Sept. 12, 2025

AirPods That Translate? Tech, Hate Crimes & Dating Truths

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AirPods That Translate? Tech, Hate Crimes & Dating Truths

AirPods Pro 3 live translation, South Carolina’s missing statewide hate-crime law (Jarvis McKenzie), Pastor Joel Webbon's inflammatory comments, the Jeffrey Epstein/Trump birthday card, and brutally honest dating advice — all unpacked with sibling banter on Unsolicited Perspectives. In this Sibling Happy Hour episode we test tech that could change language, explain why hate-crime legislation matters for whole communities, call out dangerous rhetoric from religious leaders, and give practical, budget-friendly first-date tips (balcony vibes, picnic moves, and honest money talk). If you care about tech culture, race and justice, or real dating talk — hit Subscribe, leave your take in the comments, and join our Patreon for After Hours Uncensored. #podcast #airpodspro3 #hatecrime #techandculture #HateCrimeReform, #datingtruths #unsolicitedperspectives

Bruce Anthony is the host of "Unsolicited Perspectives," a podcast that explores social issues, current events, and everyday life with humor and candor. He is joined by his sister, Jay Aundrea, who brings her own sharp insights and wit to the conversation. Together, they discuss topics ranging from technology and language barriers to racial justice, hate crime legislation, and dating in the modern world.

Key Takeaways:

  • Technology like the new AirPods Pro 3 is breaking down language barriers, but there’s debate about whether it brings people together or makes us less motivated to learn languages.
  • The United States still struggles with hate crime legislation, with states like South Carolina lacking comprehensive laws, which has real consequences for victims and communities.
  • Hate crimes are not just about individual victims—they impact entire communities and highlight ongoing issues of bias and systemic injustice.
  • Public figures and leaders, including pastors, can perpetuate harmful stereotypes and misinformation, which contributes to societal division.
  • In dating, honesty about finances and intentions is valued, and creative, low-cost dates can be just as meaningful as expensive outings.
  • The importance of human decency, empathy, and challenging divisive ideologies is a recurring theme throughout the episode.

Quotes:

  • "We don't need to learn how to speak other languages anymore. Hell, I barely can speak English today, but we don't need to learn how to speak other languages anymore." — Bruce Anthony
  • "Mandarin's also difficult because it's a tonal language, which means the way you say a syllable can completely change the meaning." — Jay Aundrea
  • "This is another example of technology actually making us dumber." — Bruce Anthony
  • "No, I think this is an example of technology bringing us together and bridging gaps." — Jay Aundrea
  • "A hate crime is a criminal offense... motivated by bias against certain characteristics of the victim, including their race, ethnicity, religion, national origin, sexual orientation, gender, gender identity, or disability." — Bruce Anthony
  • "You can't stand on the side of the road waiting to go to work. You can't be anywhere and be safe in a black body." — Jay Aundrea
  • "If all you do is don't act scared around black people, you'll be just fine. It's when you act scary around us... we're gonna give you something to act scared around." — Bruce Anthony
  • "If you can't afford the first date, why are you dating right now?" — Instagram commenter (paraphrased by Bruce Anthony)
  • "Fellas, be honest, it won't hurt. It can only help. Stop avoiding the truth just 'cause you can't handle the truth." — Bruce Anthony
  • "Human decency. I wish they sold it in stores." — Jay Aundrea

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00:00 Welcome to Unsolicited Perspectives 🎙️🔥

00:48 Sibling Happy Hour: Sips, Laughs & Sibling Shenanigans 🍹😂

01:42 Mind-Blowing AirPods Translation Feature Revealed! 🎧✨

04:12 Breaking Down Language Barriers with Tech 🌍💬

08:56 Political Commentary: Leadership Crisis 🏛️💭

11:06 Trump's Controversial Birthday Card to Epstein Exposed 📝😳

18:17 Racial Violence & Hate Crime Laws 😔✊

20:10 Understanding What Makes a Hate Crime 📋⚖️

22:51 South Carolina's Missing Hate Crime Legislation 📜❌

25:46 The Reality of Existing While Black in America 💔🖤

29:10 Pastor's Controversial Racial Comments Spark Outrage 🤬🙏

36:25 Shocking Crime Stats: The Truth Behind Racial Violence 📊😮

39:38 Pastor's Controversial Claims About Race Spark Heated Debate 🔥🎙️

45:30 Dating & Honesty: Can Guys Be Real? 💑💭

49:35 First Date Safety Tips & Red Flags 🚩⚠️

53:01 Budget-Friendly Dating Tips That Actually Work 💝💰

56:26 Dating Within Your Tax Bracket: Real Talk 💸💯

01:01:02 Closing Thoughts & Show Information 🎬👋

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Bruce Anthony: Technology, evolving laws devolving and dating. We gonna get into all of it. Let's get it.

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Bruce Anthony: Hell even share with your enemies.

On today's episode

Sibling Happy Hour: Sips, Laughs & Sibling Shenanigans 🍹😂

Bruce Anthony: is a sibling happy hour. I'm here with my sis Jay, Andrea. We're gonna be dillying a little bit. Then we're gonna be talking about hate crimes, and then we're gonna be talking about interesting situations in dating. [00:01:00] That's enough of the intro. Let's get to the show.

 

Bruce Anthony: What up, sis?

Jay Aundrea: What up, brother?

Bruce Anthony: I can't call it. I can't call it. Yo.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: I sent you and our brother something in the group chat today that blew my mind and you were just like, oh, this is kind of dope.

So the new Air Pod Pro three, is that what it's called?

Jay Aundrea: Yes.

Bruce Anthony: The New Air Pod Pros three have live translation with Live translation powered by Apple Intelligence.

Mind-Blowing AirPods Translation Feature Revealed! 🎧✨

Bruce Anthony: You can listen to people speak in different languages and hear translations through your AirPods Pro three to respond. Just speak naturally and your words will appear in the other person's language on your iPhone screen to make the experience even more magical.

If you both have [00:02:00] iPad Pro three, you could each speak in your own language and hear translations through your iPad or iPods. AirPods,

Jay Aundrea: Yeah,

Bruce Anthony: I it's, it's all of that AirPods iPads, it's all of that. We don't need to learn. How to speak languages anymore. Hell, I barely can speak English today, but we don't need to learn how to speak other languages anymore.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Yeah, it's crazy. Uh, our, our, our brother said that they were on some Star Trek stuff, and I'm like, yeah, this is essentially it. Because when you watch Star Trek, like you hear all the aliens speaking English, but they're not, they're speaking whatever language it is. They just have the little translator so they could, everybody can understand each other. Like I, I think, I don't know

y'all, I

Bruce Anthony: I don't, I

Jay Aundrea: watched Star Trek, but I feel like that's how it works. So initially it's gonna have English, French, German, Portuguese, and Spanish, and then [00:03:00] Apple plans to expand by the end of 2025 to Italian, Japanese, Korean, and simplified Chinese. Now that's the one that should have been, it should have been English, Spanish, and Chinese.

