segment with me and my sister. So you guys still get a piece of my sister, uh, still be doing the after hours. Still will be [00:02:00] doing the YouTube exclusives. There's so many that we've recorded so far, so you're still going to get my sister and the content, but to make up for the fact that there's not gonna be a sibling happy hours, I just wanna stress our YouTube membership and Patreon channel has hundreds of episodes.

Multiple hours, like I don't know how many hours. If it's a hundred episodes, then maybe like 50 hours at least 60, 70 hours of content of me and my sister just shooting a breeze. If you love Dilly Daling, you'll love. The after hours uncensored and some of the content that we have behind the paywall, how do you get to it?

You can go to our website@unsolicitedperspectives.com. There's a link to join the Patreon page. I would recommend going to the YouTube membership because you get everything from the Patreon plate page plus more. There's some different stuff that I'm gonna be adding on, uh, the YouTube membership [00:03:00] page after the first of the year.

Gonna be doing some live streaming. Gonna be doing Sunday fun days with Bruce. I'm gonna be introducing a new like short show, 15 minute show where it goes Messy. Bruce Bruce's messiness on as well as after hours uncensored. And then when you join it, the membership, you get the. Behind the scenes of all the recordings.

So when we record the main show, when we record the after hours uncensored, just the stuff that gets left on the cutting room floor. So you can join the Patreon on our YouTube membership and get all of that content. So yes, my sister's gonna be gone for just a little while, while she's finishing up her graduate program, but we still is pumping out a ton of content for you.

Because we know that you love my sister, or I know how much you love my sister, my ass. You can take it to leave it, but my sister, y'all need to have her. So we gonna make sure that y'all get that content. So these two excerpts, one is from an after [00:04:00] hours and that we filmed in March. The other one is from June.

We are talking about any and everything. We're talking about trauma, we're talking about emotional connection. We're talking about. Dilly daddling. It is all types of stuff. So here's the first clip of an after hours uncensored that was filmed in March. Parental discretion is advised from here on out for all of our shows.

No matter if it's the main show after hours uncensored. Look, if you got little kids, we gonna be cussing, all right? Not like it's an Eddie Murphy raw standup, but we going be cussing. So just be careful with your kids, but that's enough of me rambling on. Let's get to the clip.

Getting Called Out: The Self-Centered Reality Check 😬💭

Bruce Anthony: Man, it is tough when you're doing work to improve upon yourself and then you get called out on the shit you doing work on and he'd be like, fuck, because he's like, it's never ending. It is never. Damn man. I don't know what some, somebody called me out for being selfish.

They actually got called out twice recently in the [00:05:00] last month and a half of being like self-centered. And I was like, damn, that was self-centered. One was a particular situation where a. Person had been drinking like all their life. They were like in the 60 or 65, and they'd been drinking all their life.

And I was like, and they ain't got no issues. Good. I should be fine. And then the person was like, Hmm, that's a way to think about it. Think about it, about your, about yourself. And I was like, damn, that's. I did mean it like that, but I didn't mean it like that. But yeah. Damn. Like, no, this person that I was particularly talking about drinks too fucking much.

So it's not good to compare myself and be like, oh, I'll be good. No, no. You shouldn't be worried about this person. And I was like, damn, that was the person threw it as an aside. Like, uh, that's a real way to make it about yourself. And I was like, dammit. I do do that. And then you told me about the story time and I was watching something else and it was a [00:06:00] comment that somebody was making on Instagram or something like that.

When somebody's telling you a story and you tell a story as well to relate, but that could come off as trying to make it about you. But it's a twofold, like you're not trying to make it, sometimes people do make it about themselves, but sometimes you're just like, yeah, I've been through the same thing, but at the same time, it's like you just need to just listen.

But you don't want a person to feel alone. Like that's a trick. That's a tricky situation to be involved in.

Emotional Maturity: Three Siblings, Three Different Styles 🧠💬

Jay Aundrea: I deal, how I deal with it. Like it's case by case, right? Like you just, you handle everything case by case, whatever the situation calls for, and you also think about your relationship with that person. But I listen to the person and I'm like, okay, is it, is it right for me to insert myself here or should I just validate them?

Like sometimes the validation doesn't have to come with my own story. It could also just be, yeah, I hear you. You're absolutely right. That shouldn't have happened.[00:07:00]

Bruce Anthony: That's a

Jay Aundrea: you know, and that, and that and that. Let that be it and let them be centered in the conversation that they're trying to have with you, about you, I mean about them.

You know what I mean? So like, and then

Bruce Anthony: Jay, like you in particular, are way more emotionally mature when dealing with other people. You still got your own fucking issues,

Jay Aundrea: mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: yourself, but when dealing with oth well,

Jay Aundrea: It's managed with my, it's managed with my cuckoo meds.

Bruce Anthony: no, but I mean, like I, I look at the three of us and how we deal with other people. Are completely fucking different. Like it is three different ways of how we deal with other people.

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: I'll tell you sometimes, dang, you're being real rough on that person. Then you'll say, well, you're too lenient on that person.