Simplified Chinese As The initial languages.

Bruce Anthony: Chinese speak Mandarin. Right.

Jay Aundrea: Mandarin or Cantonese? Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: is the The main,

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: it's the main.

Jay Aundrea: like they, uh, but I mean there's, China is an incredibly large country, so there's a bunch of different dialects and stuff. So simplified Chinese I think is like, the characters are simple, simpler, it's like speaking, I guess, standard American

English as opposed to one of our many regional dialects. But yeah, I mean, it's crazy. It's crazy like that. That's not like, is that not crazy? Like two [00:04:00] people speaking a completely different language in real time can be conversing, you know, just with their phone and a pair of. AirPod Pro threes.

Breaking Down Language Barriers with Tech 🌍💬

Bruce Anthony: Well, so this is the next evolution of a technology that has recently come out. Maybe a year ago when I had to get a new cell phone begrudgingly about a year ago. They was like, Hey man, you don't wanna jump on, you don't wanna look at these androids. I was like, no, I'm Team Apple all the day. Like blue texts.

That's, that's I discriminate. That's my color discrimination.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: And so the person that was like, I don't know man, they got Google Translate built into the phone. I was like, what you

Jay Aundrea: Yeah,

Bruce Anthony: It's like you push this button. No matter where you are in the world, you can communicate. They could speak into it. It'll translate and and go back and forth.

I was like, wow, that's dope. Now we have access to Google Translate on our iPhones. 'cause I recently had a cleaning lady who didn't speak a lick. English and I only speak [00:05:00] Spanish. Right. So we could not even conver converse in just my little bit of Spanish. So I was like, hold on, lemme break out my phone.

And so we were able to go back and forth to have a conversation with these ear

Jay Aundrea: Google Translate a lot.

Bruce Anthony: I do, sometimes I use Google Translate just so it can tell me how to properly enunciate American words.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: Uh, it's

Jay Aundrea: That's also useful for that.

Bruce Anthony: yeah. 'cause ordering ordinances, which is going, coming up in the second segment. Yeah. Really tough word for me to say.

Jay Aundrea: Just make sure you hit that D

Bruce Anthony: Ordinance. Yeah. Nah, it's just a

Jay Aundrea: or Dnce. Hit that d hard.

Bruce Anthony: I didn't sound like that was right to me. But anyway, this is gonna

Jay Aundrea: didn't sound right at all. I wish I had not said that on

Bruce Anthony: that didn't sound right at all. I was like, I don't think that's how you're supposed to say it.

Jay Aundrea: I wish I hadn't said that specific sentence on air, but you know what, it's out there now and that's, that's podcasting folks.[00:06:00]

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, y'all, before we started this show, I, I normally nail that intro in one take. I've been one take Bruce for, I don't know, maybe like a hundred shows straight.

I was telling Jay before we even got started, as I read through the rundown, I was like, oh, I'm gonna have a, a tougher time than usual talking today.

I don't know why. It's probably 'cause I'm tired, but, uh, I'm gonna have a tougher time than usual talking today, which is always a problem. And, and, and another reason why I never learned Mandarin. When you start throwing different characters for letters at me, am I dyslexia? That could barely see the letters.

That's just regular, like American letter, not American letters, just the alphabet, A through Z, right? And you start throwing different signs out there. You might as well forget it. I'm not catching it. So this is for us who were never able to learn another language. I took Spanish from seventh grade to sophomore year in college.

We have Spanish speaking people in our [00:07:00] family.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: I've dated Spanish speaking women. I've been to Miami too many times. I can't speak no Spanish. So this helps. This helps me 'cause you know.

Jay Aundrea: Mandarin's also difficult because it's a tonal language, which means the way you say a syllable can completely change the meaning. So you could say, ma, ma, ma, ma. Like, it's like, and it can mean completely different words.

And so English is not a tonal language. So it's like it Mandarin is, uh, for people who don't speak tonal languages are, is probably very difficult to learn.

Yeah.

I ain't even gonna try.

Bruce Anthony: this, is another example of technology actually making us dumber.

Jay Aundrea: No, I think this is an example of technology bringing us together and bridging gaps.

Bruce Anthony: You know, what else can [00:08:00] bring us together and bridge gaps if we learn multiple languages. We're the only country. We're really the only country that doesn't even attempt to learn multiple languages. Like,

Jay Aundrea: That is not true. You have foreign language as a requirement in school.

Bruce Anthony: yeah, but we don't really attempt it. You know how I know this, because I got into a debate. A person yesterday and they were like, yeah, you know, I don't understand how you've been here 15 years and still can't speak the language. I was like, one American English is very complicated. They say it's one of the toughest languages to learn.

I was like, number one and number two. I was like, we don't have an official language. I mean, but we do. I was like, but we technically we do not have an official language.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. The United States of America is not declared an A,

Bruce Anthony: They trying to change that though.

Jay Aundrea: they're trying to yeah, just like they changed the Department of Defense to the Department of War and they're trying to say it's the Gulf of America, not the Gulf of it is dumb. It's dumb. Just stop it.

Political Commentary: Leadership Crisis 🏛️💭

Bruce Anthony: Don't worry Gavin Newsom's gonna change everything [00:09:00] back.

Jay Aundrea: I am just not gonna put all my eggs in a Gavin Newsom basket. I mean, I, I like Gavin Newsom. I love the things that he's doing right now, but like, I'm just not, the fact of the matter is, I'm not gonna get too political. I'm just gonna say this one thing. The Democratic Party has done an incredibly poor job of, mentoring the next generation.

They've just done a poor job. They have

instead decided to hold on to power even though they 150 years old, each of 'em instead of reaching back and training up the next round of leaders.

Bruce Anthony: but that's both parties. That's politics. They, nobody prepares the next generation. Nobody prepares the next

Jay Aundrea: Republicans always have a next candidate

Bruce Anthony: No, they don't. Did you, do you remember when Trump was running the first time when they had 16, 17 people on stage?

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. How many do we usually have?

Bruce Anthony: I mean, this last time we had a lot too, but typically [00:10:00] it's like, no three, like maybe three, four. And then, and we, and we always

Jay Aundrea: a lot more candidate options. We don't, we don't. We got, it's usually like every, every election cycle. I feel like we choosing between like two and three people,

Bruce Anthony: That's how that, that's how that works. The, the, the next generation hardly ever prepare the, the, the previous generation hardly ever prepares the next generation for anything

Jay Aundrea: yeah, because Gen X y'all ain't do diddly jack for us.

Bruce Anthony: where they're the ones preparing Gen Z. 'cause they, they, gen Xers have Gen Z kids. Gen Xers don't have millennial kids. If they do, good God.

Jay Aundrea: I mean, I suppose it's possible.

Bruce Anthony: it's absolutely possible. It's absolutely possible. But I mean, I'm just saying, I mean, technically I'm a borderline Gen Xer millennial and I could absolutely have a millennial kid. 'cause we have cousins that are like. 15 years younger than [00:11:00] I am. Some of 'em 20 who are, who are millennials, and I'm like, oh yeah, no, that's absolutely possible.

Trump's Controversial Birthday Card to Epstein Exposed 📝😳

Bruce Anthony: So yeah, that could work

Anyway you wanted, you said that you didn't want to get political, but you did wanna bring up one other political thing,

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. So that, you know how it is been out in the ether that Trump has sent a birthday letter to Epstein back in oh three,

Bruce Anthony: birthday card, but yeah.

Jay Aundrea: card, birthday letter, whatever it is. Well, it finally got released. Democrats uh, released it, and it's weird, s. It's weird. So the card is like this imaginary exchange between Donald and Jeffrey and then like around the letter, around the text, which is centered on the page, which is weird, and uh, is [00:12:00] like the body of a woman, a armless woman with little boobs and that's it.

I don't know, but the text is, I'm gonna read it to y'all. It's suspect as hell. Like, okay. So it starts with voiceover and the voiceover says there must be more to life than having everything Donald. Yes, there is, but I won't tell you what it is, Jeffrey. Nor will I since I also know what it is. Donald. We have certain things in common.

Jeffrey. Jeffrey, yes, we do. Come to think of it, Donald Enigmas never age. Have you noticed that, Jeffrey? As a matter of fact, it was clear to me the last time I saw you, Donald, a pal is a wonderful thing. Happy birthday and may every day be another wonderful secret. Donald J. Trump.[00:13:00]

Bruce Anthony: I wonder if he found out what Enigma meant because he saw Batman forever. 'cause that seems like a big word for him.

Jay Aundrea: It does seem like a big word for him.

Bruce Anthony: Reason why I think this might be a little suspect. ' cause him using that word. I don't know. That don't sound like him. He doesn't use big adjective and that at this time it was 2003, so the internet was around so he could,

he could Google. Yeah. I mean he could have had a soars with him too.

Jay Aundrea: could have or he could have heard it somewhere. And decide to, use it. I, I think it was still weird the way he used it.

Enigmas never age. Like what does that mean exactly?

It's

Bruce Anthony: an enigmas are mysteries, correct.

Mysteries do absolutely age.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. And then it's like,

Bruce Anthony: It's weird,

but it's ver [00:14:00] but, but you know, oh God, I'm not on here defending Trump. What I will say is this guy, language is weird in and of itself, and. That's what I'll say when guys communicate to each other. When we doing our bro stuff, it's weird. We're we're weird Gender.

Jay Aundrea: but knowing Epstein's crimes his horrible, horrific crimes to say that enigmas are mysteries, never age. Knowing he was a a, a letter. A letter file. A I'm trying a way to say that we stay monetized. And then, oh, yeah. That was clear to me the last time I saw you have a, I hope every day is another wonderful secret. What, what?

Bruce Anthony: So here's the thing about these Epstein files and, and, and we haven't talked about it [00:15:00] much in the show, 'cause whatever. I feel like there's, this is important for the victims, but I feel like there's more important things going on in the world. Kind of like, I don't know, an attempt for a dictatorship.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. I,

mean, that's definitely happened.

Bruce Anthony: what I will say is there are so many powerful people that are wrapped up with Jeffrey Epstein.

This could break down everything and people are like, show us the list. And I do believe the list needs to happen, but I think some people are on one side thinking that the list is gonna show a bunch of people and it probably will. And I know, uh, some people on the other side are thinking that it is, that it's gonna show people from the other side on the list and it probably will.

I think people are going to realize as like, oh, some of these people that we put in power,

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: not very good people.

So just as I think you know. Trump was at that island. I also believe that, uh, I can, you can also convince me that, [00:16:00] uh, slick Willie was also on that island.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. I mean, I don't know. I, I really don't know. I don't think

Bruce Anthony: Slick Willie is Bill Clinton. Yo,

Jay Aundrea: I, we all got it.

Bruce Anthony: no, I don't know. People know who slick Willie is. People might not know that, know that term.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah, I mean, you know, if there is a list, I don't know that he actually kept a list

of people. Like if there, I, I, I don't see why would but if there is this B list and that the Trump administration is not gonna release it because it's probably got him and a lot of people he knows on it, so he is not gonna release it.

Like,

and and the weird backpedaling and, uh, let's just stop talking about this. You know, that, that is kind of like, that's your signal that whatever information they do [00:17:00] have is not great.

Bruce Anthony: When people try to change the subject, when they, when y'all talk about something and they try to say, change the subject, nah, they got some heat underneath them feet.

They got some heat underneath them feet. All right, well technology is crazy, like I said earlier, but some of our laws are devolving instead of evolving and we're gonna get into that next.

 

Bruce Anthony: Jay? Something interesting happened the other day and, and no, I'm not talking about the murder on the train, even though that is a sad situation and I pray for that young woman's family.

This is about another racial crime, and I don't even think that was racial. It just happened to be a, a interracial violence. But I'm talking about something else that's interracial violence, [00:18:00] and it's from the ap. It's a story written by Jeffrey Collins, and the title of the story is Black Man Shot At While Waiting to Go To Work says, South Carolina needs hate crime laws.

So for y'all that did not know, South Carolina is one of two states that doesn't have a hate crime law,

Racial Violence & Hate Crime Laws 😔✊

Bruce Anthony: but a black man named Jarvis McKenzie was shot at by a white man while he was waiting to go to work in South Carolina, leading to renewed calls for statewide hate crime legislation. McKenzie survived the attack and local order ins.

Hmm, that word limited in their penalties are currently the only tools for hate crime charges in South Carolina, which remains one of only two states without a statewide hate crime law. So. I was talking to a person about this yesterday because they were talking about the stabbing and the killing on that train.

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: And, and I brought up this story and I was like, yeah, you know, [00:19:00] South Carolina, because they were bringing up how the prosecution wasn't giving the family information. And I was like, yeah, I South Carolina on some other shit because they don't even have a hate crime, statewide hate crime statute.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Now, the o, the other state, Wyoming. I kinda

understand that

Bruce Anthony: late, I was gonna get to that later.