And then, then our brother might be like, y'all are both too lenient. You need to cut everybody off. And we'll be like, well, maybe you being a little too hard on somebody. And it's so crazy how the three of us all, and neither one of us really listened to each other.

Jay Aundrea: I, I [00:08:00] listen to y'all. Uh, I do, I internalize everything that y'all say. No, uh, I pick and choose, you know, like I pick and choose, you know but, but I definitely listen to you all, but like. It's, uh, I think about it, you know, some people, like, I know if I talk to you, you'll respond to me giving a similar story about my experience.

Like that would validate you. Some other people that won't validate them, they just wanna vent. They just wanna vent and have somebody hear it. It, it doesn't have to be, you know what, so something like that happened to me. Okay, would nobody, let's circle back.

Bruce Anthony: That was a lesson I had to learn in the many dating relationships I've ever been in, been in, like I had to learn early. 'cause you know, I'm Mr. Fix it.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: And I know how to [00:09:00] fix. Uh, I, for some strange reason, people could come to me with a scenario and I'm like, this is how it's gonna go. These are how you're gonna be the responses.

You should do this. I'm always right. I remember my ex-wife, she would come home and vent about stuff, and I learned to just be like, just sit there and listen. And then every now and then, she would look at me as I was listening, get frustrated and be like, just go ahead and gimme the answer. I know you know what the right answer is.

You're always right. I was like, no, I'm, I'm just sitting here listening. She's like, no, you're always fucking right. Just tell me what it is. I was like, are you. you being condescending right now? She's like, no, you're always right and I know you wouldn't tell me what to do. I was like, I don't wanna tell you what to do at all.

I'm just listening and being supportive. What is your suggestion, Bruce, since you're asking this, this is, and this is gonna happen, and if you do this, this is gonna happen.

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Childhood Trauma vs Being an Empath: The Truth 🔮😢

Bruce Anthony: Sure enough, she would come back, you were right again. I was like, okay. I just. I don't understand how you couldn't see it, but, uh, emotions are evolved, right?

Like [00:10:00] when emotions are evolved. People can't predict the outcomes because I can't predict my outcomes all the time, all the time when my emotions are evolved. Actually, I can I just ignore 'em?

Jay Aundrea: Yeah, that's, that's also a choice. Yeah. I think it's, uh, you know, my favorite, my favorite phrase, childhood trauma. That makes you hyper aware of the emotions of others. A lot of people think they're empaths, they're not, uh, you're just hyper aware of the other people's emotions because you've always had to be

Bruce Anthony: I like being an empath better than being a, being a traumatic, a trauma victim. That just sounds better. I never called myself that, but I love it when people are like, you're just an empath. I'm like, I'll take that over. Trauma victim

Jay Aundrea: No, that's not what that is. Uh, it is, it is a response, uh, to, to, uh, it is a way you've protected yourselves by always being aware of the feelings, emotions, and emotional state of other people. [00:11:00] That's how you make sure to protect yourself by always being aware of when you should be around and when you shouldn't. Right?

Bruce Anthony: But that doesn't automatically mean that you are able to predict how people are gonna res respond.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Because here's another thing about you and your meticulousness. You look at every case scenario. All of them are flowing through. You know that, you know when Dr. Strange was looking ahead to see if they were gonna win the fight against Thanos. That's you. You are looking into the future and looking at all possible scenarios, and you're like, here's the most likely one, because that's how the human brain works.

Like that's how we designed, uh, ai, right? Is to to mimic the human brain by thinking of what's the best, oh, or the most likely possible next. Step or next answer, or next word or next sentence. That's how the human brain works. What is the most [00:12:00] likely outcome? Well, having heard about your issues at work or with your friend or whatever, for some time now, I got a good grasp of what was possibly or probably going to happen and here's how it was gonna play out.

Like that's just being aware of. A a as a, as a neutral third party, right? Because you're not in that specific bubble of like whatever turmoil that person's having. You're a neutral third party just observing it. So after hearing about it for a while, getting to know the temperaments of

Predicting Outcomes: When You're Always Right 🎯🔍

Jay Aundrea: the people involved, uh, this is likely what's gonna happen based on my experience of being hyper aware of people's emotional states.

Bruce Anthony: I, I'd rather be an empath. Can I, can I just call myself an empath? You

know, just wanna say that I got a sixth sense and I got a third eye. And it is not because of fucking trauma. And the crazy thing about it is trauma, I guess, is all different. Like when you say trauma, [00:13:00] when you say the word trauma. You say the word childhood trauma.

I know certain generations don't get it, the younger generations get it, but certain generations would be like, what was your trauma like? Were you kidnapped and molested as a kid or were you abducted and raised in a farm under a barn? Like those are trauma? Uh, nah. I just had young ass parents that didn't know how to be parents.

Well, that's not trauma. Oh, okay. I didn't, you know, parts like that word trauma.