Jay Aundrea: okay. okay.

Sorry, go ahead.

Bruce Anthony: gonna get to that later. But, but so I was telling, I was telling a woman the story and she was like, I don't even understand why we have hate crime laws. And I was like, excuse me. She was like,

yeah, isn't right. But her, her rationale was even dumber.

It was, if you commit a crime against me, isn't it already hate? I was like, n no.

No.

Jay Aundrea: just owe me money.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah.

Okay. All right. Yeah. So I'm like, no, a hate crime has it. I was like, you don't understand what a hate crime is. So for everybody out there who's probably, [00:20:00] we wanna say the same thing that she did,

because, you know, people don't ever want to say, well, they got killed because of their race or gender. It wasn't, it had nothing to do with that.

Understanding What Makes a Hate Crime 📋⚖️

Bruce Anthony: No. It had absolutely everything to do with that. So, a hate crime is a criminal offense such as assault, vandalism, or murder that is motivated by bias against certain characteristics of the victim, including their race, ethnicity, religion, national origin, sexual orientation, gender, gender identity, or disability.

So it's not solely, people say hate crime, you know, always black or white. What about when black people kill white people? First of all, I'm gonna get into crime statistics later, but did that black person kill the white person because they were white? Or did they kill 'em 'cause they owed 'em some money?

There's a difference there,

Jay Aundrea: There's a lot of reasons.

Bruce Anthony: and that can be a hate crime as [00:21:00] well, under hate crime laws if that were the case. So it's not purely about racial, it's about gender and sexuality. Well, you know, I don't even agree with this. Sexuality and a gender. Those are What about disabilities? What about if somebody was out here killing folks?

'cause they was in wheelchairs, you wouldn't consider that a hit crime? Oh, well, I mean, yeah. Okay. So you just wanna pick and choose

Jay Aundrea: Pick and choose. Yeah. Which communities you think deserve victimhood,

and that is something you're gonna have to interrogate within yourself. Like, I can't help you with that if, uh, that's why we say Black Lives Matter, y'all. That's why we say it, because you all pick and choose which communities you de you think deserve to be victims. If it's a community you don't think deserves to be victims, y'all come up with every excuse in the book as to why the harm or even the murder [00:22:00] of someone is is potentially justified just because of the community that that person belongs to. The reason why hate crimes are more harmful than that same crime

without,

right. It's because not only do they target the victim, but they also target the community that that victim represents. So not only are you harming that victim, you're threatening an entire community That's, and that's putting a bunch of people now on the defense. Right? It's, it's impacting the safety of an entire community.

So there, there is a significant reason why

hate crime legislation is

Bruce Anthony: Yeah.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: So in this particular case with Javar, uh, Jarvis McKenzie,

South Carolina's Missing Hate Crime Legislation 📜❌

Bruce Anthony: I'm gonna paraphrase the story. So he was waiting outside in the same spot that he's been waiting to get picked up to go to work for a decades, [00:23:00] right? White man pulls up in the pickup truck, pulls his rifle out, takes a shot that goes above Mr.

McKinney's head

and says to him, you better get running boy. Basically like, why are you in this neighborhood?

Security fit footage captured the event and the perpetrator was charged under county level hate crime laws.

However, they only carry misdemeanor, misdemeanor penalties of, of up to a month in jail.

Jay Aundrea: Right.

Bruce Anthony: This is the reason why we have hate crimes and 48 other states,

because when somebody takes a shot at another person based off of their race, ethnicity, religion, national origin, sexual orientation, gender, gender identity, or [00:24:00] disability, that crime should be escalated and the penalties should be escalated because it's attacking an entire community.

So there is a push in the state to. Make a statewide hate crime law in South Carolina. Like I said, certain jurisdictions have ordinances.

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm. that was actually the best like pronunciation that you've had so far.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah. I mean, but that, Hey, we grading on a severe curve. But, but, but, but I, we getting there and on and Mr. McKenzie has become an activist and trying to push for a statewide, uh, hate crime law. About 20 local governments have passed their own ordinances. But these are only misdemeanors and only carry minimum sentences.

This is the same state that Dylan Roof went into that church

Jay Aundrea: [00:25:00] I was just about to miss

Bruce Anthony: and,

and massacred the people.

Jay Aundrea: In Charleston. Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: You need to have hate crimes. There was a reason why there was a stop, Asian hate. There were some violence that was being done towards the Asian community throughout the nation.

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: are hate crimes. If you attack somebody because of their sexual orientation and gender and you might not like it, doesn't give a damn. You can't attack them for it. And if you do, that's a hate crime. So, yes. So I thought this was an interesting story and I want to get some more of your thoughts on it because I'm going to paint a picture of why there's been an escalation of hate crimes over the last, let's say eight years.

The Reality of Existing While Black in America 💔🖤

Bruce Anthony: But just your thoughts on just a man just waiting to go to work.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: Taxpayer, A taxpayer minding his own damn business,

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: [00:26:00] dude, roll up in the pickup truck. Point his rifle outside the window. Shoots at says, get outta here, boy.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. This is not an uncommon occurrence. We

just don't always call the police.

Like, let's be honest, this is not an uncommon occurrence. And since the, since the Black Lives Matter movement has brought a lot of these cases to the fore. What we just know to be true is that existence in a black body anywhere is unsafe.

Not at the grocery store, not at church, not anywhere. You can't stand on the side of the road waiting to go to work. You can't be anywhere and be safe in a black body. Now, what we are seeing with these blatantly racist immigration laws and uh, is that you can't be in a brown body and exist [00:27:00] anywhere, not even at the courthouse for your immigration hearing. It can't, it can't exist anywhere. And so the critics who argue according to Associated Press that a bill, like a bill. Imposing harsher penalties for hate crimes is divisive or duplicative. And they say that like, existing laws are sufficient if judges impose maximum sentences when hate is a factor there.

These are not people who are taking in the totality of, of really what's involved when someone, uh, harms another person due to bias, right? Like, it's, like I said earlier, it not, it's not just the victim who suffers, it's the entire community that they belong to. And Mr. McKenzie still lives in fear, right? [00:28:00] Because, because there is no meaningful reform that can give him any kind of sense of safety. And he's not the only one. We just have his name. He's not the only one. South Carolina, governor Harry McMaster, who's also a former prosecutor, maintains that current statutes allow for harsh punishment and fears.

A hate crime law would involve policing thought rather than conduct. Listen to me, listen to me. Right now, we're, we are policing the conduct and the impact, the emotional, societal, cultural, the community impact. I don't care about anybody. Listen, most people's thoughts are bias.

I would say a hundred people's, a hundred percent of people's thoughts are bias.

[00:29:00] But when you start to act on that, act on that bias. Yeah. We gonna co, we're gonna police the conduct and the impact.

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Bruce Anthony: Yeah,

Jay Aundrea: It's like dropping a pebble into a still pond. It ripples out. They need to suffer the consequences of the fact that it rippled out

and honest and honestly, when we come up against things like this, like enacting harsher penalties for hate crimes or passing a bill to ensure the kids get lunch in school, like these kind, these kind of things that were like, okay, if you're a human being, this, this feels like common sense, right?

Because honestly, who, who is being harmed with harsher penalties for hate crimes? [00:30:00] The

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, that's, that's, that's who would be harmed. Yeah. Perpetrator.

Jay Aundrea: Where is the downside to that? What do you mean a bill? Like this is divisive. In what way? Dylan Roof walked into that church in Charleston, sat there for an hour and prayed with those people, and then killed them and left one alive to tell a story. And they took him to fricking Burger King before taking him to the damn police station for questioning. And you telling me we wanna protect the rights of a person like Dylan Roof?

Bruce Anthony: Yes. We always have to, we always have to protect people's rights.

Jay Aundrea: No, no, no, no. I mean, we don't want to subject him to the punishment, commiserate with the crime.

Bruce Anthony: Okay. Yeah. That's a [00:31:00] better way to say it. You said not protect their rights. We do wanna

Jay Aundrea: I mean, I don't give, I don't really give a damn about his rice, but that's another

story. But like, Yeah. I mean,

Bruce Anthony: a slippery slope.

Jay Aundrea: process.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah.

Jay Aundrea: all are allowed to get it,

but we ain't all entitled to Burger King.

Bruce Anthony: Well, if you going tell on yourself that's, that's like par for the course you done seen in many shows in the first 48, they feed you.

Jay Aundrea: They give you some Shasta and a and some Lay's potato chips these days. They don't come in there

with no two piece and a biscuit. I've seen plenty of first 48 episodes and you get what's in the vending machine.

Bruce Anthony: Hmm.

Jay Aundrea: Okay. That's it.

You don't get no whole, nah.

Bruce Anthony: you brought up something and I think, and, and pretty much centered on humanity, right? Like w why are these things where we're talking about feeding kids and, and passing hate crime laws? Like why, why is this difficult? Because humanity says. Uh, [00:32:00] that these should be easy issues. You know what also says that?

Because everybody loves to say that this nation is built on CA Christian principles. Right? This is a Christian nation. And, and if you were to believe that and you were to believe in Jesus' teachings,

Jay Aundrea: mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: then, you know,

clothing and feeding the poor, yeah. Clothing and feeding the poor would be kind of a human thing.

But have you heard of Pastor Joe? Now I gave him this nickname, but his name is, his name is Pastor Joel Wilbon. We Webb, have you heard about him?

Jay Aundrea: No.

Bruce Anthony: Okay. So recently he stated that white Christian parents have a parental duty. To explicitly teach their children to be cautious around black people, claiming this is necessary for their safety and asserting that failing to do [00:33:00] so is neglectful parenting.

He described having the talk as an obligation telling parents they must sometimes explain that certain areas in town are off limits and certain individuals should stay. They should stay clear of he differentiated between individual black church members and strangers. Asserting that groups of black strangers pose a greater threat than groups of white strangers and argue that is unwise to raise children.

Believing all races are identical in risk or character. Now, what he said was, 'cause I saw the, I saw the clip. What he said was exactly that. How he phrased it was, yeah, how he phrased it was this. He said, look, we got black members in our church. They're okay. We see him all the time. We know them.

When you go out in the street and you're around a group of strangers, you need to be a little weary.

I was like, okay. I actually, uh, that statement singular that statement. Yeah. When you [00:34:00] outside be a little weary of anybody,

then he said.

hold on, hold on. He even said white people. He said, be a little weary of white people, but who you really have to be Larry of are black people. 'cause you're 30 times more likely to be hurt by them than you are anybody else.

That's just fact. And, and as I was reading, watching that clip, I said, well, that's not fact.

Jay Aundrea: No.

Bruce Anthony: This is, this is a, this is number. They are constantly trying to say, black people commit more crimes than white people,

and this is just not true. Here's some crime stats for you folks out there of violent incidences involving white victims.

Most all white offenders

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: followed by black offenders and Hispanic offenders. But I'm about to give you the numbers. Violent incidences where it is white victims, [00:35:00] white offenders in these situations, 15.8 million incidences for black offenders, 2.38 million incidences, and for Hispanic offenders, 1.5 million incidences.

So what they're trying to tell you is, I don't even know the math on this, but 15.8 compared to 2.38 million, vastly different.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: That's like, that's seven times more. You're

Jay Aundrea: mind you,

Bruce Anthony: likely.

Jay Aundrea: he, he said in his

statement, uh, on his podcast that. And this, I, I would love to know where the hell he got this stat. He pulled it out of his ass. That black str, a crowd of black strangers are quote, 30 times

Bruce Anthony: 30 times. That's what he

Jay Aundrea: more dangerous than a crowd of white people.

Bruce Anthony: That's like they keep,

Jay Aundrea: from?

Bruce Anthony: he came up with that. He came up with

that.

Jay Aundrea: up [00:36:00] with it?

Bruce Anthony: Let, let me hit y'all with a little something else because we were just talking about hate crimes and hate crimes are absolutely a real thing. Okay? Let's not get it twisted. Hate crimes are absolutely a real thing, but interracial homicide that's black on white and even white on black, it's far less common than intra inter-racial homicide, meaning white on white and black on black.

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Bruce Anthony: So for all you people who are not good at math out there, victims. The overwhelming majority of the time, white people are the offenders. Not black people or Latino people. Definitely a very, very small number of illegal immigrants, though. Those are the stories that they wanna put in the news to make it seem like it's a big thing, not a big thing.

Okay.

So for all my white people out there that are listening, and if you watch this show regularly, we already know that you part of the team, [00:37:00] we already know. But if you had some friends out there, and I know you do that are always saying, I'm more scared of black people than I am anybody. You need to be more scared of your own people.

' cause they're the ones that are hurting you. They're the ones that are attacking you. They're the ones that are assaulting you. They're the ones that are killing you. It's, it's them.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: so, so, yeah, I, I, it just bothered me. And, and then when you said humanity, I'm like, this is a pastor. This is a pastor of a church.

Literally preaching hate.