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: To me is such a triggering word because when you say trauma, trauma in and of, in and of itself, I don't know what the exact definition is, but trauma is very heavy,

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. The word, the, the word feels heavy, right? So, so the, the definition, I'm looking it up here. The definition is gonna be different in like in psychology, like the [00:14:00] DSM five. I think it has like a different definition, but it's basically a deeply distressing or disturbing experience that overwhelms an individual's ability to cope.

Leading to long lasting negative effects on their emotional, psychological, and sometimes physical wellbeing. And so the thing of it is, is it's objective, right? It, it's, it's subjective based on just the person, based on their environment, based on their culture. Like a lot of us, you know, being black, you know, we get whoopings, right?

Like that's, that's a, a lot of us don't get. PTSD because we had whoopings. We, we actually talk about the stories about 'em and they just, we are like, remember that time you got your, you got your butt whoop 'cause you missed a bus. Like, you know, like,

Bruce Anthony: That's a, that's a true, that's a true story Laser.

Jay Aundrea: okay. Like, you know, so it, it, and it's, and there's different ways that it can be experienced.

It could be direct [00:15:00] harm, it could be you witnessing harm. It could be like adverse circumstances, like experiencing homelessness or financial distress. It could be loss, it could be threat, like it could be a lot of different things, and it just depends on the person,

Health Scare: When Your Feet Start Swelling 🦶⚠️

Bruce Anthony: This next clip is from an after hours that we filmed in June. Once again, it is us fully uncensored, fully talking nonsense, fully thanking you for being just fans of the show and for those people that do pay for the Patreon, especially thanking them and also. Extending the hand out there for you guys to join our membership in our Patreon page.

If you like our show, you're gonna like more of that. So here's the second clip of the after hours uncensored

Oh, speaking of health stuff, some [00:16:00] scared the hell outta me yesterday.

Jay Aundrea: Uh oh.

Bruce Anthony: I don't eat stuff with, I hardly add salt to my food ever. I'll add spices like I don't, the only time I would add salt to stuff, I added salt maybe every now and then to my eggs,

Jay Aundrea: Mm.

Bruce Anthony: but that's pretty much it.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. I don't add salt at all.

Bruce Anthony: But yesterday we was at dad's and he ordered it from that seafood place that, that we, that he loves.

And I was eating the food and I was like, okay, I'm, I ate half of it 'cause they pack it in so much I ate half of it. And then by the end of the evening, and then I also ate some Popeye's, some some french fries because when my boys came over they was like, you ain't get, you ain't get us no chicken box. I was like, no, I'm not getting you no chicken box.

You a grown man. You ain't come over, you ain't eat before you come over here.

Jay Aundrea: what? Better spread than this?

Bruce Anthony: So, so he ordered, so he ordered Popeye's and of course our cousin is like, I'm hungry again. I [00:17:00] was like, you literally still have food

Jay Aundrea: Yes.

Bruce Anthony: ain't eat upstairs. So I eat the Popeye's and my feet start being tingling and swelling and I, and so I researched it and then it was like, it could be gout, but it's not gout.

Jay Aundrea: Nah,

Bruce Anthony: it's.

Jay Aundrea: water

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, it's the water retention. And I was like, 'cause my body, I don't normally eat

Jay Aundrea: Yeah,

Bruce Anthony: that much salt. And I was just like, yo, I never would've felt this before, but it was like my feet really hurt.

Jay Aundrea: yeah, yeah,

Bruce Anthony: and they swelled up. I put my shoes, I had my shoes off. 'cause I, I like to take the shoes off when I'm at dad's house.

I took the, I put the shoes back on and I was like, yo, I could barely fit in these shoes. Did my feet swell up? And then I got home. I was like, yo, my feet are swollen.

Jay Aundrea: yeah,

Bruce Anthony: And I was like, I can't do this no more. This is dangerous.

Jay Aundrea: I was, when I was heavier and still eating a lot of salt, even though I have high blood pressure, the swelling was so bad it. Would start at my feet and go all the way up to my knees, my

Bruce Anthony: Hmm.

Jay Aundrea: leg, lower [00:18:00] leg would be swollen and it would be so tight. It was uncomfortable.

Bruce Anthony: Just get real tight it. My feet still kind of tight and then I still got leftovers. And I'm like, should I eat them? And I probably should

Jay Aundrea: of water. You already

Bruce Anthony: or Gatorade.

Jay Aundrea: No. 'cause Gatorade has sodium in it, I believe.

Bruce Anthony: It does. It was just a little bit.

Jay Aundrea: drink a bunch of water and filter all of that sodium outta your system.

Bruce Anthony: Well, that's probably not gonna happen 'cause I'm drinking champagne and Gatorade, so I probably just shouldn't. 'cause

Jay Aundrea: I don't know what to tell you.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, no, it's probably,

Jay Aundrea: in my solo cup, so I don't, I can't, I can't tell you nothing

The Probiotic Soda That Cleans You Out 🥤💨

Bruce Anthony: oh, there's this,

Jay Aundrea: schoolwork to do after this, so I gotta stay focused.