Jay Aundrea: a pastor.

Bruce Anthony: Well, yeah, well true. Literally preaching hate. You don't mean be scared of black people. Lemme tell you why. You don't need to be scared of black people. If all you do is don't act scared around black people, you'll be just fine. Is when you act scary around us. We gonna, or we gonna give you something to act scared around?

We gonna give you a reason to fear is if you're gonna act scared around us,

but

Jay Aundrea: we don't.

Bruce Anthony: huh?

Jay Aundrea: No, we don't. We be laughing at y'all

Bruce Anthony: Sometimes, but me and [00:38:00] personal,

like if you,

if you clinch your purse, if you ccle, if you get on the elevator with me, I live in the building, you clin your purse. When you get in the elevator, I'm gonna do a quick jab set.

Like what am I out to do? Steal your money. I got more money than you. I know for a fact. 'cause I can tell that purse is a Michael Kors purse.

Jay Aundrea: That might be your response. I be laughing. I laughing because it's like, okay. Okay. Yeah,

whatever. But he said, this is, this is another quote here that I just want y'all to really understand. What this man literally said out of his mouth, he said, quote, and it is a, it is actually a failure of your parental duty.

White parents, please hear me.

If you teach your children growing up, if you lied to them and say, all people and all races of people in our country are the same, they are not. You are [00:39:00] actually depriving your child of factual, truthful information that could save their life. And that factual and truthful information, he means that black strangers are 30 times more dangerous, which is again, not a fact. Uh, it is something he pulled out of his ass.

Bruce Anthony: but if he had said, if he had said, using that same sentiment, if you raise your children and saying that we are not equal, because historically. Black people and brown people have been historically discriminated against.

Jay Aundrea: Right.

Bruce Anthony: Then I'd be like, you know what? That's good. That's a good lesson to try and teach your kids.

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Bruce Anthony: Like historically they have not been treated equally, that's not what he's saying. What he's saying is you are 30 times more likely with some black strangers and this is a crazy thing. I literally was having this conversation with somebody earlier. Black people are so damn welcoming that all you got to do is not act [00:40:00] scared around us and we going, we are so welcoming.

We'll be like we invite too many damn people to the barbecue, to the

cookout. 'cause all you got to do is act like you ain't afraid of us. That's how traumatized we are in this country where we will accept anybody else who is just simply not afraid of us.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Even the people who are afraid, right? I'm, I don't know what kind of face Dylan Roof had when he walked into that church in Charleston, but what did them people do?

Bruce Anthony: Opened up.

Jay Aundrea: him. They welcomed him in and they prayed with him because that's ultimately who we are and what we do. But this is the same man, by the way, who wants to repeal the 19th Amendment.

He believed, he stated on his podcast that he believed part of his vote was stolen from him as a result of the 19th Amendment, which cements women's right to vote.

Bruce Anthony: Oh yeah. That's been [00:41:00] like a, a big push recently. They trying to, they trying to pull women back. Some women are even down for it. Yeah. I don't think I should have the right to vote. Some, some women I've seen in these interviews, you know, like, well, you don't think you should get the right to vote? Nah, I'm not smart enough.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Uh, well, their whole position is that families as a unit should vote with the man leading the decision making and voting process. Right? Like it, just like our households should vote. No.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah. Nah, I got some real, I got some real cool homegirls that tell me stories when they go back home and how their family, they're white.

Uh, some of my homegirls, homegirls specifically I'm talking about, they're white and they go back home and their, their home, their family is all maga and they are the complete opposite of that.

I'm like, how do you even deal with that? And they're like, don't go home that much. And I was like, oh, yeah. I guess.

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: guess that's tough, you know?[00:42:00]

Yeah.

You know, me personally, I just turn, I just say, okay, well I'm not gonna rock with you no more. But I guess, you know, maybe if you're mom, your dad, you might have a, you might have a little trouble, not me.

But luckily my parents ain't like that.

Jay Aundrea: Right.

Bruce Anthony: But ladies and gentlemen, I just want to just point out, you know, we bring truth to power. Power, the truth to, to bring it back to the first episode,

Jay Aundrea: Yes.

Bruce Anthony: stop this damn myth that black people are going to harm you, not, not gonna

Jay Aundrea: With, we literally, we literally are cool just being left alone, to be honest with

you. And it feels like every time, no, it doesn't feel like every time we set up our own thriving communities, y'all be like, y'all be like f your couch and y'all come in and you destroy them. And, uh, but you, you want us segregated, but you don't want us. [00:43:00] Ha being equal or having equity?

Bruce Anthony: No, they want to segregate it and not successful.

Jay Aundrea: Yes.

Bruce Anthony: what it, and not everybody, ladies and gentlemen, once again, I feel like I have to stress this all the time. I'm not talking about all white people. See, speaking in generalities here, speaking in generalities here. And we're speaking a lot to the systems and the structures, not solely to individual people, but I am speaking about, uh, this pastor, pastor Joe

'cause, and, and he's a person that praises the Lord.

But don't get me started on Americanized Christianity that is based solely in racism.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: I'm not gonna,

Jay Aundrea: and homophobia and

Bruce Anthony: yeah. All that stuff. All right. This, Jay, do you have any more to, to talk about on this one? 'cause I'm, I'm off this now, this is depressing.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. When you are fighting legislation that, really only harms perpetrators of crimes. Like, and not really harm them, but just holds them accountable. [00:44:00] Ask yourself, why,

why are you so concerned about the penalty for a perpetrator of a crime? Why are you so damn concerned about the penalty for a perpetrator of a crime? Is because you don't want them to suffer harsher penalties for hurting disadvantaged communities, because at the end of the day, you don't care about vulnerable communities. Just say that like you're already kind of saying the quiet part out loud, but just say that.

Bruce Anthony: Message.

 

Bruce Anthony: Jay. Can guys actually be honest in dating,

Jay Aundrea: I wish you would.[00:45:00]

Bruce Anthony: so I came across this post on Instagram and it, and it created a very interesting topic that people were talking about in the comments, and I was like, oh, this would be interesting to talk about on the show because I just think that it's, it's an interesting question. Like how honest can a man truly be?

So a guy sent a woman that he was dating or hanging out with, it didn't say what level of dating that they were on.

Jay Aundrea: Okay.

Bruce Anthony: This is what he sent to her.

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Bruce Anthony: He sent her a text message, Hey, I want to take you out, but I'm effed up right now. I can afford wine and takeout if you want a vibe on the balcony tonight. And my question is, was his honesty the best policy?

And should men communicate with, let's just keep this, uh, heterosexual relationships.

Should men communicate when they low on funds with women?