Bruce Anthony: there's this new, it's not an energy drink, but there's like this new, it's almost sets of water,

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: Act, I forget what it's called. It's expensive. Like a can of costs you $2 and 50 cents. And I'm like, that's cost, but it's a probiotic. And I was like,

Jay Aundrea: about op.

Bruce Anthony: yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Jay Aundrea: a can of grape soda Ali pop in the thing. Yeah,

Bruce Anthony: I was like, I was like [00:19:00] probiotic. This ain't no damn probiotic. No,

Jay Aundrea: It

Bruce Anthony: no, it is. It clean you out

Jay Aundrea: it

Bruce Anthony: real quick.

Jay Aundrea: And the thing is you drinking it and it tastes just like grape soda. Like it's delicious. They use, it's not, it's not grape drink. They actually use grape juice

Bruce Anthony: Mm.

Jay Aundrea: so it's so tasty. But it's a probiotic.

Bruce Anthony: Yes. Which is good. Which is, well, the first one I had, my stomach was hurting and I was like, am I about to get a stomach virus? Like my sister? I don't want that shit.

Jay Aundrea: Lemme

Bruce Anthony: then

Jay Aundrea: you that stomach blew was violent, but I lost all that holiday weight and I back down my normal.

Bruce Anthony: That's funny.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah,

Bruce Anthony: That is funny. But yeah, no, that was, I drank it and I was like, look, they just need to do a reduction on the price and I'm gonna stick with you.

Jay Aundrea: It is expensive. I have one can in the fridge right now, a single solitary can, and, and I'm [00:20:00] saving it for when I eat something bad and I'm like, let go and drink the soop.

Bruce Anthony: Well, so I mixed it. The, the first time I drank it, I just drank it.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: then I mixed it with my morning juice. I just replaced what I normally would do to seltz of water with that. So I mixed the apple cider vinegar with a little bit of the caffeine, liquid enhancer, and then that,

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: I was like, and I did it yesterday.

Was it yesterday? I think I did it yesterday.

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: even with all of that stuff that I ate yesterday, which was bad, that normally would upset my stomach, my stomach was not upset.

Jay Aundrea: Hmm.

Bruce Anthony: I'm thinking, I mean, it's, you can get two for $5 a Harris Teeter

Jay Aundrea: Well, here's Teeter. I don't, I honestly don't know why he shot there. It's so

Bruce Anthony: because it's, it's a block away.

Jay Aundrea: Okay.

Bruce Anthony: the reason. And they don't have it. They don't sell it at the Aldi?

Jay Aundrea: Harris Teeter is so expensive, but okay.

Bruce Anthony: Mm. It's actually, when I compare it, the difference is a few cents [00:21:00] per item. It's not like dollars. Right.

Jay Aundrea: adds up.

Bruce Anthony: does add up. But if you,

Jay Aundrea: You

Bruce Anthony: if I don't feel like.

Jay Aundrea: where he just took a little cent off, a couple cents off the top.

Bruce Anthony: Uh, when that Superman three,

Jay Aundrea: It's not a new premise. It's not a new

Bruce Anthony: no, nothing was as funny as when Richard Pry did that as Superman three. When Superman three is a Richard Pry movie star and Superman, I said,

Jay Aundrea: yes, yes.

Bruce Anthony: special guest Superman.

Jay Aundrea: Guest Superman is a Pri Pryor movie, but they were like, you probably lay low, and he crawled up in a, in a bright red Corvette, stuff like that.

Bruce Anthony: Super Superman. Three does not get his due for the comedy.

Jay Aundrea: It

Bruce Anthony: That is, it is one of Richard Pryor's greatest

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: movies 'cause he is hilarious. We tell the story about Superman and then he was playing, he was on the skis and he had the little cape. It was not a cape, it was robe and he fell down the building and he on the whistling [00:22:00] that is.

Jay Aundrea: Yes, yes. Top tier.

Bruce Anthony: All right. We almost done with this. I think we got a couple more minutes. What do we wanna tell these people out here that's listening to us and paid and, and that just, you know,

Jay Aundrea: I don't know why y'all did it. I appreciate it,

Bruce Anthony: stop saying that before they stop doing it.

Learning to Accept Compliments & Self-Praise 🙏✨

Jay Aundrea: No, no. I mean, I just, it's hard to like

Bruce Anthony: Get people to pay for something.

Jay Aundrea: no, see myself as a person. People wanna pay to hear what I have to say, so I, I appreciate it immensely. And so I just got to, you know, try to look at myself as somebody that I say something that people actually. Wanna hear it, but, so that's Oh, okay. If y'all say so.

Bruce Anthony: Okay, so I'm gonna say something.

Jay Aundrea: Mm.

Bruce Anthony: How often do I give myself praise?

Jay Aundrea: Never.

Bruce Anthony: What? What is my normal response when [00:23:00] somebody gives me praise?

Jay Aundrea: It's usually something, uh, what's the word I'm looking for? Uh, deprecating.