Jay Aundrea: Yes, [00:46:00] please let us know so that we don't go out somewhere and get embarrassed

Bruce Anthony: What you mean get embarrassed? What you mean?

Jay Aundrea: because look, y'all go out there and then we order stuff that you can't afford, but we don't know that. Then the check come, the card get declined. Now I got to go in my, it's all embarrassing for every, like, it just puts, it makes embarrassing for both of us.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah.

Jay Aundrea: Just let me know and we could do something else. We could do something else till you get back where you, I could do something for you. Like it don't, it's cool. Like, look, you want to spend time with me, but you can't afford to do it right now. Okay. How about you come here, I cook and we watch a movie or something like, it's not like you gimme the option to give, to come up with other, you know, we could do other stuff.

Bruce Anthony: So I went into the comments 'cause the posting that the person that posted [00:47:00] this was like, Hey ladies, what do you think? And so I was reading the comments to the ladies and I was, it was refreshing.

And, and, but also some women brought up something that I didn't even think about, right?

So most of the times they were like, love the honesty.

Baby, you ain't gotta order takeout. I'll cook something. Vibing on the balcony seems like the best thing ever.

And, and I have a balcony and my balcony overlooks the courtyard. I've had many a dates where we eating food, listening to the music, especially at night. 'cause the, the light reflecting off the pool and I got lights on my balcony.

It's a total vibe out there. It's a vibe. My house is complete vibe, but it's a total vibe out there. So women are like, yo, I'm, I'm feeling this more so than going out. What a lot of women brought up was, this the first date? 'cause no, if that's the first date, and I understand that because you don't go over to, man, ladies,

Jay Aundrea: to you. Don't go over somebody house on that

first date. No.

Bruce Anthony: long y'all been talking[00:48:00]

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: first date.

Don't go to that house.

Jay Aundrea: And and it's gotta

be a very long time before they know where you live.

Bruce Anthony: You know, it's funny, the last girlfriend I had. She was like, you never made the moves on me. I was like, woman, you never gave me the opportunity. Because the very first date that we had, I went to her part of town

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: and she didn't have me pick her up at her house. I took her Uber. She didn't have me pick her up at her house.

She had me pick her up at a bus stop close to her house. I was like, safety, cool. I

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: We go to a restaurant, we eat, I'm like, here, I order Uber back and I have it drop you off at your house and I'll go home. She's like, uh, uh. I was like, what? You think I'm gonna stalk you? It's like, you fine, but it's not that serious.

I just wanna make sure you get home safely. You can order your own Uber, but like, I'm gonna be passing by that area. Anyway, so and so even then she put the address, it wasn't the right address [00:49:00] the second time. The second date I walked her home, but I didn't get to go inside

Jay Aundrea: mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: the third date. I think I was inside.

It may have been the fourth date where I was actually inside and it wasn't until the fifth date that she actually came to my house. So I was like, yo, this is, this is like, I'm cool with that because safety is a major issue. So some of the women brought up, if his first date, that's a no go. One woman brought up something in responsive if it's the first date that I was like, that's also a good point where she was like, if you can't afford the first date, why are you dating right now?

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Bruce Anthony: And I think that's a good point. If you ain't got it right now, get straight before you have to go out there and date.

Jay Aundrea: No, I,

I think,

Bruce Anthony: broke

Jay Aundrea: I really don't feel like that should necessarily be a barrier, right? Because the first, the first date, okay, so say it's our first date, [00:50:00] he sends me this text, I wanna take you out, but I ain't got it right now. I can afford wine and takeout. If you want a vibe on my balcony tonight, my response, if this is somebody that I do wanna get to know would be, that sounds great. How about we just move it to a picnic in a local park, you know?

We just getting to know each other and that like you bring the wine, I'll bring the takeout, we'll meet up and we'll, we'll kick it like that. We could do that. Like it, I think you shouldn't offer a first date to someone you can't afford

if you Right, right. Like, so yeah, I mean, I always think you should probably try dating your tax bracket, but like,

Bruce Anthony: I, I don't never, I be, I be out there trying to date them women that got that money.

Jay Aundrea: you know,

I mean, but if, but if, if there is like a income difference, [00:51:00] like a substantial income difference, then you gotta get creative. My boy. And it doesn't mean that you can't lock down somebody in a different tax bracket. You just gotta get creative. And I feel like he was there. He was almost there. Had this, had this been a first date, he was almost there. He should have suggested a public place, like a park and that, something like that. But like, he was almost there. Like I, I still probably would've rocked with that because you can have a good conversation at a picnic. Oh, you got this conversation and people watch it.

Bruce Anthony: Right. Look, lemme tell you something, lemme give you guys some free game

Jay Aundrea: Oh

boy.

Bruce Anthony: I'm, a reform player. Reformed, reformed player. Okay. Give you guys some free game that first date. Don't do no movie, don't do no dinner. You don't even technically have to do drinks. What I used to do when I used to go out on a bunch of first dates, I used to date, uh, like from 2015 to about [00:52:00] 2009, I was on a, a lot of dates

Jay Aundrea: Back in time.

Bruce Anthony: huh?

Say what?

Jay Aundrea: To 2009

Bruce Anthony: 2019? I meant, say

Jay Aundrea: 19. Okay. Okay.

Bruce Anthony: I'm getting older. Um, and, and, and in DC mad expensive to go out, even just to have a couple drinks.

Okay. There's this spot that everybody in this area knows about. It's actually, it's actually a borderline between DC and Virginia. There's this park

Jay Aundrea: Mm-hmm.

Bruce Anthony: outside of National Airport.

Right. But it's also along the water. And everybody goes there all the time to watch the planes take off. Kids are out there with the kites and all that type of stuff.

I used to go get wine crackers and like a, it would be like a little tray of stuff that you could just buy.

Jay Aundrea: board.

Bruce Anthony: Yes. But it was a, it was a poor version of a charcuterie boy, but it was

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: some cheeses, and some crackers and

some wine.

Jay Aundrea: board [00:53:00] is.

Bruce Anthony: Okay.

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Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: I used it. That was my first date for everything. I would get two bottles of wine. Wine, one red, one white. I would have the glasses, the, the, the uh, cover, use your phone for music and you just vibe and talk. I did that so many times and it always worked. And if you want to get them back to your house, all you have to do is make them feel comfortable.

Like that's not the point to get back to the house. 'cause the park and the public places are gonna eventually close or it's gonna get dark.

And then you say, Hey, you wanna go back to my place and watch a movie? And if they're comfortable, then they'll come. And if they're not comfortable, they probably don't really even like you that much.

So you

Jay Aundrea: Nope. Uh, incorrect.