Bruce Anthony: Yes. So my boy, my boy yet last night was saying, Hey, man, he was like, yeah, you not like the other people that got bald heads. Like, I don't see like other people just like patchy. And they got nicks all in their head. It is like, yours look real good. What do you think? I said

Jay Aundrea: Something lame.

Bruce Anthony: something like, oh, well, you know, like I got, I do have some nicks and, and like, I got scratches on my head.

Like auto that's, I don't know what that is about me.

Jay Aundrea: response.

Bruce Anthony: Probably everything goes back to trauma response. Everything. Every now and then, I, and you would think because I do all the editing that I would, it'd, I'd be watching this stuff as I'm editing it, but I'm not,

Jay Aundrea: yeah,

Bruce Anthony: just editing it and you know, as an editor you don't necessarily gotta watch it.

You just not, you gotta know the point.

Jay Aundrea: yeah.

Bruce Anthony: Every now and then, just because I [00:24:00] want to hear what ads are planned for the audio podcast. Uh, I'll listen to it and I would just be like, I'm just gonna listen to the intro part just to see what the ads are and then I start listening to it. Yeah, we're really fucking good at this.

And the reason why I say that is because I listen to other podcasts. I watch other podcast episodes, uh, of other shows and stuff, and I'm just like there, the reason why they get traction is because they have name value,

Jay Aundrea: yeah,

Bruce Anthony: but there's so much dead space and nonsense talk that yeah, you're, you're going to get a viral moment because these people do have a personality in there is talent, but the overall product from beginning to end, it's not that great.

Jay Aundrea: Right.

Bruce Anthony: We from be beginning to end, and I can say this now,

Jay Aundrea: Yeah,

Bruce Anthony: we are getting there is good.

Jay Aundrea: yeah.

The Show is GOOD: Why We're Ready to Pop Now 🚀🎬

Bruce Anthony: The shit, the content is really good. And so I was talking to dad yesterday. He was like, the show's good it's gonna get, it's going to pop. And I was like, I'm ready for it to pop [00:25:00] now.

Jay Aundrea: yeah.

Bruce Anthony: I'm glad it didn't pop previously

Jay Aundrea: Yes.

Bruce Anthony: it was a shit show, but now it's a little bit more polished.

We can still tighten up, but I actually don't want to be too polished because I think it takes away our creativity in the moment.

Jay Aundrea: Right?

Bruce Anthony: But now is the time now. Now we're ready.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: weren't ready

Jay Aundrea: No,

Bruce Anthony: year ago. We weren't ready six months ago. Six months ago.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah,

Bruce Anthony: ready now. And I think now the time is coming 'cause the shit is good.

Jay Aundrea: yeah.

Bruce Anthony: yes. Why are people paying for the Patreon is because they love dilly ding.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: That's almost one of the people's favorite segments is dilly ding. Just there's no script, there's no I, I put it in a rundown, ladies and gentlemen.

Jay Aundrea: literally just write dilly dally. That's it.

Bruce Anthony: That's it.

Jay Aundrea: It's just that first 15, 20 minutes show. Something like that. It's just us in.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, it's, it's straight [00:26:00] freestyle. Every now and then I'll put something that I kind of wanna talk about in dilly dabbling, but for the most part it's that. And then after hours is nothing but dilly ding.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: all the cussing and shit.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Well, cussing the shit.

Bruce Anthony: All the cussing and shit. And so yes, people find us entertaining because if you go back, 'cause I know you're like me, you don't really wanna watch yourself.

Jay Aundrea: Listen to us and here's the thing I do, uh, listen to the audio. On Spotify, like, you know, I'm in traffic or something, I'll turn it. I'm like, let's let me here, and I'm in there cracking up. Like, it's like it's not our show. Like it's not us. I'm hearing I'm in there like these two are funny.

Bruce Anthony: I had somebody who listens to the show contact me the other day and said, I can't listen to it in the office because I'm sitting at my desk busting out laughing. And I was like, oh really? And, and then she said, she told me this. And she was like, yeah, it was your show. And I was like, oh, wasn't a sibling Happy hour?

She was like, no, it [00:27:00] was your show. She was like, I always laugh at sibling happy hour. I was like, but your show, you said something. And I spit out my drink and I had to cut it off.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: was like, what the fuck did I say? And when I do the shows by myself, it is just me, a camera and some lights, there's no feedback.

And so I'm like, that was a shit show. 'cause what do I say after every show, man, I guess

Jay Aundrea: that, even though I'll be like, good show you. Be like, eh, it's all, I dunno. You say that

Bruce Anthony: is not.

Jay Aundrea: show.

Bruce Anthony: And I was like, so you enjoy the shows? I did by myself. I'm like, yes, the shows are good. And I was like. Oh, okay. I was like, okay, no, we got this.

Jay Aundrea: I,

Bruce Anthony: got this.

Reddit Drama: Sister Demands $30K Inheritance for Wedding 💍💰

Bruce Anthony: For this final segment. This was supposed to be a YouTube exclusive, but. It was such an in-depth conversation and it went so long. We literally just recorded this [00:28:00] this past Sunday, and I was gonna save this for later, but I was like, this would be really good to put on as a segment for the show. And it's about us talking about it.

Am I the jerk? Which if you watch the YouTube exclusives, you know I get a lot of content from Reddit and we hear these people's stories and we give our critique and comments on it. This one was an interesting one about two siblings inheritance and a wedding. So check this clip out. Tell me what you guys think in the comments section, because this is real interesting.

All right, Jay, here's another one about a wedding, another Reddit post, and another Bridezilla, and this, this one. You know, we go through these different situations on these Reddit posts with people in these weddings.

In the Bridezilla, this one is a little bit different because there's some animosity. Between these two siblings. So the title of the Reddit post is, am I a Jerk For Refusing to Give Up My [00:29:00] Inheritance to Pay for My Sister's Wedding? Now, J well hold on now, just from the title, somebody's I Inheritance. If I inherited money and you was getting, and you was getting married,

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: I would, you know, break you off a little bit.

You know, if you had, you know,

Jay Aundrea: You would volunteer it? I wouldn't ask

Bruce Anthony: no, you. You specifically wouldn't ask. I had to be like, yo, Jay, why don't you take a little bit of this money? I'm good. It was like we eating bologna.

Jay Aundrea: so it is my wedding. So like I am, I'm not planning on having a wedding that I can't pay for, then I'm not having a wedding.

Bruce Anthony: Well, lemme tell you how this story goes. All right, so here's the Reddit post. My dad passed away last year after a long illness. It was devastating, but honestly, the last few years of his life were harder than the funeral itself. I, a 28-year-old female, was one who moved back home to take care of him. I handled doctor's appointments, late night emergency bill, late night [00:30:00] emergencies, bills, and basically ran the house when he couldn't anymore.

It was exhausting, but I don't regret it. He and I got very close during that time. My sister, a 3-year-old female, on the other hand, lives out of the state. She came back twice in the last year of his life, once for Christmas and once for his birthday. I don't think she's a bad person, but she's definitely distanced herself from from the responsibility.

Her excuse was that she had her own life and couldn't just drop everything I understood at the time. But it still hurt when dad passed his will, specifically left me a decent chunk of money, not millions, but enough that I could pay off my student loans and actually start saving for a house. It was clear in the will that his money was for me because of the sacrifices I made while caring for him.

My sister received other things. He left her some jewelry and a classic car he had restored that she had always loved. But the majority of the liquid assets went to me. Fast forward to now. My sister got engaged in May and [00:31:00] her fiance is nice enough, but they both have champagne tastes on a beer budget.

The wedding, they're planning is way outta their price range. Destination resort design, a dress open bar, huge guest list. I assume they were going into debt for it, which I thought. Hey, that's their choice. But then about a month ago, my sister sat me down and said, I need your help. Dad would've wanted you to use some of your inheritance to make my wedding special.

She wasn't asking for a small loan. She wanted me to hand over $30,000 to come to the venue and the catering. I told her no. I said, dad left me that money for a reason and I'm using it to build stability in my life, not blow it on a party. She immediately got defensive and accused me of being selfish and choosing money over family.

Now my mom has gotten involved. She said, dad, I know how you feel about that stuff. Alright. She said Dad would've wanted me to share and that family comes first. [00:32:00] I told her dad literally wrote a will that reflected his wishes, and if he wanted to fund my sister's wedding, he would've set aside money for that.

Mom keeps saying, I'm tearing the family apart. My sister has been telling relatives that I'm punishing her for not being around when dad was sick. Which makes me feel sick to my stomach because it's kind of true. I am resentful. But it also feels unfair that a person who did all the work gets nothing and the one who barely showed up gets rewarded.

Some cousins are on her side and and have texted me things like, it's just money. You'll make more. And your dad would've wanted her to have a special day. Others, thankfully have said it's insane for for her to even ask. Now, my sister says that she won't invite me to the wedding at all, and my mom is begging me to reconsider for the sake of peace.

But honestly, I can't see myself handing over $30,000 just so my sister can have a fancy Instagram wedding while I put my [00:33:00] future on hold. Still the guilt is eating at me. Am I really the jerk for refusing to share my inheritance with my sister to pay for her wedding?

You Can't Just Drop Everything: Setting Boundaries 🚫👊

Jay Aundrea: No, because you have your own life and you can't just drop everything,

Bruce Anthony: Mm mm

Jay Aundrea: period.

Bruce Anthony: it again for the people in the back who didn't want to hear you.