Bruce Anthony: I know that's in crap, but this is free game. This is free game from all them young players out there that's like, man, these women are expensive. They don't have to be expensive. And if they are, if they want the full nine on the first date, are that probably ain't the one for you anyway.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. I mean, if, if [00:54:00] you can't, if you can't afford it,

Bruce Anthony: Not even if you can't afford it, if they asking for all of that on the first date, no.

Jay Aundrea: No.

Somebody, somebody a, a, a content creator. I saw them on Instagram. He had a great analogy for this. You cannot walk in to the Porsche, Porsche dealership with 15 grand in your pocket.

Bruce Anthony: I mean, that's true.

Well, I mean you if 15 grand in your pocket, yes, you definitely can. 15 grand in your bank account. No, you

cannot.

Jay Aundrea: with 15 to spend.

Bruce Anthony: Oh, well you put down payment on that and get to

Jay Aundrea: No, no, you can't go in. You can't be. Swinging out your out your league. Sometimes

Bruce Anthony: Sometimes. Yeah, sometimes, yeah.

Jay Aundrea: it is what it is and people are allowed to be accustomed to a certain kind of

lifestyle or a certain kind of [00:55:00] treatment or like. And if And if that's not what you can afford, you don't get it. You don't get it. If you can't afford the BMW, you can't get it.

Bruce Anthony: That's a good analogy. Yeah. 'cause a lot of dudes out here like, man, these women always want this and that. Yeah. I mean, if they're accustomed to that, I mean, why should they settle for anything less? Because you wouldn't settle for anything less.

Jay Aundrea: And the purchase is the first date, but you still got maintenance. You

Bruce Anthony: Right?

Jay Aundrea: gotta put gas in it, get the oil change. You

Bruce Anthony: yeah, we talking, we okay. Yeah, we okay. We talking about cars. 'cause I'm not paying for no maintenance for no woman. She can maintain herself.

Jay Aundrea: Okay, then that's not a do, you ain't gonna be in them

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, I'm not, no, I'm not, I'm not paying for the hairs done, nails not dating if you, my girl special occasion. Yeah. But that stuff gets expensive sometimes. Nails be cost of $200 and you [00:56:00] know what? That's,

that's, that's full, that's full. That Xbox or play or PS five games, that's

Jay Aundrea: yeah, yeah. I mean, it's just where are your priorities, like where they at, like that. If your priorities on getting them Ps, Ps, games and not paying for nails, don't date the woman who expects to get her nails

paid

for. Like, that's that's the answer.

it's not hard.

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Jay Aundrea: It's not hard.

but people make that mistake every damn day.

Bruce Anthony: But I wanted to talk about this. Because the manosphere is always blaming women. And here is a prime example. There were, there were hot, there were thousands. Yeah, I think it was thousands. Thousands of comments of women saying that was so dope that he was open and honest. Yeah baby, we could do whatever.

No, you ain't gotta order. Take out Al Cook. Vibing on the balcony sounds so dope. So for the men out there, [00:57:00] if you are effed up financially and you, you're like, you're, you don't have that. Don't have to be your woman, woman, but you're all dating,

it's okay to be honest and be real. Like, look, I ain't got it like that.

Then stretch yourself,

'cause when you stretch yourself, you just gonna be mad that you done stretched yourself for her. And really, you should be mad at yourself for not just being honest. Don't be embarrassed. Everybody Get a little effed up sometimes.

Jay Aundrea: Yeah. And if her response, and if her response is messed up. Then that ain't, then now you know,

now you know if you get on hard times, this is not a person that's gonna hold you down

Bruce Anthony: Right.

Jay Aundrea: now, you know, move on.

So it's always best to just tell the truth because then you get, at least you get the answer.

You get the answer one way or another. Either it's a person who is like, I'm not worried about that. We could, we could do something. We could go to, damn, I got a membership to the museum. We can head over there. They got a new exhibit opening, like that's free. Like you know, if you don't have some, [00:58:00] if her responding, oh you ain't got it, then you already know. You know what it is.

Bruce Anthony: and the worst thing you guys can do outside of line is not say anything and not attempt to do anything because you effed up. You like, I, I ain't got no money, so we can't go nowhere or do nothing. Nah man, there's a bunch of free things out there or low

cost things you do that you can do. Man, look, Aldi wine is good wine.

Jay Aundrea: Good wine.

Bruce Anthony: $3. Trader Joe's $3. You $3 get you $2 of wine. $6 get you some crackers, some cheese, some meats. Only you spend about $10. Find you a little park. You got music on your iPhone vibe. Look $10.

Jay Aundrea: Look, most women out here, we drinking barefoot, baby. We not out here drinking 200, $300 bottles of wine. Okay?

gotta do,

Bruce Anthony: had no $200 bottle of wine. If I

had, if I had, I wouldn't have drank it. 'cause I'd been like that's $200. We ain't

Jay Aundrea: that's $200. I be trying to figure out how much it is per sip. [00:59:00] Like, nah, man. Like that's,

Bruce Anthony: fellas be honest,

it won't hurt. It can only help. Stop avoiding, stop avoiding the truth. Just 'cause you can't handle the truth. If she ain't feeling it, then that ain't the one for you.

Okay. People in your life for a reason in the season.

Jay Aundrea: that, that's what I say.

Bruce Anthony: I know I stole that line from you, Jay. Well, Jay, I did. I stole that line.

I stole that line from you. And two things can be true at the same time. I stood that from one of my homeboys.

Like I steal those two lines. 'cause those are

Jay Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: good lines. Jay,

Jay Aundrea: Yes,

Bruce Anthony: what do you wanna tell these people out here?

Jay Aundrea: man. Human decency. I wish they sold it in stores.

'cause some of y'all are missing it and you don't even know why. You just really dislike vulnerable communities so much. That common sense things you're not [01:00:00] willing to invest in. It is the, it's the strangest thing of all time, but if anybody knows how to bottle decency, please do so immediately because we are sorely lacking in it.

Bruce Anthony: Lemme tell you that story will go outta business. Yesterday

because people just don't have it. Uh, but I have hope just

like Superman. Ah, because I'm a optimist, I guess. I don't know.

I don't, I didn't think of,

Jay Aundrea: of, of the spectrum.

'cause I

Bruce Anthony: so.

Jay Aundrea: pessimist.

Bruce Anthony: I'm a realist. That's what I am not an optimist, I'm a realist. I, but I do believe that people can be better. And I believe that one day we will hopefully, or the aliens take us over whichever one comes first. But on that note, and gentlemen, I want to thank you for listening. I want to thank you for watching, and until next time, as always, [01:01:00] I'll holler.

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