Jay Aundrea: You have your own life and you can't just drop everything because your sister is getting married. Here's the thing, should you be resentful? For your sister not helping while your dad was ill and prior to his passing? No. I think you honestly should let that go. Here's the reason why you volunteered to come home and take care of him. Yes, it was hard for you. It was exhausting, but that was your choice. Okay? Your sister also made a choice. Like you can't hold your [00:34:00] decision to volunteer to do this for your father because she didn't make the same decision. It's not, it's not fair for you to hold that against her. But I just find it interesting, first of all, and this is really going to moms, because it's always the mom, mind your business. Mind your business first of all. Okay? But I just love the fact that it's only when people want something from you that they want you.

to be a team player, right? The, it's now, now you're choosing money over family. Family comes first. Family didn't come first when you only showed up for, for Christmas and dad's birthday. Now family comes first because you want something. Family didn't come first. Back then. The fact of the matter is if he wanted, [00:35:00] sell that classic car,

Bruce Anthony: Hmm. That'll get you to 30,000 or close to it. Mm.

Jay Aundrea: sell the jewelry, sell the classic car, he did give you things. You want that 30 grand. Sell the car. Then you can have the money to cover the venue and the wedding. Don't act like you need my, you inherited things also. Just 'cause I inherited the cash doesn't mean you ain't get something.

Also

Bruce Anthony: Right.

Jay Aundrea: use your stuff.

Bruce Anthony: Yep.

Jay Aundrea: I'm just really tired of this double standard that people have of like, you will not be anywhere around when you're needed, but as soon as you need something. Everybody else has to drop everything or they're selfish. Now y'all can go to hell with that. Like, no, you are not being the jerk. You do not, she got an inheritance. Also, she can use that. That is your money to set up your life. Like do you [00:36:00] understand the kind of wealth generational wealth that you're gonna be building by no longer having student loans and. Getting started on, on having a home like you are really at 28, you are really setting yourself up for success.

Do not let go of that because of someone else's selfishness. Hell no. And tell your mama to mind her business. And if it comes to it, anybody that got a problem, block 'em.

Bruce Anthony: Hmm, Hmm.

Jay Aundrea: Block 'em.

Bruce Anthony: If this were, we had one YouTube exclusive where a mom needed surgery or something like that, this was like a person needing something like, oh, they got, they're about to lose their home, or, uh. You know, maybe she got some nieces and nephews and it is like, Hey, we need a little bit of money to help pay for this, you know, tuition to go to school or something like that.

Destination Wedding on Someone Else's Dime? Hell No 🏝️❌

Bruce Anthony: You know, I, that's something where I'd be like, [00:37:00] okay, yeah, I could dig into my pocket that this is a loan, y'all going to pay me back, but yeah. You know, I could dig into my pocket to help out. This is the pay for wedding. And, and there was a couple

Jay Aundrea: that they started planning with the thought in mind that you were gonna give them that $30,000

Bruce Anthony: absolutely. That was, that was one of the points I was about to make. Also, what the hell are they paying for if the venue and the catering, if you, the 30,000 is for the venue and the catering. What are they just paying for? The flowers, the cake, and, and no catering. It takes care of all the food. So the flowers and the dress.

Is that it?

Jay Aundrea: be pro, that might be provided by the venue.

Bruce Anthony: So,

Jay Aundrea: mean, not the dress. Not the dress, but

Bruce Anthony: but the flowers, yeah, you right. So like, what the hell do they pay

Jay Aundrea: bar, what are

Bruce Anthony: their flights? Their flights to a destination wedding? Let's not forget destination wedding. So as I was reading this, a couple of things stood out to me that pointed to what the dynamic of the family might be.

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: I think she's daddy's little [00:38:00] girl.

He, she said that they were kind of close, but that they grew closer during this.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: She, it seems like because the mama was not involved in helping taking care of the dad, so the mama and dad, it seems like the mom and dad are no longer together

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: and there might have been a split.

Jay Aundrea: need to stay out of

Bruce Anthony: Right. And there may have been a split.

There may have been a split in the family, and it seems like the younger sister kind of. Made sure to have this connection with both her parents, but gravitated maybe more to dad or maybe just gravitated to dad because the dad was in need, but like she, she was

Jay Aundrea: couldn't, he couldn't care for his household or for himself anymore. He needed help. She volunteered to do it.

Bruce Anthony: right. And you know, the older sister, maybe through the split of the mom and dad, favorite mom. This happens when parents split, right? Like even when you don't want to choose sides, there's a part of you that chooses a side over another. Depending on [00:39:00] how they split. It's just. Human nature and its emotions and you gotta get past it and move on.

But it seems like from this post that she was just like, look, I'm, I'm gonna drop everything. Take Dad is not doing well. Dad doesn't really have anything at anybody to help take care of him. I'm gonna drop or do things. And she, she probably did not, she probably did it outta the, kind of his heart of her heart.

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: She gained two things she gained. Closer. She, she grew closer with her dad during this time and she got paid for it and, and I'm sure that was not the intention, but she did.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah,

Bruce Anthony: for her sister to come and be like, yo, forget what dad wanted.

Stop Assuming You're the Main Character 🎭🙄

Jay Aundrea: right,

Bruce Anthony: I need you to give me the money that dad gave you that I can have this day. a dude that [00:40:00] she said she was like, he is, you know, he's nice enough, but I mean, she ain't even know that particular about it. So it's like people need to stop assuming that. What's the point I'm trying to make here? People need to stop assuming that they're the main character in everybody's life.

Jay Aundrea: right. You're not.

Bruce Anthony: Did not.

Jay Aundrea: You're not.

And and to. Honestly, as the older sibling to potentially deprive your sister of setting herself up Well, financially for the rest of her life, just so you can have a party. I feel like it's wild and it really lets me know where her sister's head's at.

Bruce Anthony: Well, so this is the reason why it's wild to us, to us specifically to me and you. The reason why it's wild to us is 'cause we would never do no shit like that to each other. But we're [00:41:00] not all siblings are like us. We've seen it in our own family, our own extended family, that not all siblings are like us.

So sometimes we have to take it out of, damn, I would never do that to my brother and sister 'cause that's just not how I move. Sometimes we gotta take it outta that and look at it in a larger context and be like, yo, just 'cause they siblings don't mean that they close.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Yeah. And I, and I don't know, you know, we can make inferences about, you know, maybe one sister is closer to one parent than the other. This, that, and the third, I think it is probably more of like her sister, older sister, the 3-year-old. She lives outta state. Maybe she couldn't do to her job or her circumstances, pick up and move back home.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, that's true.

Jay Aundrea: Maybe since she clearly has champagne, champagne taste on a beer budget, she could only afford to come back Christmas in his birthday. Right.

And her distancing herself from responsibility, look, [00:42:00] caring for an ill and dying loved one.

Bruce Anthony: Tough.

Jay Aundrea: Is hard on every single level. It's hard, physically, emotionally, mentally, psychologically, spiritually, it's hard on every level. And so not everybody has the capacity to do it right. And that's, that's just a fact of life. And I don't think we should hold that against people if they just don't have the capacity to give that much. Maybe she gave what she could. Okay. But the fact of the matter is her sister also received inheritance. She got jewelry and a whole ass car, fully restored. Classic car. That will definitely give you more than that 30,000 that you were looking for. Sell it. If it's, if it's really that important to you, then you make some sacrifices.

Bruce Anthony: Hmm, there you

Jay Aundrea: [00:43:00] I made my sacrifices and I got my reward. Now you make some sacrifices

Bruce Anthony: to get your reward.

Sell the Classic Car: Make Your Own Sacrifices 🚗💸

Jay Aundrea: to get your reward, which is this dumb ass wedding.

You wanna have to this kind of okay dude, and

Bruce Anthony: I'm gonna assume that she love them. I'm gonna assume that she love them.

Jay Aundrea: okay, but both of y'all are delusional. Both of y'all are delusional. But like if, if she doesn't invite you to the wedding. Okay, well, you just saved yourself $30,000 actually more, because you would've had to pay for your flight hotel accommodations. You would've had to pay for your outfit. I'm sure you'd have to pay for your food and everything while you were there and all of that.

So she just saved you a whole hell of a lot of money.

Bruce Anthony: N not just that. If she had money left over, don't think her sister won't hit her up at any time for a loan.

Jay Aundrea: Oh, if you

Bruce Anthony: done already get, if you gave me 30,000, you can get me 1500.

Jay Aundrea: [00:44:00] mm-hmm. Yeah. Don't think it would be over. And it's just money. You'll make more.

Bruce Anthony: Who did I? The privilege.

Jay Aundrea: out my face.

Bruce Anthony: privilege of certain people to think money grows on trees. Money don't grow on trees.

And this idea that you'll make more, if you're lucky and you're privileged, you can make more. But that doesn't mean that that makes up for what you lost. You just might be trying to recover, which you already spent you in the hole trying to dig yourself outta the hole. Who the fuck wants to be in the damn hole all the time?

Jay Aundrea: If the guilt is really eating you up to the point where you are actually considering using this money for your sister's wedding, that's fine. But it's a loan. It's a loan.

Bruce Anthony: It ain't never gonna get

Jay Aundrea: She got to pay that back. and if She and get it in writing. 'cause if she don't take her to court. Y'all stop. Stop playing just because listen, just be, [00:45:00] just because it's family. Don't make, when money involved, don't play. If you wanna do it, I'm telling you not to do it. And don't go to that wedding either. 'cause these are people who clearly don't have your best interest at heart. They clearly don't care about you. So, but if you, if the guilt is eating you and I, I understand that feeling.

If You Must Help: Make It a Loan with a Contract 📝⚖️

Jay Aundrea: It's a loan and get it in writing, and both her and the okay dude, have to sign it.

Bruce Anthony: Hmm.

Jay Aundrea: They're both responsible for that promissory note. And if they don't pay you, take 'em to court and get that classic car.

Bruce Anthony: Ladies and gentlemen, that's cold. Ladies and gentlemen, what do you guys think? Is she a jerk for not loaning her sister $30,000 to help her pay for her wedding that her dad left her an inheritance? Go ahead and drop a comment down in the comment section and we gonna get at you.

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Thank You for Rocking With Us - Peace Out! ✌️🎉

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